Mother vent - Am I crazy for being miffed at this?

[mookie]

My mom just called. Her and my dad are planning on stopping by tonight because we have a family NCAA pool where we all pick teams and follow them through the tournament. (Family tradition...)

Anyway, so, first she calls this morning and asks when DH will be home. He has been really busy at work, and it's an hour commute, so it's been kind of late. He told me that he'll try to leave at 5 so we can eat at a decent hour, but if he can't just order something he can eat cold (like pizza) and we can eat w/o him. My mom then says "Well, we don't want to be waiting around all night, so if he's not home by 6, we're just not going to come." I forgot that DH is the only one they want to see, not their daughter or their granddaughter.

THEN, this is the kicker: She just called me and asked what we were doing for dinner. Since they couldn't give me a solid time as to when they were coming over, and since DH time getting home is unpredictable, I figured I'd just order a pizza. My mom got all disgusted with me, and said " Ugh, Pizza? I thought maybe you'd cook for us. You are a 31 year old SAHM, a nice home cooked meal would be nice."

Am I out of line for thinking she was rude? Especially to call me a few hours before they come over to request dinner? I'm feeding them, just not making it from scratch!?!?!?!

Maybe it's the pregnant hormones talking, but for some reason, it just rubbed me the wrong way. Like what I was doing wasn't good enough. Am I overreacting?

 

[jenwolgey]

I do not think you are overreacting- her comments were rude and way out of line!

 

[sharbear]

Are you my sister? My mom drives me crazy about these things also.

My mom thinks that everything is about her. If my DH is busy and can't come to something or is not home, it's because he doesn't like her. Uh, no! He's busy with work and it's like this all the time.

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

I would just tell her that if they did not want pizza then either she could cook for all of you, or they could take you out to the restaurant of their choice. Sorry, if she doesn't like the menu then she can dine elsewhere in my book!

 

[Minnie824]

Thats definitely rude and would annoy me. My mom has comments that I just don't understand, all the time....not that I don't understand what they mean, but that I don't understand how she could say them to her daughter. Tell her its pizza or you'll make her a nice home-cooked grilled cheese sandwich.

 

[Mom2be]

You should be commended. You're pregnant and then tell your mother to go stuff it after she said that - hell, way to go on keeping your cool. My mother would have gotten a real nasty remark back from myself (also pregnant) and I would of told her where she could shove the pizza.

~Amanda

 

[VSL]

I would be miffed too!

 

[EthansMom]

Honestly, I'd have said, "Well, then it's a good thing I didn't invite you to dine with us!" There's a reason I'm sometimes called a name that rhymes with Witch -- 'cause I don't let people pull stuff with me.

 

[Microcell]

No, you are not crazy. That was rude.

 

[lulugirl]

It's not your horomones, she was very rude.

 

[kimmikayb]

Put me down for rude too....I actually thought both comments were rude.

So what are you cooking?

 

[HayGan]

Put another checkmark in the rude column for me. I am so thankful that my mom never speaks to me like that!

Let us know how the pizza is!

 

[Patty3]

I do not think you are overreacting- her comments were rude and way out of line!

I agree. Some parents as they get older feel that they can say anything they want to their adult children and not give it a second thought.

 

[mookie]

Thanks for all of you for helping me see I'm not crazy. Now here's an update for you:

So, they call me again. They are now on their way. They ask me where we are getting the pizza from them. I tell them. Silence. Then they suggest another place. So I tell them if they want to pick it up, fine.

THEN, my mom asks if I have salad at the house. We are having a big party for DD's birthday this weekend, so I am trying to put off grocery shopping so as not to fill up the fridge. So, when i tell her I was just going to order everything, first she says "You can't even make a salad?" THEN she says, "so all you were planning on having was pizza?" When I told her I could order salads from the same place, she mumbled something under her breath about it being soggy. I told her if she didn't like it, turn the car around and go home, but I was done with this conversation.


ARRRRGHHHH!!!!!!! Unbelieveable.

 

[Ranatra]

I cannot believe how rude she was to you!! Has she always been like this?

I wouldn't have her over again until she learned some manners and I'd tell her so.

 

[mookie]

I cannot believe how rude she was to you!! Has she always been like this?

I wouldn't have her over again until she learned some manners and I'd tell her so.

Not really, but she does have a tendency to be "straightforward." We've never seen eye to eye on much.

I think she is just finishing up "the phase." I was at her house yesterday, and she brought me a half used box of Kotex, and said to me..."Here, I don't need these anymore!!!"

 

[FreshTressa]

You should be commended. You're pregnant and then tell your mother to go stuff it after she said that - hell, way to go on keeping your cool. My mother would have gotten a real nasty remark back from myself (also pregnant) and I would of told her where she could shove the pizza.

~Amanda

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ITA!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

The important thing is what do you say back?
If my parents fire off a rude one they know it is coming right back at them.
Sorry mom is being a pain.

 

[disneymom3]

Whoa! I am thinking I wouldn't be making plans again anytime soon with Dear old Mom! Rude on top of rude. Please tell me you are going to her house next and can call several times and be rude to her.

 

[pearlieq]

Wow! Holy rude! I'm impressed you were as nice as you were about it!

Good luck tonight!