I was raised on the mouse, took my DH for his first time just before we were married, and we stayed at Port Orleans French Quarter. We had an awesome time and, because of his love of the mouse, we moved on w/ the wedding.

For our 5th anniversary, we stayed at the Floridian in one of their turret rooms (talk about romance

) and had the best vacation of our lives. We went during a slower time, w/ less strollers and people, we ate at V&A's and watched the light parade go by each evening on the beach before going to Pleasure Island to watch the comedy club or hang w/ the CM's at the Adventurer's Club. We spent very little time on the rides. Now we did request the turret room facing the castle, but didn't get one of those, and instead stayed on the other side overlooking the wedding pavilion/monorail station. Yes, I was a bit disappointed since I had planned this over a year in advance, but I got over it really quickly. I also didn't get the Chef's Table at V&A's, but the regular table suited us just fine.
Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is the magic is everywhere, but you soak it in, rather than it hitting you upside the head. This last trip, I saw fireworks every night from my balcony and we were 1 of 3 families at the pool each day. Nice. A trip before that, we thought the Biergarten was the magical place to be and went their twice, but this last time, we found pure magic at Alfredo's in Italy. So it's different each time. And we try to be flexible w/ our plans. Our last night in WDW, we went there, ordered our favorite bottle of sparkling wine, and dined w/ Italian music in the background, 2 children asleep in the stroller (perfection), and enjoyed the company of the best waitstaff around. When we exited, we were immediately entertained by Illuminations, and strolled slowly home to the Beach Club, savoring every moment. That's what happens at WDW, the magic just envelops you and the pixie dust literally starts flying.
I did have one bad experience, many years ago at the Contemporary Hotel. I planned a dinner at the CG during the MK fireworks of course in order to show my in-laws how delectable their BBQ Filets were. We were to go to Mickey's Very Merry Christmas Party at the MK later. While having drinks, the entire place became smoky and they evacuated all guests onto the roof terrace. 2 or 3 hours went by and all but 2 families had left the restaurant. I wanted that dinner and so we stayed, eating bread and drinking wine. We sat down to dinner (all 8 of us) even though we were late for our party. We had the marvelous steaks and they were worth the wait. We were all smiling and happy and ready for our bill when the server told us that it was on the house. Woo hoo! Our "bad" experience was one of our favorite memories because we chatted it up w/ all of the staff and felt like members of the family. We made many friends that evening and so enjoyed being part of the behind the scenes experience. They really turned our frowns upside down. Then the awesome dinner... and then the no charge.... Wow. What a night!
I am so so sorry you had a bad experience. My best friend and her DH went before kids and had a "ehhh" experience as well, and I scratch my head thinking, "How can that be?!" Maybe she needed more time, maybe she needed more planning, maybe she hung out in the parks and did the rides too much rather than enjoy the dinners or pools. Who knows. Maybe it's just not for her. Like it isn't for you. And that is o.k. That's what makes the world go round... and honestly, if everyone loved it so much, there'd be no room even during the slower seasons.

So, I'm glad it's not everyone's cup of tea. I hope for your 1st or 5th anniversary, you can go to the islands and whoop it up as if it was your honeymoon. Best of luck to you. Thanks for sharing your experience w/ us.