My DD8 and I had our 1st clash over clothing today!

[Disney1fan2002]

I took DD8 and DS6 school shopping today. They had these really nice cotton sweat pants on sale. One was powder blue, and the other was light pink. The Blue one said All Star Softball on the upper thigh area. The pink one said Princess University. Cute.

The fitting room was in the boys section, so I sent DD in to try on each item, and told her to come out and show me after each one, while I looked for some things for her brother. She comes out with the blue pants on, and boy did they look comfy! I told her to turn around, and what do I see? ALL STAR written across her butt.

HELL NO! Sorry, missy....I HATE those kind of pants/shorts. To me, it only calls attention to ones rearend, and there is no way I want anyone looking at my 8yo old's daughters behind.

She couldn't understand why she couldn't get them. I told her that in order for a person to read what is on her pants, it means they have to look at her butt. Did she want people looking at her butt all day? There was an older woman browsing, and when DD went back to change, in a huff, of course, the woman said "Good for you ,mom"

She then told me she has a 14yo granddaughter, and the clothes they market to young teen girls is ridiculous. I am already starting to get slim pickings for her at 8...WTH will there be for her when she is 14/15?

OY OY OY.

ALL STAR and PRINCESS went back on the rack.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

This is a trend that needs to GO AWAY! that's for sure! it's not appropriate on kids and just is not something that adults should be wearing either in my OP!

good for you!

 

[paigevz]

Ugh. I have enough problems with my boy. He wants clothes with skulls and devils on them................I say no way, not at age 11.

Now he says he wants to redecorate his room, in his words, "evil". I tell him he can NOT paint it black, but he can get most decorations for it.........gargoyles and skulls. I put my foot down again, though, when he wanted these corpse bride and groom dolls and wanted to HANG them from his ceiling...............

No, really, he IS a normal kid............................

I really hate some of the stuff out there for girls.........so revealing, even for little girls.............

 

[TallyLassie]

My DD almost 8 is very thin, so she can wear things that still fit in the waist, but very short. She doesn't understand why she can't wear them.

If that is the first disagreement you have had about clothes, you are very forunate. Our arguments started several years ago.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I have 15 & 9yodd's.... So going on 10yrs of fighting over clothes. On top of that younger dd has a sensory issue with clothing...acckkkk!!! Between what is available and that, I go out of my mind sometimes.

Although I have to say this year the clothing has improved. I know it doesn't seem that way to some of you but I have been scrutinizing clothes for awhile.

The writing on the butt thing is going away and bermuda shorts are "in", thank goodness!

 

[golfgal]

Tally and Mystery---I have BOTH those problems with DS14, he is skinny, long legs (but short overall) and clothes have to fit him just so or he won't wear them. He is IMPOSSIBLE to buy for!

 

[Jenn]

I try to steer my 9 year old DD to Gap and the Gap Outlet. Their stuff is cute, well made and age appropriate. Prices at the outlet are very reasonable, and I try to hit the sales at the regular store. Luckily, she loves the store so fights are minimal.

She has really been on a Limited Too kick, which is tough. I don't find the clothing well made, and the prices are ridiculous. You could easily pay $100 for an outfit. I will take her in when they have their clearance sales and we usually find a few things for resonable prices, so that seems to be satisfying the urge.

I got 4 outfits at the Gap Outlet last week for $110.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

Bella is a skinny-mini 8 year old (short for her age and very thin). Finding things that fit around (size 3-4) but are long enough (6-6X) and still look like what she thinks an 8 year old should wear is giving me fits.

In our house we have a few rules: No "fanny writing", no insults ("Don't you wish you were cute like me?)", no short shorts for school, no skinny strap shirts (school rule), no big heels on shoes (wanna break your neck on the playground, kid?).

She also has sensory integration issues and has to have really comfy clothes or she comes unglued.

She loves to be fashionable though. She's into chocolate brown with pink or various shades of green. I've had some luck at Children's Place (and their outlet), Old Navy and LLBean.

