My husband says I should...my parents say I should.....what do you think??

[Toby'sFriend]

I agree with everybody else. If you can get by financially, then get out of there. No matter whose fault it is, you are obviously miserable. That is no way to spend the majority of your life.

Things have a way of working out. Keep trying and you'll find the job that makes you happy.

 

[tar heel]

You provided more info., and now I say QUIT. The advice to do pro bono work is good, though. Keep yourself busy and productive, so you have no regrets -- just relief.

 

[crazelion]

Quit the damn job. It not worth it. You will be much happier for it. I know the I quit the job from hell and was glad I did. Have faith you will found another job. Don't let the econcomy scare you away either. Just quit it not worth. You will found a good job if keep looking.

Good luck

 

[Tiggeroo]

Just out of curiousity, Is this treatment only given to women? It almost sounds like that. Do the men get the preferred jobs and the women wipe tables, answer phones, take the early morning cases, make coffee, etc?

 

[sharbear]

Ally, I think that you work in the firm that I used to work in. It was unbelievable, the partner was a moron and a control freak. It was my first job out of school and I was so misrable. I went to school to a legal assistant, they wanted me to be the secretary. Then they were mad that I couldn't type, well duh, I didn't go to school to be a secretary. I actually got fired because the partner told me he didn't want to be interupted for any reason. Then someone important came in, and me I didn't know who he was and told him the partner wasn't available. He fired me for that!!!

What I found out was that I didn't really want to work for lawyers. Maybe I should have found a different position.

In our paper there are always ads for Lawyers in Legal Aid. They don't make a lot of money but hey it would be a better job and you could look for something better. I agree that it is easier to find another job while you still have one. Another thing you could do, maybe can you hire a firm to help you find a job. Do you have any associates from the last job who have moved on, maybe they have some pointers on a new job. Something isn't working for you, see if you can hire someone who could critic what you are doing and see if they could help you make changes.

Maybe being a little more forceful in the job you have would help. Definetely tell the office staff that you will no longer answer the phone. Tell the person who is doing the scheduling that you will no longer file summons for them. If they fire you because of it, how much worse would that be than what is going on now.

If you want my honest opinion, I think that you are letting this firm push you around. Try standing up to them. I know that they might yell at you, but so what, yell back. Don't do their jobs for them. Easier for me to type that to actually do.

P.S. Sorry for the spelling errors, I am in a hurry.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

Life is way too short and your health is too precious. Follow your heart. It's time to leave. God will provide.
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Dawn

 

[doxdogy]

Quit. If it is causing you this much emotional stress, then leave. The job that closed the office and laid 300 people off, did this to me. I was miserable. But, the salary was good and we couldn't afford for me to quit. My DH and DD both said that my change in attitude was amazing when I lost that job. Now, I have a job that a love, the pay is half of what I made at the previous job. But, my bosses appreciate me and treat me like a human being.

 

[luv2nascar]

I'm not trying to tell you to stay if you really want to quit but there is such a thing as out of the frying pan and into the fire
Most jobs require to take some crap in one form or another
Most jobs are not perfect and I think the legal profession would be especially in the crappy catagory
I think most male lawyers are old school, men's room, etc.
Depending on your area you may find this at most of the firms
This isn't your typically 9-5 job they usually are very demanding
Maybe its the profession and not the office

 

[Miss Jasmine]

It's the office and not the profession. I have heard some terrible things at law firms, but really this is even beyond that.

Please take care of yourself. It sounds like a horrid place to work. Quit and don't look back.

 

[SandraM]

Wow, what a place!
I wonder what sort of advice a client being bullied by his/her employers gets?
If there is a financial reason for not leaving, I could understand that; if not, you could well enjoy the experience of doing pro bono work.
Perhaps you could also consider doing a course of some description that would help hone your business skills, and give you a little extra self-assurance for when you start in a new job, for example I did a Dale Carnegie course last year, and I know there are loads of that type of course, which, while not specific, will give you an alternative way of looking/dealing with things.
Good luck to you, and let us know how you get on.

 

[Kallison]

Oh my goodness -- QUIT. First of all, when you said you weren't coming in, you should of said I'll be in on this date per doctor's order. If they said come in on Friday or sooner, just say NO. So what if you get fired, you can collect unemployment. I had a horrible job in my 20's. People will take advantage of you if you let them. If you are having seizures because of your job, you need to get OUT. I bet once you are out you will find another position quicker than you think.

 

[kapica3]

I began to read this thread and just couldn't pass it up without a adding my two cents.

You need to leave. Your life depends on it. Your health is in jeopardy. Without your health nothing else is important- least of all loans etc. You have your husbands job to fall back on. I say as long as you have $ for groceries, there is NO REASON to stay in a position which is compromising your health. I believe you said you were planning to start a family in a short while. One more reason to not be in such a stressful position. Not only is it bad for your mental health, (I'm no expert, but in my mind this job equals an abusive relationship) it is putting stress on your physical wellbeing. Who knows how much of this daily stress is doing irriversable damage to your body. Run, don't walk to the nearest exit. Be good to yourself and your family-they need you., you DO NOT deserve to be treated this way. You deserve better. Hand in your resignation today. Don't wait. These people do not deserve you. It is a bad place. This job is not the right place for you. You are not supposed to be there.