Papa Deuce
<font color="red">BBQ loving, fantasy football pla
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My daughters are both 8. For about 6 months now my wife and I have been asking them if they wanted to get their ears pierced. They have always said no. I brought the subject up again today. My one daughter flat out turned me down but one of them was teetering back and forth. I decided not to press her. For both of them they were afraid of the "pain" involved.
Anyway, I was watching football when I asked my wife where Abby was, as I hadn't seen her in about 30 minutes. My wife "thought' she was up in her room. I decided to go check on her.
As I climb the stairs I hear a voice coming from her room, so I know it is her, and I know that she is alone, as her sister was down watching football with me. Thing is, I can't hear what she is saying.... I knock on her door and she opens it... She has handwritten "posters" taped on her wall that I had never seen before. I was a little angry because we don't allow tape on walls.....
But then I walked over to read one... and here is what it said:
"I think I can, so I will."
I didn't understand why she had that on her wall. Then she told me that this was what she was saying when she opened the door. She was telling herself over and over that she would get her ears pierced TODAY. She was talking herself into it.
Awesome! But it gets even better, and then I will explain how this may have changed my life forever. And it has nothing to do with my little girl growing up.
So, we ( wife and I ) decide to strike while the iron is hot... we take the kids to the mall so Abby can get her ears pierced before she chickens out. When we get there she had almost talked herself OUT of getting them pierced, but with mild encouragement, she decided to follow through.
When it was over - and she didn't even cry - SHE WAS ABSOLUTELY beaming with pride! She was on cloud 9 the entire rest of the day. She wanted to call everybody she knew to tell them. She asked my wife to take pictures to post on Facebook ( on my wife's page )... which we did. She was SO HAPPY!!!
Anyway, the big life changing thing for me has not yet occurred, but all this stuff will add into what is coming.
Now, a little preface about "me". I'm a fat guy, and I have never hid that on the DIS. Like many, I have tried and failed at losing weight. At least the keeping it off part. Another thing about me is that when it comes to my career, I have always been afraid to reach for the "brass ring". I was happy that I had a great paying job, even though I hated it. I loved stability.
Well,as some of you know, in August I was laid off. I decided that I would be a SAHD. And until now, I have been. But I also registered for some business courses designed to help me learn about opening a business. But even then, I was afraid of failure, especially since the failure rate of restaurants is so high - and that is what I have wanted to do.... open a small restaurant or retail establishment. I was pretty sure that even after these classes, I would probably chicken out, myself.
OK, back to how this all ties together, and how I think it will change my life forever.
The 4 of us are at the food court at the mall after the ear piercing. My wife heads one way with my one daughter, and I am with Abby. We decide to get a hamburger for dinner.
Well, we get to our seats before the rest of my family. and I was telling her that I was really proud of her for facing her fears and following through and getting her ears pierced. And then she said this to me, and it absolutely FLOORED ME, especially when she said that it was her own saying, and that nobody had ever said it to her before:
"Dad, sometimes success needs some sacrifice".
This hit me so deeply. I mean it hit me to my core.
I think my daughter just changed my life forever.
My daughters are both 8. For about 6 months now my wife and I have been asking them if they wanted to get their ears pierced. They have always said no. I brought the subject up again today. My one daughter flat out turned me down but one of them was teetering back and forth. I decided not to press her. For both of them they were afraid of the "pain" involved.
Anyway, I was watching football when I asked my wife where Abby was, as I hadn't seen her in about 30 minutes. My wife "thought' she was up in her room. I decided to go check on her.
As I climb the stairs I hear a voice coming from her room, so I know it is her, and I know that she is alone, as her sister was down watching football with me. Thing is, I can't hear what she is saying.... I knock on her door and she opens it... She has handwritten "posters" taped on her wall that I had never seen before. I was a little angry because we don't allow tape on walls.....
But then I walked over to read one... and here is what it said:
"I think I can, so I will."
I didn't understand why she had that on her wall. Then she told me that this was what she was saying when she opened the door. She was telling herself over and over that she would get her ears pierced TODAY. She was talking herself into it.
Awesome! But it gets even better, and then I will explain how this may have changed my life forever. And it has nothing to do with my little girl growing up.
So, we ( wife and I ) decide to strike while the iron is hot... we take the kids to the mall so Abby can get her ears pierced before she chickens out. When we get there she had almost talked herself OUT of getting them pierced, but with mild encouragement, she decided to follow through.
When it was over - and she didn't even cry - SHE WAS ABSOLUTELY beaming with pride! She was on cloud 9 the entire rest of the day. She wanted to call everybody she knew to tell them. She asked my wife to take pictures to post on Facebook ( on my wife's page )... which we did. She was SO HAPPY!!!
Anyway, the big life changing thing for me has not yet occurred, but all this stuff will add into what is coming.
Now, a little preface about "me". I'm a fat guy, and I have never hid that on the DIS. Like many, I have tried and failed at losing weight. At least the keeping it off part. Another thing about me is that when it comes to my career, I have always been afraid to reach for the "brass ring". I was happy that I had a great paying job, even though I hated it. I loved stability.
Well,as some of you know, in August I was laid off. I decided that I would be a SAHD. And until now, I have been. But I also registered for some business courses designed to help me learn about opening a business. But even then, I was afraid of failure, especially since the failure rate of restaurants is so high - and that is what I have wanted to do.... open a small restaurant or retail establishment. I was pretty sure that even after these classes, I would probably chicken out, myself.
OK, back to how this all ties together, and how I think it will change my life forever.
The 4 of us are at the food court at the mall after the ear piercing. My wife heads one way with my one daughter, and I am with Abby. We decide to get a hamburger for dinner.
Well, we get to our seats before the rest of my family. and I was telling her that I was really proud of her for facing her fears and following through and getting her ears pierced. And then she said this to me, and it absolutely FLOORED ME, especially when she said that it was her own saying, and that nobody had ever said it to her before:
"Dad, sometimes success needs some sacrifice".
This hit me so deeply. I mean it hit me to my core.
I think my daughter just changed my life forever.
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