my life changed today

[midwestmom]

My husband and two children 26 &20 have been Disney fanatics since my oldest was 5. Today I had to file for divorce as my last 10 months of trying to salvage my marriage came to a head. My husband who I thought was perfect cheated on me 10 months ago and has been still cheating as I have been the only one trying to fix what was broken. Did not see it coming, kids, family and friends didn't see it coming. We were a very close couple and tight knit Disney family. I want to still love Disney with my kids and hopefully grandkids someday so I am hoping he has not ruined this for me.
Midwest Mom

 

[Regina]

This must be devastating. I hope that you're able to get through the difficult times that lie ahead.

 

[mommasita]

to you in this difficult time. You WILL make it.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I am so sorry you are going through this..please know we are here if you need to talk..

 

[Christine]

I'm sorry to hear this. What an unexpected and devastating blow. Please feel free to come here whenever you need to (although sometimes there's not a lot of "traffic" here!).

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Prayers and blessings to you during this most difficult time.

 

[miss missy]

So sorry I don't know how to advise about getting through a divorce... but I can tell you that my DH never liked Disney and I have gone with my DD on mother daughter trips for 5 years now. It is something special we share and such great times. I have faith your kids and gkids will be ok with trips too. In time you'll see. Its a new set memories you will make with them.

and be sure to take care of you!

 

[frdeb1999]

So sorry. What a hard thing to go through. But you will make it.

 

[midwestmom]

To everyone who took the time to stop and write me back with your words of encouragement. I am so grateful for my two wonderful children and family and friends. It was so nice to read. Thank you again Disney friends. We are DVC members and one thing I am grateful for is I had my soon to be ex sign over the timeshare to our two children. When we purchased it 6 years ago it was with the understanding that the kids would get it. New memories can be made with them in time and I just take it one day at a time.

Midwest Mom

 

[ilovemickeymost]

The main advice I can give (& yes I've been through divorce) is to use your DVC shares & stay @ resorts you didn't w/ ex. And if you've never been to the spa or tea do those things. Resturaunts you haven't been too, etc. That way new memories will be happening right from the beginning. This is brand new & very raw for you. Once you feel ready to head back to WDW, I'd plan a girlfriends trip w/ your very closest few. That way when you have a melt down they will be there to pick you up. I think doing a "family" trip as your next one w/out the ex would just be too hard & bring back too many memories. You will get through this & it hurts a little less each year. Just be patient w/ yourself. Give yourself time to heal. And know that your Dis family is always here.

 

[chaoscent]

The good news is that the worst day is over. You will have heard times ahead, but you will come out of them and be happier. I know today that is hard to believe, but you will get there. My first DH walked out 21 years ago, the year I turned 40. The next year I met my best friend and current husband. The first holidays were the worst and the first time I did something we used to do without him hurt like crazy. But I have made new memories and I new life and I am the better for it. Cyber hugs and good wishes to get you through the next agonizing year. "this too shall pass", "tomorrow is another day" and "it can't get much worse" were my mantras during that time. it passed, tomorrow came and it only got better. I am blessed and very happy now. Penny