My friend really hurt my feelings.

[LuvCuteBoys]

You should go out, have a wonderful time, make sure to call him while he is home alone, and say hi. I guys boys can be dumb at any age

PEOPLE can be dumb at any age.

Good grief! With a friend like that you really need a friend!

Seriously. Put him on the acquaintance list and invite some kinder people into your life.

Oh, and go out and have a grand time on NYE, if that works out!

Agreed!!! You don't need to a friend who is going to make you feel bad. Friends are supposed to build you up, not knock you down.

total idiot!

People tell you who they are--he just told you he's a thoughtless, rude jerk. Believe him.

My new favorite phrase. And so true.

 

[CathrynRose]

You know, I went out plenty of times, with plenty of men on NYE and other *ONLY* as friends.

I'd be royally pissed if someone said that to me. Not to mention, what makes NYE any different than any other night.

I remember, being single - and working with another guy who was single - we hung out all the flipping time, and were ONLY friends. We planned a New Orleans trip, and planned on acting single *unless* we got into a sticky predicament, then we'd use the "old lady / old man" as an excuse, and even contemplated getting cheap fake wedding rings, for the trip.

That's not your friend. He's a jerk.

 

[redlight]

It was definitely an idiotic and hurtful comment, but I'm not sure I'd write him off entirely. Does he have redeeming qualities?

 

[CathrynRose]

You know, I had to post again....

This really hurt MY feelings too! I'm mad FOR you!

Weenie.

 

[Boo'sMom]

you really should have told him thanks for thinking about that because you would have been really embarrassed being seen with him too - wouldn't want anybody to think you dated anybody as immature and young as he is.

mte

 

[Ciao Mickey]

He asked what I was doing for NYE. I said if dd's dad gets her we can go out if you want to.
Him: no

Me: You have plans?

Him: NO I just don't want anyone to think you are my gf

Me: Well if you find a girl you like you can explain it to her and I will back you up.

Him: It's not about that. I just don't want anyone to think we are dating as I only date young, hot girls.

I know I'm not the youngest, hottest chick on the block (that ship sailed many years ago) and in his defense he is 30 and I am 44, but what am I? Frankenstein's monster? And he wonders why he is single?

He is your *friend* because....

 

[antmaril]

This person is not your friend.

 

[Nancyg56]

People tell you who they are--he just told you he's a thoughtless, rude jerk. Believe him.

You said it!

My new favorite phrase. And so true.

Mine too!

OP- I would drop this guy from my friend list, he is not worth teh air you breathe!

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

You know, I had to post again....

This really hurt MY feelings too! I'm mad FOR you!

Weenie.

Yep, me too

 

[Mom21]

Thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better and you made me laugh. We've been friends for a year and a half. He never seems to have a problem stopping by and taking a shower (he likes my shower better than his) or eating the food I fix him. We say we love each other, and I often try and get him fixed up with the caveat that new girl must like me. I also tell him what he is doing wrong with whomever he is dating or give him pointers from the girl's point of view (believe me this conversation takes hours).

I already kinda knew he felt that way, but to hear him verbalize it really hurt me to the bone. I know I'm not 25 anymore, but man did it hurt. He knows it and he did apologize when I started crying. But deep down I knew that is how he felt. He's ashamed to be my friend.

 

[ColoradoMom!!]

I'm sorry. You know the strange thing is that he asked you - like he set you up. He meant to tell you - just be careful with your heart.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better and you made me laugh. We've been friends for a year and a half. He never seems to have a problem stopping by and taking a shower (he likes my shower better than his) or eating the food I fix him. We say we love each other, and I often try and get him fixed up with the caveat that new girl must like me. I also tell him what he is doing wrong with whomever he is dating or give him pointers from the girl's point of view (believe me this conversation takes hours).

I already kinda knew he felt that way, but to hear him verbalize it really hurt me to the bone. I know I'm not 25 anymore, but man did it hurt. He knows it and he did apologize when I started crying. But deep down I knew that is how he felt. He's ashamed to be my friend.

