My poor DS...it must be so hard having Asperger's

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DS13 is going into 8th grade. My DD11 is going into 6th grade. He has been so excited for the school year to start, he wants my DD to have as much fun in middle school as he is having. (He has been in love with middle school since day 1)

All summer, he has been telling her what to expect, how the 6th grade wing is set up, and which teacher teaches what class. Tonight was open house for the 6th graders. We first had an assembly in the auditorium, where the Principal introduced himself and the entire 6th grade faculty. We were then invited to go to her homeroom class. Things had been changed around since my DS was in 6th grade two years ago. Even since last year. The teachers switched classroom, and there were a few teachers that were no longer there, and some new teachers.

After her homeroom teacher got done explaining how the shcool day would go, she told us we could look around, and go to the other classrooms to meet the other teachers. I noticed my son was on the verge of a meltdown. (He probably looked fime to anyone standing next to him, but I could tell he was having a problem) I asked him what was the matter? He couldn't talk, because he was going to start sobbing, he was so upset. I could not for the life of me, figure out why he would be so upset. I took him out of the room, so he would talk to me, and he just started crying and sobbing. He was finally able to tell me that everything was different. None of the rooms were the same, his favorite teacher was not in the school anymore. I explained how teaching is a job, and some teachers get other job offers to work someplace else. The classrooms being switched up was different, but I explained how it makes no difference where a classroom is located. He was still sobbing and upset, when he finally told me he hadn't seen Mrs. D all nght. Mrs. D is his special education teacher. She has been with him since 6th grade. She moves up with the kids. He was aware that two teachers he was fond of are no longer there, and he realized maybe Mrs. D might not be back either.

The poor kid. :( It took a few minutes for me to explain how she was now an 8th grade teacher, so she wouldn't be there tonight, but I assured him that she will probably be the 1st person he sees on Wednesday morning going into school. I asked him if it would help to go say hi to Mrs. N. My DD's homeroom teacher was his language arts teacher in 6th grade. He went up to her, and just started crying. I explained to her why he was so upset, and she told him that moving her classroom was upsetting and she wanted to cry, too. LOL The way she explained having to clean the classroom she was moving into before she could move her stuff in made him laugh. He finally calmed down.

But boy, I didn't see that coming at all. He was so excited to show his sister HIS 6th grade, and it was all so very different.
 
Poor kid! It must be hard for him. Aspies really hate change. Give him a hug. I hope his teacher is there at 8th grade orientation.:hug:
 
I understand.:hug::hug: I hope he'll see Mrs. D on the first day of school, right where he expects!!! Our younger dd has autism, and you never know what will upset her. She currently gets very emotional if Curious George makes a faux pas!! On the other hand, she's oblivious to other things, so it's a mixed blessing.
 

:hug: from another mom with an Aspie son.

It sounds like Mrs. N is a gem. She handled the situation just right!:thumbsup2

TC:cool1:
 
Poor guy! I am a "retired" autistic support teacher, and truly loved my job while I was there.
Hopefully he gets to see his teacher!
 
:hug: from another mom with an Aspie son.

It sounds like Mrs. N is a gem. She handled the situation just right!:thumbsup2

TC:cool1:

:thumbsup2

It reminds me of a conversation a few years back...one from an Aspie very very close to my heart, whose gist was
.....Its not easy being me, everything is work, trying to remember to force myself to say hello and make eye contact. None of that just comes to me, I have to work at it...its not normal to me!.
It breaks my heart to recall that conversation, part of a larger one about fitting in and having others accept and sometimes, even embrace differences!!
Some teachers are truly "gems", unfortunately many are not equipped or trained to help these very precious children and their needs!
To all those special teachers who "get it" , THANK YOU from the very bottom of my heart, for everything you do! You ARE appreciated! :grouphug:
 
Poor kid! It must be hard for him. Aspies really hate change. Give him a hug. I hope his teacher is there at 8th grade orientation.:hug:

There is no 8thgrade orientation here. I printed out his schedule last night, and she is on it, so she will definitely be there when he walks in tomorrow!
 
My son's an Aspie too. :lovestruc I could've written this post almost word for word. What a great brother!
 
I can tell you I no longer teach at the moment, but LOVE consistency and even I have a hard time when things are different in my kids' schools! ;)
I have taught Asperger's kids, so I can truly understand where your DS is coming from! It sounds like he has a wonderful teacher!
I wish him a great new school year~
 
Aspie mom here, too. Nothing in your post was surprising....he sounds like a sweet brother. When my son was little, the refrigerator died and we got a new one. Son cried when the old fridge was taken away.

He's now two weeks into his college career...talking about EVERYTHING in his life changing....
 
Poor guy. I understand. My younger daughter is just starting second grade. She doesn't have Asperger's but is autistic. Last spring we visited the Early Childhood teacher she had back when she was three. She wasn't even verbal when she was in that classroom but the first thing she did when we went back to visit was scope out the layout of the room and all the toys. She found a book that her teacher used to read to the class and sat on the floor and read it with the same inflection her teacher used to use. Our kids have amazing memories and they absorb so much of their environment. If that room had been different she probably would have felt the same loss and frustration the OP's son felt.
 
Poor guy. I so appreciate these posts. I don't have a child with Asperger's but my 15 year old has a friend with it. They've been friends since 3rd grade. He had a hard time switching over to High school - but I never knew that change was so difficult. It makes sense though. All these posts help me in a little way to understand him better.
Funny thing is that my son doesn't feel the need to "understand" him- they are friends. That's all he needs to know.
 
I totally understand, OP. :hug:

My DD, age 10 (4th grade) has Aspie tendencies as her counselor puts it. She doesn't fit into any category neatly but has many Aspie traits. Her first day of school is today and this is the first year ever that she's not excited and is actually anxious about going back to school. :( She just keeps saying "it's different for someone who's sensitive'. I've got my fingers crossed that she has a meltdown-free day!

Poor guy. I so appreciate these posts. I don't have a child with Asperger's but my 15 year old has a friend with it. They've been friends since 3rd grade. He had a hard time switching over to High school - but I never knew that change was so difficult. It makes sense though. All these posts help me in a little way to understand him better.
Funny thing is that my son doesn't feel the need to "understand" him- they are friends. That's all he needs to know.

Your post is so great to read. I hope and pray my DD can have a friend like your son someday. :goodvibes
 
Funny thing is that my son doesn't feel the need to "understand" him- they are friends. That's all he needs to know.

Give your son a hug from me - my DS16 is newly diagnosed and he has a small group of friends who feel the same way. These kids are a blessing, as I am sure yours is!
 
My daughter (9) has aspbergers and my son (8) has autism. So totally know where you are coming from. The least little thing can through them off so easliy. Yesterday I had to ride on the bus with my son who was absoultely refusing to go to school and had to pry him off the bus. Needless to say he spent the morning in the principal's office because he wanted to go home and was having a major meltdown. I knew that if I went and picked him up this would be a daily occurance as since last Fall he has had a sudden oversion to school. Fianally at noon he told them he was ready to join his class and do his work. He is even seeing a counselor to try and figure out what he suddenly does not like about school.

Personally I think that it is that more is expected out of him but I can not get anyone else to agree with me on this.
 
Poor kid. That must have been so hard for him. I teach sped and whenever we have a change (like a sub) things tend to get crazy.
 





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