My 13yr old doesn't want to go now???

[breakingd_awn]

easier to just type. don't need to take vacations...retired over a year ago ..with great benefits and pension at 56.
when we do go on vacations it when out son is out of school.
by the way as i said .. pulling your kids out of school for a vacation is wrong and nothing changes that. your expected to be there unless your sick. would you tell your employer ..i know the week is closed to vacatiopn..but we got this great deal for dcl vacation ...i'm going to go anyways. if work counts why shouldn't school count for attendance.

i doubt any school district would support you in missing school for a vacation.
parents set a bad example when they think it doesn't matter..it does.

now enough said on this ..done posting re this topic.

maybe we can chat about the greatest team in baseball...enough said the yankees of course.

Who would tell their employer ,"I'm going on vacation anyways" . I don't know anyone who has done that or would even consider it.

 

[breakingd_awn]

Said the pot calling the kettle black

 

[OurDogCisco]

Not every child goes to public schools.

Many private schools receive accrediations through WASC, etc... Those accrediations include school attendance standards. So, just because you go to private school doesn't mean you are exempt from missing school. You may not realize the impact missing school has on your child's private school but it does effect them as well.

Also, I never met a teacher that wasn't supportive of family vacations. But I have met many administrators who were against it. I think, it is more complicated in just missing school. I can sympathize with people's work limits and financical limits but I don't make the rules. I believe in education.

 

[grlzmom]

Not every child goes to public schools.

Yep! And, even if they do go to public schools, not all public schools report absences the same way.

Thank goodness!!!

Agreed

Just goes to show that blanket statements shouldn't be used...on the contrary, my school is very supportive when I pull my kids out. They have been some amazing places and traveling is part of my job. My children's teachers are very supportive as well. In fact, I get more grief when they miss cheerleading than school! So doubt away, you are incorrect. I also chose my career for flexibility...I don't want to live my life in a rigid way, and that is MY CHOICE.

I'm glad you are retired and happy. Personally, I think life can be too short to worry about so much perfection. My brother in law died at 34 with brain cancer. I'm pretty sure that the things he remembered while dying for a year wasn't his perfect school attendance, but the memories his family made being together. So while you have the luxury of doing what you want now, some people won't get that chance, ever. Who are you to say they are wrong for taking opportunities as they come?

Ditto, my kids schools (public) have been extremely supportive and encouraging of their trips abroad. Dh has many friends who are "academics", professors and lecturers and they travel abroad A LOT during the school year and most always take their kids with them. Most all of these kids we know are in public school.

About the perfect attendance, it's one award my children will never have hanging on the wall.

It's a personal choice and always a controversial subject. I am glad we have freedom to voice our opinions (although wish that some would be more respectful when they do it) and freedom to make our own choices. The same choice is not the right choice for every family.

For me and mine, we shall continue to vacation and travel year round regardless of others opinions because they are just that, opinions.

 

[clawmachine]

There may be some school districts that fund based on daily attendance, but it is not across the board. Ours does not, as far as I know. Most of the teachers at our school take personal days and/or vacations during the year from time to time as well. Usually it is just for a few days near a holiday, but they do. One teacher is from West Africa and she takes a much longer break to see her family. We are very fortunate to live in a town that was just rated by two magazines as one of the best places to live and raise a family in the country. The school systems are consistently rated as excellent and families from Korea and other countries routinely move part of their families here just to attend these schools. Children graduating from public schools here are consistently getting scholarships to top colleges and great jobs. All that and yes, LOTS of families go on trips during the year!!

It is also NOT true that schools do not allow any days off during the year. At our school there are 2 or 3 "discretionary" days, which means basically you can keep them home for any reason. Therefore a 5 day trip means using only 2 or 3 "non-discretionary" days, and as one teacher said to me "who cares? It doesn't matter anywhere or at any time that you missed those..."

I told my DH about this thread last night and he was laughing because he had a lot of chronic health problems as a kid and missed a bunch of school. I asked him if he thought his level of adult success was affected by that and he just smirked. He graduated summa cum laude with a Physics degree and went on to higher degrees and a very successful career. There are literally hundreds of thousands of kids who miss chunks of school for a variety of reasons. Success in life and in a career is dependent on so many factors that it is bordering on the ridiculous to imply that a missed week every year or so is going to be important.

 

[Dicecatt]

Clawmachine makes great points. Not all schools handle things the same way. And my children do go to public school, but as I stated, not everyone does, so again, blanket statements don't apply.

I also find it amusing that I don't judge you if you decide not to pull your children out for vacation, even though that isn't a decision I choose to make. I don't judge you for your beliefs...to each his own...yet many on here choose to judge those that choose differently than you. I don't agree, but I don't think you are wrong for doing what you do. What gives anyone on here the right to think your way is better, and everyone should follow it? OPINIONS expressed in a respectable way is one thing. Sitting in judgment on others is quite another. The only person allowed to judge me is God...other than God, I'll carry on the way I see fit, and you do the same.

My choice is to not raise my children to be worker ants and do exactly the perceived right thing all the time. I want them to experience the world, when and if available, even if that means October versus July. I want them to have the world open to them, which is why I chose the career I did. There is a lot more out there than perfect attendance records and getting a pension...in fact, pensions are rare. Life is for living, not saving to live...just my belief. You are entitled to yours and I don't think you are wrong for yours...so please, allow me that freedom as well.

 

[mmouse37]

Ok...enough!!! All have said what was on their mind and no one is going to convice the other of their position....call it a draw. This thread will now close.

MJ