Move in with co-worker, what would u do?

[2angelsinheaven]

We are looking to move into a cheaper rental, a lot cheaper...lol! We are living in a 4/2/2 that we in no way need or want to pay for. So I've been looking at apartments BUT we're in a shortage in this area due to last year's hurricanes. SO, my co-worker says she is looking for new roomie, and well I'm looking for a place... so 1 and 1 make 2 and we set up a time to meet.

We've lived on our own most of the six years we've lived together, however we did have a roomate once before for a few months (which didn't work out). He left, I know she won't leave since she owns the house...

So surprisingly DFiance' says go for it... am I crazy or do you think it's smart. Here's the lo-down.

We'd save $757 a month in bills, since the rent would include all utilities except phone (which I pay already and would wan to move there). That's an incredible amount of money, but is it worth loosing privacy?

We're not rich, $757 more than half a month's work for me (social services...lol) so it's a big help, but we will have a bit further to commute (about 15 more minutes) however now our work's will be reversed and DFiance' will be dropped off not me, so he will be forced to do overtime since I work 2 hours later than him. So heres more $$$.

We will have to rent a storage unit since we have w/d and lawn stuff, furniture, etc. I'm thinking $50 or so a month for smaller unit.

We'll have the entire back of the house which is the master bedroom and spare room and bathroom. And the other pro is that we work at the same place, but work different days, so the days I work she is off and the ones I work she is off (different shifts) so we'll have "alone" time worked in each week.

What would you do, DFiance' and I could save lots for a house after we get married if we do this. Help! I'm so indecisive.

 

[Michie]

In a word, don't.

 

[debster812]

I wouldn't do it.

 

[cinmell]

I wouldn't do it.

 

[cats7494]

I understand the financial part of it - saving money is always wonderful. But I would not be comfortable living with another woman with a fiance - to be honest.
Also - living with a co-worker would make me nervous. If things do not go well at home it will definitely affect the work place.

Personally - I would not do it.

 

[Microcell]

I have to agree. I would not, two women and a man... I dunno, unless she is 80, but even then, I have seen stranger on Springer!

 

[chrissyk]

I wouldn't do it. Aside from it sounding like an odd situation in terms of privacy loss, I'd worry about the "extra 15 minutes" on the commute. Depending on what roads you're adding into the mix, that 15 minutes could be more like an hour around here! One reason that we won't move off the beachside is that I don't want DH to have to take 95 to work. That road is great if there is no traffic, but one accident seems to tie it up for hours!

 

[Yardbird]

I agree with everyone else, not a good idea. I once moved in with a co-worker, she was looking for a roommate, and I was looking for an apartment. I thought it would be fine, we were friendly, and got along well. Ten months later when I moved out, we were no longer friends, and she wasn't as "nice" as I thought.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Nope not under the situation you describe. I would have to be in dire straights. I would not do it to "save" money. My privacy is worth more.

 

[Crankyshank]

Not only no, but hell no!

 

[skiwee1]

No way. I wouldn't do it if it were free!

 

[CarolA]

I am going to be the desenter.

I have been in this situation due to an emergency. My ex fiance and I allowed a coworker (female) of his to move in with a KID LOL! We worked it out and it allowed her to get back on her feet.

Now, my ex worked in a place where he was always the only man so I didn't think that having this woman there was any more temptation then he already had and if I hadn't trusted him I wouldn't have stayed with him anyway-roommate or not.

I also have roomed when I was younger with lots of folks I met at work... When you move to a new town making next to nothing I figure a co-worker is a better bet then the bum off the street LOL!

(As to why he's my ex.... this situation had nothing to do with it... I just got cold feet. I was VERY young (21) and just not ready to settle down. He was a wonderful man!)

 

[Danvers]

Not only no, but hell no!

To put it in a quote, "HELL to the no!"

 

[sgtdisney]

Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.

 

[robinb]

I see nothing wrong with adults in a roommate situation. I live in a college town and it happens all the time here. In fact, my friend owns a house and she always has roommates to help her pay her mortgage. It works out well for her.

You would have 2 rooms plus a private bath. That isn't so bad. Have you met the woman? Do you know people who know her? Can you talk to them? Talk to her about her expectations about cooking, cleaning, common areas, parties, quiet time, pets, etc. I think if you have a good personality fit, it should be OK.

*sigh* I am in the minority again!

 

[katerkat]

I wouldn't. My husband and I lived with a friend/co-worker for 3.5 months while they were in training. It was awkward. Very different from my previous roommate situations. I would never do it again.

 

[kasar]

I think I'd be more agreeable if it wasn't a coworker. Things have a way of turning ugly and you could possibly lose a job over this.

I know the money looks tempting and I'm sure you want to buy your own place, but really think about this one. I think I'd pick up a second job before I would do that.

 

[JuliaEeyore]

I have no problems mixing genders. I have problems mixing co-workers and roommates. I wouldn't do it... live with a co-worker. Regardless of the shift set-up.

Good luck!

 

[antkim]

I wouldn't do it....co workers and living together is a recipe for disaster! Been there, done that!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I could care less about mixing genders, I just would not want the lack of privacy.