I spend more money on her wardrobe than I do on mine, for sure.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I think putting my DD6 into uniforms has definitely delayed this type of thing with us. I only have about 3 days of the entire year that they can "dress down". Usually I'll just run her to Old Navy for a quick dress or something.

Good Luck everyone. I remember my sister calling me screaming that she was going crazy with my DNiece last year. Dniece laid out an outfit night before school started (5th grade) and then changed 4 times in the morning!

 

[Kae]

Pennys had some really cute pants like what you are talking about but no words on the fanny. My DD is 5 almost 6 & she wanted one of those skirts with the leggin's but my goddness even with leggins those skirts are short I mean short But I did find her a set at Pennys where the skirt is regular jean skirt lengtht. I did bett er at Penny this year even for DNiece who is 10.

Kae

 

[VSL]

This is a trend that needs to GO AWAY! that's for sure! it's not appropriate on kids and just is not something that adults should be wearing either in my OP!

I agree about the fact that manufacturers need to start making kids clothes child-appropriate again (rather than just mini-me versions), but I have no problem with an adult wearing clothes with writing across the bottom.

 

[CEDmom]

I feel your pain. My DD will be 7 on Wednesday and is going into 2nd grade. She's also tiny for her size so that alone makes things difficult. I agree with the fanny writing, nasty characters (i.e. Bratz), too much glitter/sparkle etc. So far we've had luck at LandEnds overstocks, Gymboree sales and LL Bean.

It's getting harder in most stores to find stuff that doesn't scream I'm a "working" girl .

 

[Jenn Lynn]

This year I bought clothes for my 5 year old from Gap, Old Navy, Children's Place, Lands End and Carters. I also have the no words on butt rule. Then my MIL brings some clothes she picked up at a garage sale. One pair of jeans has "star" written on the back pockets. DH wanted DD to wear them and I told him not in public! Then he asked why I bought them and I had to tell him it was his Mom. LOL! He said he would have a talk with her, but I said don't bother. She probably didn't even notice it because it is subtle. And she would just feel bad about it.

 

[ticktock]

No flames, just wondering. Are all you ladies with the fashionista dds fashion concious yourselves? Or have you always talked it up to your daughters(oh, sweety, you look so cute etc...)? My sister and I were never into clothes at that age (I'm STILL not ). My ds 12 has very few issues with clothes. As long as the t-shirt has a dragon or Mickey on it and is 100% cotton he's fine. How his socks fit is a whole other issue though .

Disneyfan2002 THANK YOU for not letting your dd were pants with words on her bum. My dh who is totally oblivious actually came home one day and said to me "Have you seen these little girls with word on the bum, WTH is up with that? Their parents need a good smacking!"

 

[ticktock]

I feel your pain. My DD will be 7 on Wednesday and is going into 2nd grade. She's also tiny for her size so that alone makes things difficult. I agree with the fanny writing, nasty characters (i.e. Bratz), too much glitter/sparkle etc. So far we've had luck at LandEnds overstocks, Gymboree sales and LL Bean.

It's getting harder in most stores to find stuff that doesn't scream I'm a "working" girl .

Yeah, what is with the Bratz thing? My ds says "eew, why don't they have noses?"

I agree that alot of girls clothing look like hookers. But with alot of moms dressing like that, what do you expect? Ladies please don't let your daughters idolize Dangerous Housewives characters.

 

[mamacatnv]

Did someone clone my 8 yr old DD?

Yep, did some shopping over the weekend, we discovered "Justice" it is new here and when on sale not bad, not on sale forget it stupid expensive.

We have some of the same rules:

Belly & butt must be covered.
No butt writing or anything insulting or sarcastic
Not too tight, must be able to move
No Spaghetti straps at school (their rule also)

My DD has issues with seams or anything itchy. She wears her panties and socks inside out even tho I buy the seamless softest socks I can find.

