My 9 year old seems to think I'm his woman servant...

[Mermaid02]

.... the little chauvinist shouts orders at me constantly. Doesn't seem to matter if I do what he asks or (as in most cases) do not do what he asks... he still shouts orders at me.

Just needed to vent.

 

[Daxx]

Get in line, honey ...

my DS9 "forgets" to toss his socks down the laundry chute, leaves his underpants on the middle of the bathroom floor after his shower and expects the maid to pick 'em up ... or expects them to jump into the chute unaided. Unfortunately, no maid here ... and no time to train the clothing to jump into the chute.

Fortunately, he knows better than to boss me around!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Cindy B]

My son tried that as well.. .note I said tried.

I keep on saying to him M means Mom not Maid! I also tell him that he needs to treat all girls better not just mom and sister.

We had a big talk about this the other night. We are not at his beck and call.

 

[Beth76]

"Get in the kitchen and make me some pie!"

 

[EthansMom]

I'm working on nipping that in the bud with DS4.5. He'll say, "Get me something to drink!" and I'll say, "Well, I'm not going to get you anything until you ask nicely and say, "Please"."

 

[mtblujeans]

It's a 'gene-thing'! My kids are about ready to leave for college and they still don't know how to do laundry! What's worse is I have to practically pull them out from under the bed (where they are hiding) when I tell them it is time to come downstairs and learn how to use the equipment** (**substitute ANY household appliance here)!!!

 

[thelittlemermaid]

.... the little chauvinist shouts orders at me constantly. Doesn't seem to matter if I do what he asks or (as in most cases) do not do what he asks... he still shouts orders at me.

Just needed to vent.

I see my DS, who is 9, isn't the only one going through this "ordering" stage.

It gets on my nerves so bad, at times I can't stand being around him. When I try to get away, of course the smart butt that he is will follow me around the house. That's when I have to tell him if he doesn't go into a room that I'm not in that someone will get hurt and I guarentee{?} it will not be me. And to think we have another boy on the way. At least it will be sometime before that one will go through this.

 

[Jasminesmommy]

My 6 year old is the same way. he says I have to do everything for him because I'm the Mommy and he's the little kid. He even calls me woman sometimes the little punk.

 

[VickiVM]

I really don't mean to be rude, but are you all serious?? My 12 year old son helps serve his younger sisters their juice or dinner. Or he helps them with their homework if me or my husband are busy with dinner or with work. I don't recall that he's ever demanded anything from me. And if he did, it was likely the one and only time. Now he's no angel and we have serious time managment issues and the occassional pre-teen attitude. But respect is something that's not negotiable in our home - and that has been the rule since they were old enough to grasp manners.

 

[beckmrk04]

My 6 year old is the same way. he says I have to do everything for him because I'm the Mommy and he's the little kid. He even calls me woman sometimes the little punk.

WHERE on earth did he hear that? He actually calls you "woman"?

No no no no no no no.

I don't have kids yet, but you can bet your bottoms that I will NOT put up with being bossed around. My nieces try to get away with being demanding, but they know that it does not work at Aunt Becky's house.

I'm with VickiVM- why is this tolerated?!

 

[DisneyJules]

Hun, who's the parent here? I would never accept that kind of behavior from a child. They're smart, they understand with whom they can get away with. If I were you, I'd put a stop to that sort of behavior right away.

 

[agnes!]

My DD helped me vacuum tonight.
I know that this isn't quite in line with the topic, but it was nice. It helped that we got a new vacuum Sunday(woohoo Dyson!), she was *so* enthusiastic .

agnes!
PS - Just wanted to put a little bit of encouragement out there .

 

[VickiVM]

Pheww - I thought I was being a hard-a**. I just recently told our Christian Education director at church that I wouldn't help out with the 5th and 6th grade class anymore (about 8 boys and 1 girl) because of disrespectful behavior. And this is church!! These 11 and 12 year olds can't even be quiet and mind their manners for 45 minutes. They push, shove, call each other "gaytard", "retard", play ball in class, etc.

I really don't get this - how many of us would have gotten away with this in our younger days??

 

[disykat]

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I really don't get this - how many of us would have gotten away with this in our younger days??

We would have gotten our name on the board or some other consequence without half the parents in the class upset about the fact that we were shaming their children. (I'm refering to another thread here!)

 

[azgal81]

I guess the real question would be why do you let your kid talk to you that way?? I don't have kids but there is no way I would let them or anyone talk to me that way. They need to learn respect or when they get older they will have serious problems.

 

[VickiVM]

We would have gotten our name on the board or some other consequence without half the parents in the class upset about the fact that we were shaming their children. (I'm refering to another thread here!)

I know which one you're referring to.

I have to restrain myself here - I have had my fill of 'fresh' children lately and I sometimes feel I'm in a very small minority.

 

[crazee4mickey]

Not wanting to get flamed here but why on earth as parents/adults would you ever allow your child to act or treat you in that manner?
I have 4 kids ages 19, 16, 9 and 7---I would never tolerate any of them ever speaking to any adult in a rude, disrespectful manner---I am far from a perfect parent and maybe I'm a hard*** but respect and manners are the two rules that they are never allowed to "slip up" on!

 

[VickiVM]

Not wanting to get flamed here but why on earth as parents/adults would you ever allow your child to act or treat you in that manner?
I have 4 kids ages 19, 16, 9 and 7---I would never tolerate any of them ever speaking to any adult in a rude, disrespectful manner---I am far from a perfect parent and maybe I'm a hard*** but respect and manners are the two rules that they are never allowed to "slip up" on!

ITA! I do have to say - it seems a lot harder these days to raise respectful children when they are surrounded by music, t.v. shows, athletes, etc. that seem to undermine this endeavor. Smart-mouth, sassy, and flippant is 'in'.

 

[Belle0101]

Wow! Our sons are 10 & 6 and they would never talk that way to me. Not only would I not allow it but my DH would never allow them to talk to me like that.

I guess it's the way we've always raised them but we all say "please", "thanks" and "you're welcome" to each other. For example, today I said to DS6 "Could you go check the mail please?" to which he said "Okay." and then when he got in I thanked him. I know that when either one needs help they'll ask please and then say thanks too. Maybe we're too polite but it's a matter of respect. I don't order them around and they don't order me around.

And they'll actually fight each other over who gets to work the washer, they both want to be the one who gets to dump the soap in and turn the buttons.

They also know that if they don't bring their dirty clothes downstairs then when they run out of clean they'll have to wear dirty clothes. I won't collect the dirties for them. And I don't not do it to be mean, it's something they need to learn how to do ... a life skill.

Not to say that they don't aggravate me sometimes ... they try every trick in the book to not have to brush their teeth but I love my kids, I'm proud of them and tell them so everyday.

 

[Mermaid02]

Hey- I don't like it, nor do I do the things he wants me to. I do tell him to say "please" but does it really make a big difference if he's hollering at me from the living room to "bring me a glass of water-please"? He went to his room last night and stayed there until bed.

We're trying, I just needed to vent.