My 19- year old Daughter is trying to Get over an Ex-boyfriend

[Jodi1980]

but will occasionally call him; go see him; they get mad at each; he walks out or hangs up on her; she wants to call him back to say she's sorry, etc, etc. It seems like she has been crying over this guy for the last year. I'm sure it will be harder over the holidays. Any suggestions?

 

[SyracuseWolvrine]

I don't have a whole lot to offer in the way of advice, but probably the biggest step is trying to find things to do that don't involve him. It sounds like they're trying to stay friends, but it doesn't seem to be working. Perhaps call him every once in a while, but not hang out, and then after a few months of only calling, maybe go back to hanging out.

You didn't say why they get mad at each other, but my guess would be that one of them brings up the relationship and why it failed, and/or one of them is still too attached to the other. Whichever one is attached needs to realize that the relationship is over, let it go, even though it's painful.

 

[teh fish]

Get her "He's Just not Into You." If they fight and she always feels like she needs to apologize, that's not a healthy relationship.

If you break up, there's a reason for it and you need to drop all contact.

 

[poohbear926]

Me and my ex-boyfriend would always fight about every little thing. he was the jealous type and every time i said i was going to hang out with my friends we would fight about it. he didnt trust me which i never gave him any reason not to trust me. hes the one who shouldnt be trusted. but when we got into a fight i would cry about it. then i talked to my friends and they helped me. I would never apologize to him because i didnt do anything wrong.. we had 1 fight and after that we ended up not talking for a year. then we started to talk again but all the feelings i had for him i didnt have any more. now he calls me and texts me all the time and i ignore it because i dont want anything to do with him.. so my suggestion to your daughter would be just move on have her go out and meet new people, tell her that she can do and deserves so much better then this guy, keep her busy so she doesnt think about him and want to call him. i dont think she did anything wrong so she shouldnt have to apologize to him. everything happens for a reason and in time she will hopefully get over him.. good luck. i hope i helped some.

I met this guy who i thought was really great. There was some things that i didnt like, like the fact that he smoked, drank, and some other stuff but I ignored them because I liked him sooo much more then i have liked anybody before. I know he liked me to. He told me and told me that he would never hurt me and all this other stuff...but then he would constantly talk about his ex-girlfriend but he would say that he would never go back with her because he cant trust her and all this other stuff. and it would upset me that he had talked about her and I told him that it pissed me off when he talked about her so i would talk about my ex-boyfriend right back. We would talk on the phone every day for hours n hours. 1 day I had told him that I was worried that when i went on vacation his ex would call him and want to hang out and get back together, he turned around and said why? no that wont happen she hasnt called me in a month so I was like whatever. Then Dec.2nd he calls me and tells me that his ex-girlfriend called him and wanted to hang out with him, he told her that he had other plans so she said to him bring your friend down here and we'll all hang out he said to her i dont think my friend wants to come down and hang out so then she says you have another girlfriend dont you. he says yes and she starts whining about it and he tells her to be quiet. so then we talk for about an hour and he says he would call me back when he was done eating dinner but he never did.. He hasn't called me in 26 days. I like cry at everything. I cant help but think about him as much as I dont want to and now that its the holidays i cry even more thinking how we should be together and whateer.. I want to move on but for some reason I cant .. What should i do?

 

[ozarkmom]

Wish I had some answers. My 19 year old son and his girlfriend broke up before he went to college. They'd dated off and on (mostly on) for nearly 2 years. She didn't take the breakup very well and his friends say that she still calls him sometimes to throw a fit or try to pick a fight. Sometimes he talks and sometimes he hangs up on her. If they can't be friends and apparently they can't then I wish she would just stop calling. It's hard sometimes to be 19. Sorry that wasn't any help I guess I'm just letting you know that alot of people are in the same boat.