My kids took the "Magic" out of the MK and all the other parks, too!

[bytheblood]

In the event that comment on the last page was directed at me....I will respond....

Hitting your child and spanking your child are two TOTALLY different concepts. Spanking your child for misbehaving after fair warning is not the same as getting annoyed and striking your child's arm, popping them on the head, hitting or shoving them from the back, or whatever.

I have a very good daughter and she rarely receives a spanking, but when she does, I have her go to her room and think about why for about 10 minutes. I go to her room, she gets her spanking and I bee-line out of there so that she does not see me cry. After about 15 minutes, I go to her room, we talk about it, we hug and we walk out as best buddies like we always are. I am not the perfect mom, but I don't spank my child in anger. I have gotten annoyed with her and popped her hiney for smarting off, but I don't take my anger out on her. If she makes me that mad, I make her go to her room or I walk away - whichever is most convenient at the moment.

 

[Toni300z]

In the event that comment on the last page was directed at me....I will respond....

Hitting your child and spanking your child are two TOTALLY different concepts. Spanking your child for misbehaving after fair warning is not the same as getting annoyed and striking your child's arm, popping them on the head, hitting or shoving them from the back, or whatever.

I have a very good daughter and she rarely receives a spanking, but when she does, I have her go to her room and think about why for about 10 minutes. I go to her room, she gets her spanking and I bee-line out of there so that she does not see me cry. After about 15 minutes, I go to her room, we talk about it, we hug and we walk out as best buddies like we always are. I am not the perfect mom, but I don't spank my child in anger. I have gotten annoyed with her and popped her hiney for smarting off, but I don't take my anger out on her. If she makes me that mad, I make her go to her room or I walk away - whichever is most convenient at the moment.

Great explanation.
Aww, you cry? I feel bad sometimes too after I have to pop them as well. Never cry tho. My twins push me to that level. That laugh ang giggle about it when they get in trouble. DOUNLE TROUBLE is their name.

I am so glad you don't spank in anger. My dad used to beat me in anger with a BELT! AND I hated it!

 

[bytheblood]

Great explanation.
Aww, you cry? I feel bad sometimes too after I have to pop them as well. Never cry tho. My twins push me to that level. That laugh ang giggle about it when they get in trouble. DOUNLE TROUBLE is their name.

I am so glad you don't spank in anger. My dad used to beat me in anger with a BELT! AND I hated it!

I am sorry that you had to go through that. It is a horrible thing. I cannot imagine what the memories do to you, but I know it was a terrible time for you. I am hugging you!

My dad also spanked his boys in anger. He was different with us girls. I used to cry every single time one of my brothers got into trouble. I knew it was not good. Maybe that is why I am the way I am with my baby.

Yes, I do cry. The most recent time was when my daughter got into trouble for lying at daycare about a teacher being mean to her. I spanked her for lying and trying to get the teacher into trouble. It was so hard. I think it only took me 2 steps to get out of her room. I could not go fast enough. I hate being the cause of anybody's pain, but especially my precious gift!!

 

[Toni300z]

I am sorry that you had to go through that. It is a horrible thing. I cannot imagine what the memories do to you, but I know it was a terrible time for you. I am hugging you!

My dad also spanked his boys in anger. He was different with us girls. I used to cry every single time one of my brothers got into trouble. I knew it was not good. Maybe that is why I am the way I am with my baby.

Yes, I do cry. The most recent time was when my daughter got into trouble for lying at daycare about a teacher being mean to her. I spanked her for lying and trying to get the teacher into trouble. It was so hard. I think it only took me 2 steps to get out of her room. I could not go fast enough. I hate being the cause of anybody's pain, but especially my precious gift!!

Aww, your making me sad over here about having to spank your precious gift. I can understand though. Sometimes, it needs to be done.

Oh yeah, the memories are horrible. he was really rough on me for a girl. My dad raised me though (CUSTODY) so I had no choice. That's why my mom left because of his hitting problems to her. But I guess I have turned into a nice human being and a loving mother. No belts ever towards my babies tho.

Now they are too big for spankings. My 8 year olds move too much and my 11 year old is almost as tall as me. And weights 110 pounds. I take away their TV's in their room, their playstations, and NO SNACKS. Haha. It actually works too!

Best of luck to you! Thanks for the HUG too! Back at you.

 

[bytheblood]

Now they are too big for spankings. My 8 year olds move too much ..........

HAHAHA! My daughter is 8, today. She wants me to tell her the truth about santa now that she is 8. I will if she asks again.

She does not wiggle too much, but she starts crying before the spanking ever starts. That makes it hard, too.

We also take away TV, DVDs, Gameboy and such and it works. There are certain things that groundings don't cover. Lying to get back at a teacher that you don't care for is one of them.

 

[Toni300z]

HAHAHA! My daughter is 8, today. She wants me to tell her the truth about santa now that she is 8. I will if she asks again.

She does not wiggle too much, but she starts crying before the spanking ever starts. That makes it hard, too.

We also take away TV, DVDs, Gameboy and such and it works. There are certain things that groundings don't cover. Lying to get back at a teacher that you don't care for is one of them.

Lol, that is funny you mentioned that. Because I swear a week after they truend 8, right before Christmas. They told me, MOM, we already know Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy and all the other stuff is YOU! We want you to admit it. They are good. Cause they always catch me : (
They grow up wayyyyyyyyyyy to fast!

Happy Birthday to your babygirl.

And yes, lying about a teacher being mean is really serious and involved someones life and money so I can truly understand your disciplinary actions!