DS 16 is thankfully pretty easy and other than having to occassionally scensor a t-shirt he has good judgement in clothes. The funny thing is he is the pickiest at what his sister can wear, he will send her off to change if it is too tight or too short - she had a huge growth spurt this summer and we are still weeding out the inappropriate stuff from her closet.

 

[disykat]

Ugh. I have enough problems with my boy. He wants clothes with skulls and devils on them................I say no way, not at age 11.

Now he says he wants to redecorate his room, in his words, "evil". I tell him he can NOT paint it black, but he can get most decorations for it.........gargoyles and skulls. I put my foot down again, though, when he wanted these corpse bride and groom dolls and wanted to HANG them from his ceiling...............

No, really, he IS a normal kid............................

I really hate some of the stuff out there for girls.........so revealing, even for little girls.............

I had the same "no, you are not wearing skulls unless it's Halloween" discussion/argument with my 11 year old son this year while clothes shopping. Shortly afterwards he entertained himself by writing the words "hate", "die", etc. really big (and surpisingly bright) with his colored pencils and hanging them on his bedroom walls. At this point, dh and I are studiously ignoring it, but it is a little disconcerting to say the least.

 

[taximomfor4]

We are very non-clothing-conscious here. Oldest dd (9th grade now) is in a phase, I guess. But the rest of us (adults and kids alike) are pretty open-minded. That said, I am NOT in need of a smack or whatever, just because my dd8 has athletic shorts with words on the Butt. We bought them for her for dance class, and she wears them. I don't think Giant Letters across someone's rear is in any way suggestive or attractive (the opposite, in fact)...and since I am not THAT picky about clothes, we don't stress about words on the rear. Even my dd had a yoga+hoodie set that had DANCE on the butt, when she was 2-3 yrs old. It was cute and comfy, warm, and good washable fabric so she wore it A LOT.

My limits are no bare midriffs, clothes that fit (none of the undies-hanging-out-the-back-pants-falling-down look), and no spaghetti strap tops to school (against the rules anyway). Oh, and my girls wear shorts under skirts/dresses (less risk for embarassment that way).

I must add that I don't purposely seek out pants/shorts with words on the butt. But if the pants/shorts that fit well and are comfy have a word on the butt, we'll not pass them by on sale!

 

[golfgal]

We are very non-clothing-conscious here. Oldest dd (9th grade now) is in a phase, I guess. But the rest of us (adults and kids alike) are pretty open-minded. That said, I am NOT in need of a smack or whatever, just because my dd8 has athletic shorts with words on the Butt. We bought them for her for dance class, and she wears them. I don't think Giant Letters across someone's rear is in any way suggestive or attractive (the opposite, in fact)...and since I am not THAT picky about clothes, we don't stress about words on the rear. Even my dd had a yoga+hoodie set that had DANCE on the butt, when she was 2-3 yrs old. It was cute and comfy, warm, and good washable fabric so she wore it A LOT.

My limits are no bare midriffs, clothes that fit (none of the undies-hanging-out-the-back-pants-falling-down look), and no spaghetti strap tops to school (against the rules anyway). Oh, and my girls wear shorts under skirts/dresses (less risk for embarassment that way).

I must add that I don't purposely seek out pants/shorts with words on the butt. But if the pants/shorts that fit well and are comfy have a word on the butt, we'll not pass them by on sale!

It is one thing to have Dance across some little girl's rear end, it is totally different to have "stud muffin" or other inappropriate saying across an 11 year old's rear. We have a no writing on the rear rule here too.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

I was at the mall this weekend and like usual - there are times I'm SO THANKFUL to have boys.

Another plus - my oldest seems to be moving out of his Hot Topic phase. He actually picked out a button down shirt and pair of Levis from TARGET this weekend. I was like in Mom-Nirvana.

My only major fight this year has been over a pair of Nike Shox for my 7th grader. I just refuse to pay $130 on tennis shoes for a kid. I told him I would try and find them on sale somewhere --- but it doesn't appear that they ever really go on sale.