My DH thinks I'm crazy!!

[michellejed]

It is only natural for you to want your DH to be as excited as you are about your trip and the plans you have made.

Trust me when I say you are better off doing it all yourself! You have the DIS board to get excited with you and we wont make you crazy with request and plans to mess up your carefully laid out plans

My DH humors me with an answer now and then but for the most part I don't include him in the plans of any trip.

The only rule we have as a family is every one gets to pick 2 restaurants to eat at, they have to do the research themselves and they have a time table, if I dont get the info then their spots become mine and nobody can complain!

Dont set your self up for a big disappointment if your family doesnt shower you with thanks for all you have planned, I always think the planning is almost as much fun as the trip and my thanks come from the smiles I see on their faces when we go and no words are needed, I know I do a good job!

Just have fun planning and have a wonderful trip

 

[buddy&wooz]

My dh was pretty similar before our first trip three years ago, didn't understand all the planning I was doing and didn't really want to hear about it. But when we got there and we were able to not only do all we wanted but had time to do things we hadn't planned (or even been aware of like the Ft. Wilderness wagon ride) he "got it" and while walking through Epcot one day he was the one who suggested that we go back just the two of us the following fall (which we did.)

And he was the one who suggested the trip we're about to take . He's not asking for details of the plans yet- leaving it all up to me- but he's definitely getting excited about it, he's worse than me with counting down till we leave!

Hopefully something like that will happen with your dh when you get there!

 

[bethzfl]

My fiance is the same - he says he'll be excited when we're there. I did almost cancel the trip due to financials, and that's when he was bummed! So its back on

 

[Melwood23]

I suspect if he starts walking around the parks with a Goofy hat, or Mickey Ears, etc...you will know that you did good .

 

[Nancyg56]

Are we all married to the same person?? My DH is usually as excited as I am about our trip, except for the planning. I think if I ask him to look at the places i picked to eat one more time he will murder me. (ha ha)

All I can say is thank god I found the dis boards, now I feel I have people to share all my planning with and that I am not alone with all my WDW planning.

I say "Amen to that!!" My family thinks that I am obsessed with the "perfect trip, and DH pretends to listen. I am so glad that I found the Dis and really glad that I finally worked up the courage to talk to all of you.

 

[can'twait]

I feel your pain. A friend of DH's asked him about our plans because they are looking into going, so he forwarded the friend's e-mail to me, and of course I responded with an avalanche of information. To which DH replied to his friend, "Sorry I ambushed you but she's driving me nuts with this". He also says "Don't tell me now, tell me when we get there". He did say he wanted to do the dinner shows and one restaurant. Other than that, I chose the restaurants and what days we are going where. I scheduled in the parades, fireworks, etc. It's OK with me because I'm a control freak, and once we get there he will follow my lead and not argue because I'm the one who read the book and did the research, so I know what I'm talking about. So there! I know we will all have a great time and he will thank me later. 32 days to go!!!!!!!

 

[slgober]

My DH is only worried about everything except the parks. He wants nothing to do with any preplanning. He just wants to make sure there is time for the water parks, Disney Quest and golf. He hasn't even mentioned anything at all about the parks. I finally got him to at least sit down for five minutes the other day and look at the golf courses available so that he could make tee times for him and his dad...

I have explained to him that we are there for six days (arriving Sunday 9/18 early and leaving on Saturday 9/24) and we have six day passes. The four parks can easily take up that much time. He has insisted on the Magic Plus so they can go to the water parks and Disney Quest. I don't want to feel rushed around the parks so that he and the kids can go to the water parks...

I am trying not to be too rigid in my planning, but it is very hard not to with all these planners around here!!! I am not going commando (though I would like to!!). I know that would just be setting myself up for disappointment when we inevitably get off schedule!!

I'm just hoping that I won't be too tired to go and do all the things I want to do!!

We leave in 18 days and I am so excited!!

