Moving away from kids...

[Riles_and_Gabe]

Yep

Your "friend" is going to be extra super surprised when you show up on her doorstep on December 6th with your kids in tow. That was very nice of your wife to let you take your kids for 4 weeks to Dallas during school and the Holidays.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

Your "friend" is going to be extra super surprised when you show up on her doorstep on December 6th with your kids in tow. That was very nice of your wife to let you take your kids for 4 weeks to Dallas during school and the Holidays.

Again... Where did I say any of that was going to happen???

You really need to brush on your reading skills..

 

[Nancyg56]

I will add you to the I list of board blowhards posting assumptions...

Okay, I have read the entire thread and I really thought that the folks here (not all "hens" BTW" were really quite tame with you. I just say that I have no idea what you are going to do, and I rather doubt that you have any job potential, no matter whatever your background really is. You have a pattern of living off of others, right down to whining that no friends have offered to take you in, so I would bet you a buck that they, like your wife, like your mother, have decided that they will not support your non working self.

Now, if you have found a woman who is willing to pay your freight, go for it. I think that she is the best you can do so jump in before she also sees that you cannot support yourself, never mind contribute to a household.

As to your children, be sure to remember that this is your choice and later on, when they decide they have better things to do, accept that they don't owe you anything.

My first husband died when my kids were very young. He drank himself to death, and while I never told the kids all of the gory details, they were not stupid. I met a wonderful man who raised them as his own and if anyone ever made the mistake of not referring to him as their Dad, well............they set the record straight. YOu may find that your soon to be ex finds someone who does not look for greener pastures, adn your children may decide that the man who is there is their Dad, not the guy who traipsed off when something better came up. Just sayin'.

Again, I never said I was going, asked for opinion... But too many hens here have went from point A to D without asking about B and C..

You came here looking for validation. You did to get it. Now do what you want to do.

 

[Riles_and_Gabe]

Again... Where did I say any of that was going to happen???

You really need to brush on your reading skills..

My reading skills are fine. I read your previous post about the Alamo/Debit Card question. You stated on that thread you were arriving on December 6th and staying for 4 weeks. You didn't want to ask your friend to pick you up because you planned on showing up on their doorstep as a surprise. Since you will be there for 4 weeks AND spending the Holidays with your children. I am using basic math skills to deduce that they will be with you in Dallas.

 

[DznyCrzy11]

Again, I never said I was going, asked for opinion... But too many hens here have went from point A to D without asking about B and C..

This is hilarious, LMAO. There are also "roosters" on here too, lol. OP, I think you are the confused one. Your posts contradict themselves. My two cents, if you really love your children you will stay in that area.

Your "friend" is going to be extra super surprised when you show up on her doorstep on December 6th with your kids in tow. That was very nice of your wife to let you take your kids for 4 weeks to Dallas during school and the Holidays.

Again... Where did I say any of that was going to happen???

You really need to brush on your reading skills..

No, you did mention in an earlier post that you were flying down Dec 6 and staying for 4 weeks....

Although this thread started out sounding sad, it has turned into quite a comical thread...

Sent from my Galaxy SII

 

[moon]

Your "friend" is going to be extra super surprised when you show up on her doorstep on December 6th with your kids in tow. That was very nice of your wife to let you take your kids for 4 weeks to Dallas during school and the Holidays.

great post

 

[laughinplace199]

And in January of 2013 he and his wife were both Public School Teachers. Now he's in Finance. Or Baseball. Or Teaching Financial Baseball. Or being supported by a Wife/Mother/Girlfriend. At an Elite Level. Or Something.

Thanks. I just spit my tea all over my keyboard!

 

[HHSTigerFan]

Okay, I have read the entire thread and I really thought that the folks here (not all "hens" BTW" were really quite tame with you. I just say that I have no idea what you are going to do, and I rather doubt that you have any job potential, no matter whatever your background really is. You have a pattern of living off of others, right down to whining that no friends have offered to take you in, so I would bet you a buck that they, like your wife, like your mother, have decided that they will not support your non working self. Now, if you have found a woman who is willing to pay your freight, go for it. I think that she is the best you can do so jump in before she also sees that you cannot support yourself, never mind contribute to a household. As to your children, be sure to remember that this is your choice and later on, when they decide they have better things to do, accept that they don't owe you anything. My first husband died when my kids were very young. He drank himself to death, and while I never told the kids all of the gory details, they were not stupid. I met a wonderful man who raised them as his own and if anyone ever made the mistake of not referring to him as their Dad, well............they set the record straight. YOu may find that your soon to be ex finds someone who does not look for greener pastures, adn your children may decide that the man who is there is their Dad, not the guy who traipsed off when something better came up. Just sayin'. You came here looking for validation. You did to get it. Now do what you want to do.

