My DBF needs a clue :)

[Rebelmom67]

How about he takes you down to the courthouse and makes the babies legal? Just a thought.
Robin M.

What a mean and horrible thing to post! How exactly does a marriage certificate make babies "legal" and how is it any of your business?

 

[bicker]

In all fairness, the first one to reply (Par8hed) didn't know "he asked." That part wasn't stated till the 4th post of the thread.

Not that it matters, but I didn't read the fourth post until after my post was posted; it was posted while I was typing in my reply to the OP. Again, not that it matters.

I think Serena said it best - take what he gives you.

I agree.

 

[Yen Sid]

Something that does not cost money, something I do for my wife who works while I take care of the house and the kids with being a disabled veteran, I always cook dinner; maybe once a week, depending on if i feel she needs the extra relaxation i have her dinner on a small table in the bathroom and a hot bath with bath salts waiting for her, she soaks in the tub for awhile and eats while I get kids ready for bed and then when she is done she comes out and helps me tuck them in for the night.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

For those with sincere replies... thank you... for those who are a bit on edge.. it's cool.. I am learning to accept his lack of thoughtfulness...lol
but for the rude 'make the babies legal' comment, they are legal with birth certificates and all, and thats not what I want for my bday... nor do I wish to have *******s reply to my thread when all they have is unrequested, and unknowledgable comments to make...

 

[mickeyfan1]

You "requested" answers. If people have a different point of view, that's what happens. Not everyone thinks raising children with out the benefit of marriage is a good idea. While the delivery may have been perceived as rude, you did ask.

 

[Rebelmom67]

You "requested" answers. If people have a different point of view, that's what happens. Not everyone thinks raising children with out the benefit of marriage is a good idea. While the delivery may have been perceived as rude, you did ask.

Please show me where she "asked" for rude people to comment on her personal relationship.

 

[Mom2Nick]

Please show me where she "asked" for rude people to comment on her personal relationship.

Not sure how it could be considered to be rude since the OP is already "planning" her wedding to her boyfriend even though he seems to be unaware of it....

 

[Suzie Zoo]

How about he takes you down to the courthouse and makes the babies legal? Just a thought.
Robin M.

Wow. I don't even know what to say to that.

For those with sincere replies... thank you... for those who are a bit on edge.. it's cool.. I am learning to accept his lack of thoughtfulness...lol
but for the rude 'make the babies legal' comment, they are legal with birth certificates and all, and thats not what I want for my bday... nor do I wish to have *******s reply to my thread when all they have is unrequested, and unknowledgable comments to make...

I think you're confusing lack of "sappiness" (sorry...LOL) for lack of "thoughtfulness". I'm not romantic AT ALL. But I think I'm very thoughtful.

My idea of a romantic date is end zone seats. (You'd think they'd be falling over me, wouldn't ya??? LOL) If he really asked for ideas, then I think you'll be better off coming up with an idea yourself... just because I think something is romantic doesn't mean you or he is going to think the same thing. Maybe come up with a list of things you'd love to do with him but just don't have the time... and then give him those suggestions. (And that wasn't supposed to sound as suggestive as it did! )

I hope that didn't come off as rude... I just think that people are who they are. Trying to turn a non-romantic into one probably won't work.

 

[mickeyfan1]

She asked for suggestions, she was given one. If she didn't want answers from people that don't see her situation in the same way, she should have thought about posting on a more private bulletin board. Rude is in the eye of the reader.

 

[Abbie]

You "requested" answers. If people have a different point of view, that's what happens. Not everyone thinks raising children with out the benefit of marriage is a good idea. While the delivery may have been perceived as rude, you did ask.

Are you joking? She requested some ideas to relay to her romance-challenged guy for a birthday treat. Not even close to asking for opinions on her living situation. Both the delivery and the comment were totally uncalled for and rude.

 

[Suzie Zoo]

You "requested" answers. If people have a different point of view, that's what happens. Not everyone thinks raising children with out the benefit of marriage is a good idea. While the delivery may have been perceived as rude, you did ask.

That's like asking for an opinion on what color dress you should buy and someone responds with "maybe you should lose weight before you buy it".

Ugh.

(NOT saying anyone needs to lose weight.... just trying to come up with an analogy.)

 

[mickeyfan1]

So getting married is not a romantic idea?

"Honey, what do you want for your birthday?"

"I'd Like you to take me to the courthouse and marry me."

Sounds pretty dang romantic to me.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

So getting married is not a romantic idea?

"Honey, what do you want for your birthday?"

"I'd Like you to take me to the courthouse and marry me."

Sounds pretty dang romantic to me.

Courthouse to you is romantic...to me it is not.. and not a gift you get for your bday... at least not one WE do for a birthday..

Anyways... I liked the dress analogy...Thank you

But..yeah, for the people who think they know all about someone through posts they put on DISboards... you should be on Montel with that Sylvia Brown lady... she makes some killer bucks knowing about peoples lives that she's never met!
If I was a private person, I wouldn't post so much... I take for granted most of the world is understanding, accepting and non-judgemental...but there are times when I'm proved wrong, and, I just get up and smile and be glad I don't go out to be rude to others I don't know My mom taught me "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all"...

But...I'll pass along the advice that *I* feel worthy
Thanks!

 

[HelenePA]

So getting married is not a romantic idea?

"Honey, what do you want for your birthday?"

"I'd Like you to take me to the courthouse and marry me."

Sounds pretty dang romantic to me.

Are you kidding me? I'm not married either with FOUR kids by the same man and if he EVER asked me what I wanted for my birthday I can assure you it wouldn't be a trip to the courthouse... Plus they aren't open on my birthday anyway... My kids have ALL the same things that the kids do with married parents... good lord its not the 1800's get over it