Stephanie

 

[CinRell]

DBF gets a bit sick of my "lists" (I make a list for everything! I loved the danny tanner clipboard of fun comparison! LOL!) this saturday we leave to wdw... dbf's first time and I told him if he likes cedar point (he loves it... we had passes last year)... he'll LOVE disney. Now.. I think he's thinking disney is kind of just another amusement park.

He says he can't wait because my excitement is contagious but we just made FINAL plans to go like.. 3 weeks ago. DBF likes to put things off and off and off... but he's treating for the trip so... I nervously bit my nails waiting for the "we're booked" phone call.

ANYWAY.. my point.. he doesn't want to help plan either. He doesn't think I should make lists. He thinks "let's just wing it".. I know he'll be happy we didn't wing it. I know he'll forgive the EARLY breakfasts I reserved (I hope LOL)... and I know we'll have a GREAT time... going back 5 years I went with an ex... he got into the planning. The trip unfortunately was planned way ahead and we were close to break-up point when we went.. HE loves the historical and educational movies. I love the rides. our day at epcot was spent watching every single movie and going VERY VERY slowly through every gift shop and mini-museum in world showcase almost missing some of the shows and not really getting to enjoy many of the rides....

Lesson learned? THANK HEAVENS when you have someone who says "you decide just let me know what we're doing"... I *love* epcot but was MISERABLE that day. this trip I get to be spoiled and I'm gladly taking dbf up on his "you just decide and let me know when we're there what we're doing I'm sure it'll be fun"

 

[Ana~n~Joseph]

My fiance thinks that I'm "obsessed" with Disney. And yesterday he told me that he wanted short days in all the parks because he might get tired He's never been to Disney World before and we are going on our honeymoon in January. He doesn't understand what the big deal is and he said he's just going to see me happy, which is nice and all but I would like him to be happy too. Oh well, I still have four months to work on it.

 

[pyrxtc]

My DH thinks I've caught some kind of "Disney Disease" and have become obsessed with planning and the DIS board. He is generally pretty happy with me making all the plans and arrangements (it is our first trip)....except that he thinks 6 days at WDW will be too long and we will get bored!

Mine too!! We made a paper chain to count down the days with my 4 yr old DS. He loves it!

If it wasn't for these boards I would have no clue what to do first and it would have cost me a lot more because I would have booked straight thru Disney and bought packages and everything full price. Woohoo for DIS!

He also thinks I'm nuts for marking our bags and backpacks so they are identifiable and putting clothes in suitcases already. I'm so nervous I won't get it done in time!

 

[wisbucky]

Oh my I must be one lucky woman as my DH is constantly telling me about what and where he wants to go on our next trip to Disney. I usually have to slow him down fand make him breath once in a while. I make the ressies, the meals plans and such, but he is always telling me of something he wants to see or do. If we have plans for a Disney trip that is more than 6 months out he is begging to go for a weekend to Disney. In between trips he is reading Disney books, the Disney board, listening to Disney music and trying to wear all his Disney shirts. If a new Disney movie comes out on DVD he is begging to go buy it that night. When I told him that the candlelight processional schedule was now on the Disney Board he just about ran me over to get to the computer. My parents are shocked at how hyper DH gets when he talks about Disney. I am one lucky woman

 

[unixadm]

We're not ALL from the same mold!

I'm a DH.....and I do ALL the planning. My DW will give me a bit of input on a few specific things she wants to do or see, and I do include her on what decisions I make, but she is perfectly content sitting on the sidelines, letting me make the plans, and enjoying the trip.

She thinks I'm a bit obsessed with my spreadsheets, constant reading of the forums and TGM, and all of my ADR's, but she really does appreciate the work I put in.

So for the record, there are some men who really do the planning, enjoy it, and really do care about every detail of a vacation!

Here is just one of many sections of my Spreadsheet

Other sections include a sheet for each day and what rides we are going on in the morning, afternoon, etc, a sheet specifically for all of our dining ADR's, which characters we want to see and where to find them, etc.