Non working??? 8 months a year I average 65 hours a week, 4 months a year I work 4-5 days a week.. No frickin idea what you are talking about!!

 

[disneydee6]

I commented on this yesterday, when it was at 3 pages. It seems to have REALLY escalated. My opinion is that your OP question of if anyone has experience with this has completely gone off topic, but for those who have (i.e.: those whose parent or friend did this), didn't offer the wisdom or good thoughts toward this decision that you wanted to hear. People, including myself, often come onto internet forums looking for sympathy or a listening ear, but that didn't happen, and feelings get hurt, and people get defensive.

Reflect on why so many people have such strong opinions on this. Look at the posts where people talk about their EXPERIENCE on this (and less on the judgmental ones [there were some, I agree]) and see if moving is what is best for all parties involved. If you have your heart set on leaving, are you prepared for all the repercussions? Lots to think about. Discuss with your family and friends and a therapist, and not with strangers how only know a few sentences about you.

Again, good luck.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Non working??? 8 months a year I average 65 hours a week, 4 months a year I work 4-5 days a week.. No frickin idea what you are talking about!!

Then why say this on the first page?

I was wanting to do it for just a few years, then look to get back to the area... Feel like I really need to hit the restart button, feel really suffocated by family and friends... Plus the job market down there seems to be much better..

 

[Nancyg56]

Non working??? 8 months a year I average 65 hours a week, 4 months a year I work 4-5 days a week.. No frickin idea what you are talking about!!

Let me be frank. You tell us that you are working year round, and average 65 hours per week. If you need to live with your mother or have to rely on your friends to "take you in", there is something drastically wrong. I am not sure what you really do for a living, it seems you are "well rounded" in respect to your employment history. Teacher, accountant/financial something, baseball travel . So what is happening that you cannot pay your way?

So if I understood that you were willing to walk away from all of those hours you work for a temporary position in another State, away from your children, from December 6th thru 4 weeks, with or without your kids (hard to tell) forgive me.

Bottom line is that it is very difficult to know what is really going on here. If you want to begin again, perhaps your story will be clearer.

 

[RitaE]

Non working??? 8 months a year I average 65 hours a week, 4 months a year I work 4-5 days a week.. No frickin idea what you are talking about!!

So to summarize:
So you are a Public School teacher with a summer gig who has also been somewhat of a Stay At Home Dad primarily responsible for keeping the kids out of daycare ... flying to and from Elite Baseball tournaments all summer long.

Meanwhile while being suffocated by your Mother (who is perhaps about as fed up with you as the DIS is getting to be) and you have crappy friends who won't volunteer to let the man with two (three maybe after the upcoming seasonal interview) live on their game room couch indefinitely.

Meanwhile you have a Lawyer who has given you the opinion that the Judge will likely force your wife (also a Public School teacher probably making a similar salary) into paying spousal maintenance.

And this whole ex-girlfriend sparking thing has been totally above board and sexually innocent because you and your wife have basically been living separate lives for months, even though you just spent a heck o' alot of money remodeling a house together.

You'll be heading to the Dallas area for 4 weeks but that does not mean you will be away from your children over the Holidays. Prior, you accidentally charged airfare to the Dallas to your wife's Debit card but nobody please assume anything smarmy about that.

Okay Then.



Everybody on the Same Page and Clear????? HHSTIGERFAN feel free to chide over any misrepresentations of your prior posts that I might have made because: Truth!

