My DS7 is driving me crazy!!! Bad behavior at school & sass at home

[JamesMom]

OP, here - Follow up

DS7 has gone a whole school week without incident. He had plenty of playdates (with whose mom's I had an understand with of no electronics) to keep him busy. And he was released from restriction just in time. He developed a fever on friday and has spent today (Saturday) playing Wii and watching TV

Survived this crisis and *knock on wood* things will be calm for a moment or two.

Thanks again for all the comments.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

OP, here - Follow up

DS7 has gone a whole school week without incident. He had plenty of playdates (with whose mom's I had an understand with of no electronics) to keep him busy. And he was released from restriction just in time. He developed a fever on friday and has spent today (Saturday) playing Wii and watching TV

Survived this crisis and *knock on wood* things will be calm for a moment or two.

Thanks again for all the comments.

I'm very happy for you. See things do work out!

 

[taximomfor4]

awww, glad things are looking up. No wisdom for you, I Let my kids watch whatever they want, and in no way do I restrict what they read. It's how I grew up, and I turned out fine (and honestly, was a really good kid, even though I read books waaaaay too mature for me, lol).

My youngest's favorite show is iCarly. She records it. Then again, we have a "Good Example" thing in our house after a situation in Kindergarten...an inside joke in our house, really. We are constantly calling TV characters "g good example" or "NOT a good example." Heck, we even say those about our cats, lol.

10yo ds gets surly and doesn't handle tiny disappointments well (HUGELY overreacts).

16yo dd gets whiney ..."But MOMMMMMMMYYYY, I NEED a new ??" (although she was very, VERY difficult with huge outbursts, fits, temper tantrums, and complete, utter loss of self control when upset at age 7-8) -- that was back before the kids watched whatever they want, too. I think it was just HER!

11yo dd gets weepy. We tell her it's fine to need the release that tears give, but please do like the rest of us -- release them in private, and come back to talk once you have control of your emotions enough to communicate clearly.

7yo is a sweetheart, watches all the tween shows with her tween sis, but is a snuggle bunny and will talk very logically about most anything (including who is not being a Good Example, lol)

Keep your chin up...there aren't many parenting mistakes you can make that will really, truly scar your kids for life or actually "ruin" them, lol.

 

[steph124ny]

I thought I'd chime in here with a different perspective because my DS is 14, so BTDT!!!

First off, my best advice is to limit electronics ALL THE TIME. Kids are so immersed in electronics that they don't form real relationships anymore. It's not so bad at 7, but by 10-12, it's scary to watch. My kids have a Wii and Playstation, but they hardly ever play it. They don't have handheld anything, and all the whining in the world will not convince me to buy it.

Second, Make sure they sleep enough. Kids never seem to get enough sleep.

Does your son do sports or other positive activities? Sometimes getting them out of their peer groups works wonders. My son did Tae Kwon Do and now plays lacrosse with kids from lots of different schools and it has opened up a lot of different perspectives to him.

It does get better...I promise! And my kid has ADHD and is slightly autistic...so I feel your pain with the behavior issues!

I saw a definition, maybe on this board, that made me laugh:

Boy: noun:
Definition: Noise with dirt smeared on it!

HAHAHA!!!

 

[Tanya90210]

Steph... great advice... going to add my thoughts onto yours because you took the words right out of my mouth

I thought I'd chime in here with a different perspective because my DS is 14, so BTDT!!!

First off, my best advice is to limit electronics ALL THE TIME. Kids are so immersed in electronics that they don't form real relationships anymore. It's not so bad at 7, but by 10-12, it's scary to watch.

Ditto, My son is 14 as well and 8-13 was quite a trying time. We did the same and limit all electronics as well, weekends only (friday/saturday, sunday is a school night so none then as well) and get weekly updates on grades and such from his teachers to be sure he is keeping on top of his studies as it is his freshman year therefore harder than all previous year... Missing assignments or grades below c and electronics are all but cut off... been working fantastic so far straight A's and no calls from teachers about problems which used to be a weekly occurence

Second, Make sure they sleep enough. Kids never seem to get enough sleep.

We try and make sure each of ours gets a minimum of 8 hours.... they usually get around 10 and it seems to help

Does your son do sports or other positive activities? Sometimes getting them out of their peer groups works wonders. My son did Tae Kwon Do and now plays lacrosse with kids from lots of different schools and it has opened up a lot of different perspectives to him.

Sports, especially if they have one they are interested in is a great motivator. My son is obsessed with basketball and for him to be eligible to be on the team he must have good behavior and maintain a C or higher GPA per school athletic regulations so it really helps that they are basically backing up what we would like our son to do as well. I have nothing but praise for the athletics programs that are out there.