 

[FayeW]

I thought I was the only one! We usually end up having a spat when I try to discuss the Disney plans. I really limit how much I talk about it, and it really ticks me off that we are spending $4000 for a holiday and he will take absolutely no interest in planning it. Frankly, I wonder why I torture myself this way. I should just take the kids and go myself.

 

[bbowers]

My DH asks for it in dribs and drabs, and then does things like 4 days before we leave, asking if we have a big block of time we're not doing anything so he could go fishing. Hello? We went thru this last trip and you decided it wasn't worth the cost, all by yourself. *sigh* He does appreciate all my planning once we're down there, though, and he knows if I say we're going to be HERE at this time, by GOLLY, we're going to be THERE at that time. But I've also tried not to overplan quite so much anymore.

He is excited, though - every day for the past MONTH he has asked me if I'd "like to go to Disney with him" or "want to go on a cruise with him".

(And swilshire - you sound like me - planning out every step of our 2006 Alaska trip, already know where we're staying for our 2008 Hawaii trip (unless, of course, a tsunami wipes any of the places out before then), and am sincerely hoping the shows in Vegas don't change before (2007) (riiiiiight).)

 

[lustergirl]

I just read this entire post with a smile on my face. My DH hasn't did anything to help plan this trip. Now that it is getting close (25 days) he is starting to say "Hey we are going to Disney pretty soon". Well hello- this is what I have been telling you all along. I spit out little tidbits about my plans to him at least once a day. He tells me "okay honey, whatever you do and want is fine with me. He thinks I am nuts as every night I sit there with my Disney guide book glancing through it, looking for something that I missed. He is worried about the plane ride, we will be fine. I am already looking at next year's vacation, going to Hawaii and taking my mother. He really thinks I am nuts about that one because I am not going until October 2006- hey we like to plan ahead??

Keep the faith everyone!!!!!!!!!!
Lisa

 

[marj70]

Don't feel bad. My DH is the same way. He can barely even plan for his next meal, certainly he cannot think over 100 days ahead to our Disney trip. I got a few of his wants out of him, and the rest I will just plan. He will love it when we get there, and pretty much do what I tell him. He does appreciate the planning when the time comes, just doesn't think that far ahead. Learn to enjoy it, who wants his wants messing up your plans anyway!

My DH does get really sick of hearing about the Disney plans. I also get pretty sick of hearing about airplanes and stuff. That's why these boards are such a great outlet.

 

[PatriciaH]

They are not all the same-DH loves Disney We even moved to Celebration to be closer to the parks and work here. We have all our events booked and planned for Food and Wine, MNSSHP (dinner at LTT before) and Halloween Horror Nights. We have our 11 night Southern Caribbean Disney cruise booked for our 10 year anniversary next year. He is involved in our planning. We love to travel!

 

[pyrxtc]

I'm looking at hotels and what airfare wil look like for our trip to Hawaii in 2009...LOL!! i also know we are going to Arizona/Mexico/GrandCabyon in 2007. He says it's too far away!

 

[Hatzie]

DW is too busy bringing my DS13 to fencing lessons and working, so I am doing all the research for our trip. Being that this is our first trip I am trying to get as much information I can, I am still worried if everything will be fine.

 

[Tink215]

Had to come back and add what happened today!!! Was at the Mall today at the Disney Store I was asking questions about tickets and all and I get a call from hubby asking about the Wilderness Lodge, the communication was bad and all I hear is I want to upgrade to the Wilderness Lodge, Know I am screaming are you crazy!!! Dont you listen to me when I ask you questions, dont you listen when I tell you anything!!!! Apparently he got the Disney Bug today and went and made sure he had his time taken off, (Good Hubby For not procrastinating!) He is a Police Officer, and guess what his SGT> is a Disney Fan and suggested the Wilderness Lodge, I just sat down and laughed, Know he wants to chime in on the planning!!!! Gotta write this day down in my Journal, "" Dear Journal, Hubby actually wanted to help plan our vacation Today""" LOL. Just had to share, I guess he really is getting as excited as I am, But lets see how long that last!!!

This is a great Thread, I love hearing all about the DH"s!!!!