 

[disneylizzy]

I just had to jump in on this thread. We went in August - me, and DS's 20, 15, 12. They know how much Disney means to me, believe me. I guess they were just being their usual clowning around, roughhousing selves, but one day on Soarin' after the 12 year old said something fresh to the CM at the entrance to impress his brothers, I sat on that ride and cried. DS12 was so taken aback that he was good the rest of the vacation. DS15 after being told umpteen million times that he could NOT steal the 3D glasses at Philharmagic, stole them (and I checked his pockets!) and wore them for the picture on Splash Mt. Well, the CM grabbed him at the end and said that Mickey called and wanted his glasses back. The picture was "washed away". That's the other thing - every ride with pictures they acted completely foolish. Fingers in noses, goofy faces - like that was the whole point of the ride for them. I guess they may be getting too old for WDW.
We may actually have to go to Universal for the next trip.
It wasn't all bad, but it wasn't completely magical either. I kept thinking how lucky those people are that can go solo. Then I felt for thinking that when I was with my boys who I love more than life.

 

[Lesley]

bytheblood, I assumed I was laughing with you and that you were being sarcastic....

oh well, there are some issues that will probably never be agreed upon...gotta laugh, or end up crying....

 

[suevee]

Quote from Toni (haven't learned the shading bit)

"HELLO Fellow Maryland' ER!
I totally agree! It's so much fun without the kids sometimes tho.
Les Money! NO "I wants" every 10 minutes!

Yes, that is what I have done the last 3 times I went. They were beggin to go. LOL! I said no, you have to show mommy that you are serious about getting along and respecting each other. You will have to earn the trip. I need to see it over a long period opposed to just a month, like they want!

Hope you had fun!"

YES!!! We did have fun. And went more than once. Now it is much harder to go alone when grandchildren are around though How do you say to a 10 and 4 year old "Grammy and Poppy are going to Disney World and not taking you?" Can't be done.....though we are planning to try in Feb 07. March and June 2006 are already planned around grandkids.

We are practically neighbors! Just a hop away and you find Columbia! Small world isn't it?

 

[bigmac5]

Quote from Toni (haven't learned the shading bit)

suevee to quote someone, just click on "quote" on the bottom right corner of the box you want to quote.

 

[Mulan'sMom]

We just got back from a lovely week at WDW - stayed at the Grand Floridian, ate on the Dining Plan, paced ourselves so DD5 wouldn't tucker out too quickly, hit almost every character meal possible, went on all of the little kid attractions. DD was fine most of the time, except for a tantrum outside of the Grand Floridian Cafe on arrival day. Diners got a floor show with their lunch as DD stomped around screaming and crying because we wouldn't let her push her stroller, then got her rear-end tanned for her trouble. I was surprised at the amount of begging that went on - she started asking for toys, pins and "jewelry" before we even hit the park in the morning, and kept it up until we would finally submit. We had worked out a system where she was entitled to one pin and one souvenir of her choice per day. We would ususally get them for her right as we entered the park. Then it was on to negotiations over her snack - even though we had just eaten a breakfast that would make a sumo wrestler blush. Yikes!

 

[Toni300z]

Quote from Toni (haven't learned the shading bit)

"HELLO Fellow Maryland' ER!
I totally agree! It's so much fun without the kids sometimes tho.
Les Money! NO "I wants" every 10 minutes!

Yes, that is what I have done the last 3 times I went. They were beggin to go. LOL! I said no, you have to show mommy that you are serious about getting along and respecting each other. You will have to earn the trip. I need to see it over a long period opposed to just a month, like they want!

Hope you had fun!"

YES!!! We did have fun. And went more than once. Now it is much harder to go alone when grandchildren are around though How do you say to a 10 and 4 year old "Grammy and Poppy are going to Disney World and not taking you?" Can't be done.....though we are planning to try in Feb 07. March and June 2006 are already planned around grandkids.

We are practically neighbors! Just a hop away and you find Columbia! Small world isn't it?

LOL! Wow, 2 trips . Lucky you! Have fun!

Wow, it really is a small world!
I work in Columbia, and I am always in Columbia Mall, spending money that I shouldn't be.

 

[michboro]

This sounds like my kids. I have 2 boys 1 1/2 years apart (6 and 7 1/2 years old) and they are constantly fighting over every stupid little thing. We are going to Disney World in 2 weeks and I hope things aren't that bad.

 

[maryliz]

Just got home tonight from 12 nights at WDW. Around night 3, I was in tears in my hotel room telling my DS5 that I wished I had left him at home ... I'd been thinking it for a few hours and finally just lost it and blurted it out. And then I cried even harder as I was trying to explain to him that sometimes his behaviour turns me into a Mommy that I really don't like very much because THAT Mommy yells things like that, and this was one of those times. I truly wanted to pack up and come home. Instead, I locked myself in the bathroom to cry some more while DH put him to bed. Nice to read this thread and know that I am not alone.

to all that have had those "moments" with their kids. Despite the sometimes totally rotten behaviour from my DS5, and the constant fighting over stupid things between him and DD8, I still was able to truthfully thank them both tonight as I tucked them in, for a great vacation.

DH and I are going for a quick 3 night trip in December. Will I spend the entire time wishing the kids were with us ??? ... Probably !

MaryLiz

 

[vatmark]

Just got back yesterday from our trip and it was great. I would have to give the kids a "A" for their behavior. They had their moments but for the most part they were very well behaved. I thought for sure the fighting and psuhing each others buttons would go on all the time like at home but it didn't.

I read the OP's post to them before we left and told them that this persons kids made their mommy cry because of how they acted at Disney. I warned them ahead of time that they would sit in the room with me if any nonsense started. We also reminded them that there was a baysitting service that we could leave them with if they didn't behave and that mommy and daddy would go out on their own.

They had their moments of crankiness but nothing too bad.

Annie