Mother In Law

[Disneynut11676]

I just came from a BBQ at DH's parents house & when everyone else (there were 18 of us) was gone, I got to sit down and talk to my mil about some problems that I am going through. She and I have not always seen eye to eye, but she has always been there for me. Tonight I finally realized though that I consider her to be one of my best friends. Anyone else have a great relationship with their mother in law, or is mine one in a million? Just thought that I would share.

Michelle

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I really love my MIL. We don't quite have the major problem sharing relationship yet. But I find myself using her as a sounding board for a lot of things. Especially since my own Mom moved farther away.

I hope our relationship continues to grow.

 

[crs7568]

Wish I could say the same, but unfortunately I have the MIL from hell. I swear that the woman would eat her young. I am happy for you, though. It must be really nice for you.

 

[Nutsy]

I've never had a MIL, but I think it's great that you find yours to be so great

 

[Sonya]

I feel so blessed to have my MIL. She is someone I can to talk to and give good advice. She is a wonderful grandmother to Sam. After hearing everyone elses' stories about their bad MIL I know I have one of the best.

 

[amid chaos]

I thought I had a good one but she made a comment at a funeral a couple weeks ago which made me understand how she really feels about me after 27 years.

 

[SnowAngel]

I don't know my MIL very well. I can count the number of times I've talked to her in ten years on my hands. We live a good distance away and I don't really talk to her. We have visited twice. I even have to force dh to call her.
She seems nice enough but I don't know her well and dh has some issues with childhood with her

 

[Dizzy-Disney4]

Well, DH's Mom is a very selfish woman so, no I don't get along with her, but no one in her own family gets along with her either.
Now, Dh's Step-Mom is a sweetheart and while I wouldn't say we're close, we have an ok relationship that I hope continues to grow.

 

[WDWLVR]

Overall I consider myself very lucky to have the MIL I do. We get along fine and have even traveled together (though I doubt we'll do that again). She was absolutely wonderful to my mom when she was alive and even in death it is my MIL who tends the flowers on my mom's grave.

We may not agree on everything, but I know she respects my opinion.

She gave me her greatest gift - her son - and for that I'm very grateful.

 

[Mskanga]

I used to think my MIL was the best, until I realized that it was only if they could benefit from something.
Too many things happened, but the funny thing is they came around when they needed help. I helped just like I would do for my parents ( for my dh's sake ) but in the end I got kicked again, last year when they both passed , they left a little bit of money, not that I expected anything ( actually I expected to have to pay for part of the funeral ) , but apparently FIL left a bit of money and all the children were told ( in a letter ) , not to say anything to the significant others because they were not family. I must say I was the only significant other , and at the time we had been married 13 years, you would think that would be long enough to be part of the family?
The sad part is that knowing it was the wrong thing to do, his children agreed to respect the father's wish , but dh didn't, he told me. I'm sorry to say I have no contact with them , I don't need a family like this, my friends are more family to me than they are.

 

[jamsmom]

I think it is wonderful that some of you have such a great relationship with your MIL. I don;t have one, currently...don;t know if I ever will again.

My ex-MIL was nice, but my es scared her so she was always leary when we were there. If I only had believed her before we ever married.

 

[SuiteDisney]

I adored my MIL. In some ways, I was closer to her than anyone else and I miss her every single day.

 

[doxdogy]

My MIL and FIL were great. They are both gone now and do indeed miss them. My BIL is another story.

 

[katerkat]

My MIL is good. A little annoying at times, but OK. My FIL -- DH's biological father -- is another story. He blew off one of DH's parent's weekends in college -- the only one of four that he promised to go to -- for a Nascar race. My parents came instead. We'll be in Mississippi for a year, and so far, his parents (MIL and Step-FIL) have been twice, SIL and GMIL have been once, my parents have been once and plan to come in December, and my sisters are coming down in October. Has FIL hinted even once that he might like to come down? (We can't go up because DH has absolutely no vacation while in training.) Grrrr...

 

[Gette88]

DH is not close to his parents. We live in the same town and see each other ALOT, at family parties and the kids activities. His parents are raising 4 of their grandchilren 2 of which are the same age as DD. DH never got along with his parents very well. 2 years ago my BIL commited suicide. My in-laws have chaned ALOT towards us since then. They were always cold toward DH before that. MIL treated me better then him. DH would of cut all ties years ago if I'd of let him. I just always knew if something was to happen to them DH would regret the years he would have missed. So I've made sure they have a decent relationship for DH's sake. Also DH has a big family & i wanted our DD's to grow up around all their cousins. It's alot of work to make it look effortless. MIL calls me almost everyday and I like her but she has always had favorites - with her kids and grandkids and I don't like that. So again I ignore things for DH's sake.

 

[nativetxn]

I think it is great that you are so close to your MIL. You are a very fortunate person.

 

[4greatboys]

Im not really that close to my mil. She is a nut. I try only to see them when I must.

 

[Mjasp]

To answer the original post.

YEP...She's one in a million.

 

[disykat]

Like some of the others here, I thought I had a great MIL. We used to talk on the phone (long distance) regularly. About 5 years in my FIL told me they can't stand me, think I'm a horrible wife, etc. Very hurtful.

You are very fortunate.

 

[crazyforpooh]

I have known my MIL since I was a young girl of 14 so I've known her for 30 years - 10 dating this October 20 married to her son. For many years we were very close. Then one day a near fatal accident almost took the life of my best friend, lover and husband. When He was in the hospital for 6 months and I was in charge MIL and FIL didn't like it very much because it was their son and I was just his wife. So it put a bit of a strain on our relationship but, I still wouldn't trade her for all the money in the world. I can honestly say I love my Mother in Law but, I do think it's sad that in 30 years I have only seen her kiss her son twice. They are not a huggy touchy feely family but, we are DH, DD, and myself and even more so now since the accident.


So enjoy your MIL she in one in a Million.