My hearts gone out of the planning for this trip

[peanut1967]

We are foster carers. At the moment we have two FC living with us a 10 year old and a 15 month old. We were supposed to be taking the 2 of them with us on our upcoming trip.

We have just found out that the 15 month old may be going back to his mum for 'another chance' this will be her 3rd chance. Its breaking my heart, he has attached to us so much and we wont even be able to explain to him that we wont be there anymore.

People have often asked me how do you give these children back, well upto now we never have, this is our 2nd year and we have only ever had 2 FC. I cant tell you how sad I feel. We bought sing a longs so that the little one would get used to seeing tthe characters and now...well looks like he wont be coming. We knew he would move on, be we were hoping for adoption for him.

Sorry for the downer but its just so sad, hes such a sweet adorable loving child and he deserves so much more.

A

 

[eeyorethegreat]

I am sorry you are having to prepare for the departure of your Foster Child. It takes a very special kind of person to be able to foster knowing all that is involved in it. Just remember you have given you FC a very special gift in the time that you have had him- love.

 

[exwdwcm]

oh hugs- that must be so difficult. btw- i think foster parents are awesome- so a huge round of applause for you--- nothing like someone willing to provide tons of love and support for a needy child. I'll pray somehow things turn around and at the very least that this child is cared for properly somehow in the end.

 

[party-of-five]

Hugs and prayers go out to all of you. You're a very courageous and wonderful person to open your home. I hope and pray that all works out for the best.

 

[dpuck1998]

Words can't help the way you are feeling. All I can say is I wish you the best and will say a prayer.

 

[ADP]

I'm so sorry about what's happening. You will be in our thoughts.

 

[peanut1967]

thankyou so much for your kind words, and yes please pray and send positive thoughts our way, I have a mixture of anger and sadness, its ok giving mum another chance but she has already proved 3xs she cant take care of him, its now time for our FS to find a wonderful family who will love him and adore him as we do

I will keep peeps updated on how things go. I so wanted to give him Mickey Mouse and the Disney Holiday, I know he wouldnt remember it but he would have had an amazing time while there.


thanks guys
Angie

 

[dpuck1998]

thankyou so much for your kind words, and yes please pray and send positive thoughts our way, I have a mixture of anger and sadness, its ok giving mum another chance but she has already proved 3xs she cant take care of him, its now time for our FS to find a wonderful family who will love him and adore him as we do

I will keep peeps updated on how things go. I so wanted to give him Mickey Mouse and the Disney Holiday, I know he wouldnt remember it but he would have had an amazing time while there.


thanks guys
Angie

Any chance she would let you take him on the trip anyway? Even if he isn't living with you?

 

[elemusing]

I'm so sorry. My nephew and his wife have two foster children that they are currently working toward adopting. Plus I am adopted myself. You are a special person and I am praying for you and you family.

 

[katscradle]

I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I think that you are right 3 chances already does not leave a positive thought in my mind that things will be different for the little guy this time around.
Is there a way that you can request that if it doesn't work out this time around that he comes back to you immediately.
Please keep us posted.

 

[kafitty]

i think you have already given him so much by giving him your heart & home.

 

[DSNY4ever]

Wow, that is so wonderful that you have opened up your home and your hearts to fostering these children. I am sorry the little one won't be able to go on your trip, but like the others have said- you have given him a wonderful gift of a happy healthy home, even if it was only temporary. Hugs to you and your family .

 

[Halloweenqueen]

I'm so sorry.

We adopted three kids, one who was in foster care and two who were in orphanages (foreign adoptions). It is obvious how much good came from my daughter's foster care parents. She truly blossomed in their care. We are forever in their debit.

Your good work and love will forever be reflected in your little man's life.

 

[miss missy]

Having a 19 mos GD that we have every weekend, I feel your pain. Just in our time she is sooo attached to us. I can't imagine what you have ot go through. BUT that said, you never know what the future holds. Keep the thought that things will turn out for the best, whatever that is, in the long run. God works wonders and usually takes us down paths we never saw coming Keep that hope

 

[yitbos96bb]

We are foster carers. At the moment we have two FC living with us a 10 year old and a 15 month old. We were supposed to be taking the 2 of them with us on our upcoming trip.

We have just found out that the 15 month old may be going back to his mum for 'another chance' this will be her 3rd chance. Its breaking my heart, he has attached to us so much and we wont even be able to explain to him that we wont be there anymore.

People have often asked me how do you give these children back, well upto now we never have, this is our 2nd year and we have only ever had 2 FC. I cant tell you how sad I feel. We bought sing a longs so that the little one would get used to seeing tthe characters and now...well looks like he wont be coming. We knew he would move on, be we were hoping for adoption for him.

Sorry for the downer but its just so sad, hes such a sweet adorable loving child and he deserves so much more.

A

What a great thing you do... and so heart breaking. That's a tough one. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[peanut1967]

I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I think that you are right 3 chances already does not leave a positive thought in my mind that things will be different for the little guy this time around.
Is there a way that you can request that if it doesn't work out this time around that he comes back to you immediately.
Please keep us posted.

I talked to his social worker yesterday and Yes he can come back to us, but, possibly, he could be more damaged than last time and may not trust us ...after all in his eyes we just left him.
But he will be back with us and we will give him all he needs to get back to that little boy that left us.
Angie

 

[MomlvsGoofy]

So sorry that you have to go through this Angie. I had the same experience with my GS after 4 or 5 times of his mother getting him back and it not working out I have him permanatly. It hurts so much to let them keep going through this. My heart breaks for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you will have him back sooner then later.


Sharon

 

[peanut1967]

Thanks everyone for your kind words. We shall have to see how it all gos. Its hard when we have this black cloud hanging over us but we are going to enjoy him while we can. Keep the prays coming.

thankyou

Angie

 

[katscradle]

I talked to his social worker yesterday and Yes he can come back to us, but, possibly, he could be more damaged than last time and may not trust us ...after all in his eyes we just left him.
But he will be back with us and we will give him all he needs to get back to that little boy that left us.
Angie

Then take heart in knowing that you are doing all you can for him.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and him.