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

So to summarize: So you are a Public School teacher with a summer gig who has also been somewhat of a Stay At Home Dad primarily responsible for keeping the kids out of daycare ... flying to and from Elite Baseball tournaments all summer long. Meanwhile while being suffocated by your Mother (who is perhaps about as fed up with you as the DIS is getting to be) and you have crappy friends who won't volunteer to let the man with two (three maybe after the upcoming seasonal interview) live on their game room couch indefinitely. Meanwhile you have a Lawyer who has given you the opinion that the Judge will likely force your wife (also a Public School teacher probably making a similar salary) into paying spousal maintenance. And this whole ex-girlfriend sparking thing has been totally above board and sexually innocent because you and your wife have basically been living separate lives for months, even though you just spent a heck o' alot of money remodeling a house together. You'll be heading to the Dallas area for 4 weeks but that does not mean you will be away from your children over the Holidays. Prior, you accidentally charged airfare to the Dallas to your wife's Debit card but nobody please assume anything smarmy about that. Okay Then. Everybody on the Same Page and Clear????? HHSTIGERFAN feel free to chide over any misrepresentations of your prior posts that I might have made because: Truth!

I needed that... Thanks lol

 

[sduck]

Again, you are going from A to D...

I am indeed planning on flying down Dec 4, coming back around Jan 6... Since you have all the answers, you smart enough to figure out b and c??? I doubt it

Seriously, walk away from the computer. Go spend some time with the children. Don't come back to this thread. You are really not doing any good for anyone.

For the record, my wife post's on the boards and she is not a HEN!! You need to learn a bit of respect for woman and some self control. Walk away.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

So to summarize: So you are a Public School teacher with a summer gig who has also been somewhat of a Stay At Home Dad primarily responsible for keeping the kids out of daycare ... flying to and from Elite Baseball tournaments all summer long. Meanwhile while being suffocated by your Mother (who is perhaps about as fed up with you as the DIS is getting to be) and you have crappy friends who won't volunteer to let the man with two (three maybe after the upcoming seasonal interview) live on their game room couch indefinitely. Meanwhile you have a Lawyer who has given you the opinion that the Judge will likely force your wife (also a Public School teacher probably making a similar salary) into paying spousal maintenance. And this whole ex-girlfriend sparking thing has been totally above board and sexually innocent because you and your wife have basically been living separate lives for months, even though you just spent a heck o' alot of money remodeling a house together. You'll be heading to the Dallas area for 4 weeks but that does not mean you will be away from your children over the Holidays. Prior, you accidentally charged airfare to the Dallas to your wife's Debit card but nobody please assume anything smarmy about that. Okay Then. Everybody on the Same Page and Clear????? HHSTIGERFAN feel free to chide over any misrepresentations of your prior posts that I might have made because: Truth!

You are way off in several areas, please don't let the facts get in the way of your story..

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

You are way off in several areas, please don't let the facts get in the way of your story..

Can you correct her summary please then? Inquiring minds want to know the true story...

 

[HHSTigerFan]

Can you correct her summary please then? Inquiring minds want to know the true story...

Most glaring lie is that my attorney has said the
lawyer said a judge would force spousal maintence. I clearly said I want no part of that and said such here

 

[mom2AidanAndEli]

Again, you are going from A to D...

I am indeed planning on flying down Dec 4, coming back around Jan 6... Since you have all the answers, you smart enough to figure out b and c??? I doubt it

So please explain, in baby steps since I'm too dense to figure it out on my own, how you are spending the holidays with your kids unless they're with you in Dallas. Last time I checked, Christmas Eve, Christmas, and New Years all fall between December 4th and January 6th. You're in Dallas. They're in Chicago. What exactly am I missing?

Ah, I've got it.....SKYPE!!! That's how you're together on the holidays, right?

 

[Riles_and_Gabe]

My lawyer said I could get spousal maintenance for a few years, I told him no way, she needs that income to raise the kids and keep the house going.. Just like I refused to take a single thing, other than my clothes, out of the house..

Most glaring lie is that my attorney has said the
lawyer said a judge would force spousal maintence. I clearly said I want no part of that and said such here

Who was lying? The PP mentioned that you had a lawyer that said a judge would force spousal maintence. They didn't say you were going to take it. You should practice your writing skills and jot down everything you say so you don't get so confused.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

So please explain, in baby steps since I'm too dense to figure it out on my own, how you are spending the holidays with your kids unless they're with you in Dallas. Last time I checked, Christmas Eve, Christmas, and New Years all fall between December 4th and January 6th. You're in Dallas. They're in Chicago. What exactly am I missing? Ah, I've got it.....SKYPE!!! That's how you're together on the holidays, right?

Simple.. I fly down early Dec, fly back Jan 6.. Dec 20 she is driving home to visit her parents.. On Dec 28 go back, I will ride back and forth with her..... Jan 3-5 I have a baseball convention down there, fly back next day..