My cousin is driving me crazy!

[TLinden16]

As some of you may remember, my mom passed away in January. Of course I miss my mom terribly and think of her all the time, but I'm really doing OK. I know my mom wouldn't want me to be all depressed--she'd want me to be happy thinking of all of the wonderful times we shared together. I certainly have bad days every now and again, but the good days outnumber the bad.

Well, I have this one cousin who has been driving me crazy since my mom died. I feel like she is trying to get me to break down so that she can pick up the pieces. Everytime I talk to her, she keeps on making comments like, "I don't know how you are dealing with this," and "You really shouldn't be alone." I've only known this cousin for about two years (she was away from the family for nearly 40 years because her parents got divorced), and she only spent about three days with my mom as an adult, and she just goes on and on about how she can't believe she'll never get to talk to her Godmother again, and how she doesn't know how I am able to go on without my mom. These types of comments dominate every conversation we have. It's just driving me insane!

I know everyone deals with death in a different way, but I wish she'd just stop making these comments to me over and over and over again. I'm tired of hearing it.

OK, I'm done venting now. You may now go back to your regular DISing. Thanks for listening.

Karen

 

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[AZKathy]

Next time, just let her know how you feel.<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/10/10_9_133.gif' border=0></a> Hopefully she will understand.

 

[kilee]

Honestly, I think I'd screen her calls for awhile. I don't know why some people are just determined to bring others down. I hope things continue to look up for you.

 

[Disney Doll]

There are people who thrive on gloom and oom type living....don't ask me why. As oyu said, maybe she's trying to get you to "break down" so she can be the savior.

I'd screen calls and stay away from her for a while.

 

[pumba]

just tell her like it is......you miss your mom and your mom would never want you to be sad 24/7......THEN let her know you have the biggest support system around...........geesh.....just a measly 60 thousand people..........

 

[TLinden16]

Yes, I do have a wonderful support system here on the DIS. I was just talking about that last night

I do try to screen calls, and limit visits from this cousin right now. If she does visit, I try to make sure that someone else is there. I tell her that I'm doing fine, and she doesn't need to worry.

This particular cousin is very needy, and I could tell you stories (but I won't).

Hey Pumba, she lives in your state. Will you go knock some sense into her for me?

Karen

 

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