Hi everyone. Again, I cannot say thank you enough to all who have responded. I just want to give you all a great big hug back!!
I'll try to answer all the questions and update you all on everything. My brain hasn't been working normaly. I am alittle scattered. DH and I were both not feeling well yesturday and we went to the ER last night. MIL was here to stay with the kids, DH can't drive because of the injury on his arm, so I had to drive. Luckily the hospital is only about 3 miles away and I didn't have to go on the highway. It was very hard for me, I cried the whole way, but I had to just do it. I did feel alittle resentment towards DH because I feel like I have to be the rock and take care of the family emotionally. He was litterally falling apart yesturday. He would hear a noise and jump, he saw an injured kid at the ER he started crying. He was so panicky and on edge, crying or on the verge of tears. I think his mental state is making him feel physically worse. Anyway, we were fully checked at the ER, the same one we went to after the accident, they never did xrays when we were there the first time. So, we both had xrays of our backs and necks. DH also had catscans of his head and neck. We are both fine. We have normal bruising and back, neck pain that is seen in accidents similar to ours. They gave us vicatin for the pain and they gave DH valium. Neither of us is taking any pain meds and DH won't take the valium.
We kept DD home from school so we could take the kids to their pediatrician to have them checked out. Thankfully they are both fine. Getting to their Dr was another story. What an ordeal. The Dr is in the next county so it's about a 30 min drive on the highway. DD wouldn't get in the car, DH was shaking, my little guy was happy with his cup of M&M's!!LOL I was scared too but I had no time to dwell on it. Again I had to take care of things and suck it up, not show emotion and make things OK for DH and DD. As we were driving they are both crying, DD is saying watch out for that truck and stuff like that. I was so scared, I was crying but had to hold it together. DH mom has narcolepsie(spl?)so she cannot drive. So it was left to me having to do it.
We then went to get the plates off our car and I got to see the trailer that was rolling towards us. OMG!!! I couldn't believe the size of it. I was shocked. I couldn't even cry or anything. I was just shocked that something so big could roll, and come flying towards me. The driver had to be speeding when it detatched. Still don't know what happened to him. When I saw our car, it's totaled but the whole back of the car from the back passenger doors on isn't damaged. It's like my kids had this protective shield on them!! The bulk of the damage is on the top and front of the car. When I saw that the inside part was intact, nothing came into where we were sitting, it's just so amazing. The car still starts!! Gotta love the Jeep Cherokees!! It was a 2004 too, I'm gonna miss it.
Then we went to the site where it happened. I did this for me. I needed to see where it happened, and try to make sense of it all. Approaching the scene I was shaking. I saw the trailer coming at me like it was happening again. We pulled over and got out and saw that where we landed was right where we had smacked into the mile marker. From what we could put together, we flipped before we hit the mile marker, then hit it, then we are not sure. Our memory of it is spotty. Then I saw in the grass DS's Blues Clues juice box holder with his juice box still in it. I lost it and broke down. Then looking at the skid marks, we saw that I did make it into the grass, when I was avoiding the trailer, I aimed for the grass. But then skidded out and back into the highway, then who knows what happened. I just felt better because I know I did everything I could to save us given the circumstances. I was told the trailer couldn't have been connected correctly and the driver was speeding.
I also wanted to mention that my neighbors and community have really shown their support. All the gifts, cards, visits and phone calls. My DD's school and her teacher and the councelor there offered their help and support. Everyone has been so great. Especially all you wonderful people here on the DIS. This place really is a second home for me. Even if I sometimes only lurk, and I'm not apart of the major threads, or here on the community board too much. I have been coming to these boards when it was only one board!! Lurking even before I finally registered. I really feel apart of a community here. Everyone shows so much support for eachother when they need it. It's amazing. First when DS was really sick everyone here helped me get through it and again now. Thank you all so much.
(I didn't realize till now that I did that.
