My heart is broken mini update post 243

[tinkerbell615]

So very sorry for your loss. May God bless you, your family and loved one through this very difficult time. You are in my prayers.

 

[amberg@eastlink.ca]

i too am so sorry to hear of your loss. a friend of mine burried his 5 year old yesterday. there are no words. i myself had a miscarriage this year, it does get easier over time....grief counselling helped a lot. keep tight to those precious years and memories you do have of your wonderful son.

 

[Crazy4Disney72]

I'm so sorry for your incredible loss....I can't even imagine the pain you are in. I pray that God is with you for comfort and strength to get through this.

 

[Disneyland1084]

It never goes away? I can't imagine "living" like this .....

My son was so awesome! He will never see his daughter.... We have to decide to put him the ground, or cremate him, his beautiful strong body..... I am so .....empty

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Shmily1]

I am so sorry for your loss. This year will be 19 years since my brother that I had raised died in an auto accident a couple months before he graduated from high school. I still miss him, but the crying does slow down and is sometimes replaced with thoughts of "I wish I could tell him about this" or "I wish he was here to see this". Don't try to make yourself get over it too soon and give yourself time to grieve.

We had a burial for my DB because I had to have somewhere to say goodbye or see you later. His senior picture that he never got to see is on my mantel. I was pregnant with DD18 when he died. He had always wanted a little girl named Spencer so that's her middle name and she looks like him. I can see him in her facial expressions often and she knows what I'm doing when I start to smile while talking to her. I'm reminded of him. You will have days when you are crying and days when you can look back at the funny stuff he did and laugh. Just try to remember everything.

 

[tigercat]

Reading this has been hard. I lost my son 30 years ago and yes it does get better however you never forget. It is times like this that brings back the memories. It does get better on a day to day basis but it will take time. I agree with the post that said to take care of yourself. Also, allowing yourself to grieve is important. I wasn't allowed to grieve and it ended up taking a lot longer. A counselor can help. My thoughts are with you and your family. I am sorry.
tigercat

 

[SeaSpray]

How awful, I cannot even imagine. I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Vallie]

this thread just breaks my heart. i am so so so sorry for your loss and i hope one day you will find peace. i think your sons baby on the way will be such a blessing and you will have a piece of him to hold. i am praying for you, your family, and your sons girlfriend.

 

[mamajoan]

I am so very sorry for you and your family that you have had to experience this terrible loss of your son.
May God keep you close.

 

[Maryr1]

I am so very sorry.......you and your family will be in my prayers. It hurts so much because you loved so much.......

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I am so very sorry.......you and your family will be in my prayers. It hurts so much because you loved so much.......

This reminds me of something that was said at my uncles funeral
(Can't remember verbatim) but...

You aren't crying for him...
You are crying for you.

You are crying because of the love you have for them and how much they will be missed.

For some reason, that stuck with me.... and oddly, made me feel a little better. My heart is heavy for you tonight....

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I am so sorry for your loss

My son just passed away in May. He had turned 19 only a week before he passed.

Feel Free to PM me..

You may want to look into Compassionate Friends when you're ready, I did and it helps. They have online chat rooms and Monthly meetings at a location near you.

Take it slow and Take one step at a time

and prayers for peace for you as well. I'm glad to see Tag Fairy was able to accomodate your wish after your son's passing.

 

[5 for WDW]

I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

 

[gladstoneganderfan]

I am so sorry for your loss. Many sympathies for you & your family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Seahunt]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. ~Author Unknown

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[lila]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[momtoallie]

I'm so sorry.

 

[DLR29]

I cannot say in words how devastated and sorry I feel for you and your family. I'm sure he was a fine young man and touched many people. Thoughts and lots of prayers for all of the friends and family who are grieving.

 

[MoniqueU]

I just endured the 13th anniversary of my son spencers death yesterday. I have 3 other kids and am married. My heart is still broken beyond repair. I got through almost all of these years putting my kids number one before myself. Not really dealing with the grief but just getting on day to day. My husband dealt with it somehow but I have just never been able to. It finally all came to a huge ugly head for me on Thursday night. I could no longer put the wellbeing of my children or husband above my own pain. I am sure this will finally make me have to face and work through the pain.

I urge you to seek family, spousal and individual grief counseling. I am NOT the talk it out kind of person and have gone on and off for years and it had no real impact on anything. Because of what I just put my kids and husband through I am going to give it a decent shot again. The most I can wish you or anyone else in this situation is peace. I think that is all there is to hope for the pain will always be there you just have to make peace with it somehow.