Exactly! When I lived in NJ, I dreamed of living in Orlando/Orlando area, and now that I do and I visit frequently, it just doesn't feel the same. Sure, I love being able to go often, and experiencing just about every special event/party that Disney offers (Food & Wine, P&PP, etc.) but it never feels like a vacation, because it never is -I'm there for a day, then gone. I suppose I could book a room for a week and go, but it's hard to justify the cost when you live so close.
And the crime isn't isolated to just one area of Orlando. Sure, there are nice areas to be had, though many of the nicer areas tend to be very pricey when it comes to homes, and I don't know about now, with the downturn in the market, but rental rates for apartments are high. Pay however, is still low. There's still a misconception that things in the South are cheaper, and that's not true. It doesn't help that the two biggest employers in Central Florida are Disney and Wal-Mart, neither of which is known for paying high salaries for the majority of their positions.
I moved out of Orlando a litter farther away because I couldn't take the growing crime and drug problem (every day the news had stories of violence) and a police department that seemed unable to do anything to slow it down. Orlando has already had about 6-7 murders this year. The first happened minutes into 2008.
I think anyone considering moving to Orlando needs to think carefully about this and not be clouded by the "magic", because there's a lot more to Orlando than the mouse. I moved here for school, and now have obligations in the area. If I was living someplace else, I would have to think long and hard about making the move.
Just my .02