My friend really hurt my feelings.

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He asked what I was doing for NYE. I said if dd's dad gets her we can go out if you want to.
Him: no

Me: You have plans?

Him: NO I just don't want anyone to think you are my gf

Me: Well if you find a girl you like you can explain it to her and I will back you up.

Him: It's not about that. I just don't want anyone to think we are dating as I only date young, hot girls.

I know I'm not the youngest, hottest chick on the block (that ship sailed many years ago) and in his defense he is 30 and I am 44, but what am I? Frankenstein's monster? And he wonders why he is single?
 
He asked what I was doing for NYE. I said if dd's dad gets her we can go out if you want to.
Him: no

Me: You have plans?

Him: NO I just don't want anyone to think you are my gf

Me: Well if you find a girl you like you can explain it to her and I will back you up.

Him: It's not about that. I just don't want anyone to think we are dating as I only date young, hot girls.

I know I'm not the youngest, hottest chick on the block (that ship sailed many years ago) and in his defense he is 30 and I am 44, but what am I? Frankenstein's monster? And he wonders why he is single?



You should go out, have a wonderful time, make sure to call him while he is home alone, and say hi. I guys boys can be dumb at any age
 
He asked what I was doing for NYE. I said if dd's dad gets her we can go out if you want to.
Him: no

Me: You have plans?

Him: NO I just don't want anyone to think you are my gf

Me: Well if you find a girl you like you can explain it to her and I will back you up.

Him: It's not about that. I just don't want anyone to think we are dating as I only date young, hot girls.

I know I'm not the youngest, hottest chick on the block (that ship sailed many years ago) and in his defense he is 30 and I am 44, but what am I? Frankenstein's monster? And he wonders why he is single?

Your friend sounds like a jerk.

I'm not sure I would remain his friend if he is concerned that people would:

1) get the wrong impression that we were dating

AND

2) he would be creeped out that his cool factor will go down by people thinking that.

I'd kick him to the curb as my friend. Sadly, I get the impression by his comments that he likely would not care.
 

Not much of a friend if you ask me...which you didn't.:laughing:
 
Good grief! With a friend like that you really need a friend!

Seriously. Put him on the acquaintance list and invite some kinder people into your life.

Oh, and go out and have a grand time on NYE, if that works out! ::yes::
 
Your friend sounds like a jerk.

I'm not sure I would remain his friend if he is concerned that people would:

1) get the wrong impression that we were dating

AND

2) he would be creeped out that his cool factor will go down by people thinking that.

I'd kick him to the curb as my friend. Sadly, I get the impression by his comments that he likely would not care.

I see your point and I kind of agree, but I think the OP should talk to him about it before writing him off her friend list. Maybe he'll apologize, you never know.
 
I don't think your friend is a jerk. I just don't think he thought about the way that would sound. My best friend is a guy and he has no filter between his brain and his mouth. I'm pretty sure he also has no idea that what he said would hurt you. I know where you are coming from but I'll bet he didn't mean it that way. Let it slide off your back and find some awesome plans!
 
Whata creep. Basically he is embarrassed to be seen with you??? Not cool!
 
I think that maybe that's the meanest thing I've heard in awhile. I don't think he meant it the way it came out but DAYUMMMM, that had to hurt :hug:
 
My dh thinks this guy is crazy. I am 43 and my dh is 33. Dh thinks older women are hot. This guy doesn't know what he is missing.
 
I'd find a new friend because that one's a *******.

Yup! Unless he realized independently what he did and rushed to you with a full apology that would be the last time we ever talked. I would suddenly have lots to do and no recollection of where I must have mislaid his phone number.

People tell you who they are--he just told you he's a thoughtless, rude jerk. Believe him.
 
You really should have told him thanks for thinking about that because you would have been really embarrassed being seen with him too - wouldn't want anybody to think you dated anybody as immature and young as he is. :rolleyes1
 












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