It's because you are thinking friendship in a different way than he is. Just reading this little description shouts mothering not friendship especially with this guy's personality and the age difference.

Sounds like you are friends but not like partying drinking and carrying on friends. It sounds like you are the mothering help him out and remember what it was like to be that age and stupid(him not you). It's not the same kind of friendship for both of you. I imagine he will go out and try to hook it up for a night while you would want to go out and have fun and then go home. Different ideas of going out NYE.

 

[Mermaid02]

You should have told him that when you were younger and hotter, you wouldn't have considered being seen with him either..... ok not really but it would have felt good for a minute.

I would lose his number....

 

[LOVESHiNE5]

He's ashamed to be my friend.

If he's still ashamed, leave him. You deserve better friends than him.

 

[horseshowmom]

Thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better and you made me laugh. We've been friends for a year and a half. He never seems to have a problem stopping by and taking a shower (he likes my shower better than his) or eating the food I fix him. We say we love each other, and I often try and get him fixed up with the caveat that new girl must like me. I also tell him what he is doing wrong with whomever he is dating or give him pointers from the girl's point of view (believe me this conversation takes hours).

I already kinda knew he felt that way, but to hear him verbalize it really hurt me to the bone. I know I'm not 25 anymore, but man did it hurt. He knows it and he did apologize when I started crying. But deep down I knew that is how he felt. He's ashamed to be my friend.

I've got to tell you that this guy sounds very much like a user. I think you need to be expending your energies in other directions.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better and you made me laugh. We've been friends for a year and a half. He never seems to have a problem stopping by and taking a shower (he likes my shower better than his) or eating the food I fix him. We say we love each other, and I often try and get him fixed up with the caveat that new girl must like me. I also tell him what he is doing wrong with whomever he is dating or give him pointers from the girl's point of view (believe me this conversation takes hours).

I already kinda knew he felt that way, but to hear him verbalize it really hurt me to the bone. I know I'm not 25 anymore, but man did it hurt. He knows it and he did apologize when I started crying. But deep down I knew that is how he felt. He's ashamed to be my friend.

Stop being his doormat.

"Shame" should not be an ingredient in any friendship.

 

[Jennasis]

In high school, a guy friend did the SAME exact thing to me. He and I were buds. I asked him to senior prom (as friends..though I did have a crush on him. Oh My GOD was he ridiculously hot!!). He agreed and we had a blastie blast. The day after graduation we both went on a school competition trip that lasted a week. On day two a mutual friend asked him if we were dating and he FREAKED out. Apparently the very thought of dating me was repulsive enough for him to cause a scene when questioned. Changed my opinion of him in an instant and we went from buds, to "yeah, I know him."

Found out years later he is gay.

 

[Magic Mom]

Thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better and you made me laugh. We've been friends for a year and a half. He never seems to have a problem stopping by and taking a shower (he likes my shower better than his) or eating the food I fix him. We say we love each other, and I often try and get him fixed up with the caveat that new girl must like me. I also tell him what he is doing wrong with whomever he is dating or give him pointers from the girl's point of view (believe me this conversation takes hours).

I already kinda knew he felt that way, but to hear him verbalize it really hurt me to the bone. I know I'm not 25 anymore, but man did it hurt. He knows it and he did apologize when I started crying. But deep down I knew that is how he felt. He's ashamed to be my friend.

From this post lets look at what you both get out of the relationship.

Him: meals cooked and served, nice shower, free advice, fix ups.

You: Insults and hurt feelings.

Not very balanced is it? Take him off speed dial and tell him to shower and eat at a hot girls house.

 

[moon]

I'm sorry. You know the strange thing is that he asked you - like he set you up. He meant to tell you - just be careful with your heart.

Exactly. He was the one who initiated the whole thing. You have to wonder why?

 

[RitaZ.]

I've got to tell you that this guy sounds very much like a user. I think you need to be expending your energies in other directions.

I got the same vibe.

OP, you're being too nice to this *******. I think you value this "friendship" more than he does. Time to find a new friend that truly respects and appreciates you.