moochie neighbor

[leadfootlevi]

Nothing like this shocks me anymore. Just like Sebastian says "give them an inch, they swim all over."

My advice? Ignore them - don't even answer the door.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Oh my, I understand asking for a couple of eggs or 3 tsp of baking soda, etc but to ask you to go to the store to buy ink...wow, just wow!

 

[KathleensKid]

Grab a glass of wine
create a price list:
eggs 25 cents each
milk 50 cents per cup
toilet paper 100 a roll
jar of spices 3 dollars
etc.
Print it out on your printer.
Pour another glass of wine and laugh yourself silly.
The next time her kids come over, send the price list back to their mom.

 

[worm761]

Grab a glass of wine
create a price list:
eggs 25 cents each
milk 50 cents per cup
toilet paper 100 a roll
jar of spices 3 dollars
etc.
Print it out on your printer.
Pour another glass of wine and laugh yourself silly.
The next time her kids come over, send the price list back to their mom.

Those prices are entirely too cheap! I would expect to be paid for my item, my time, the gas to get the item. She might find those prices reasonable and the next thing you know OP is a grocery store!

 

[hereyago]

Holy Moly!

My neighbors and I may ask each other for something like a leaf blower or a ladder, but it's always reciprocated if they know I don't have something they will say you want to borrow this, but mostly we are all pretty much 'stocked".

I have never gone to my neighbor's or had DD go to the house and ask for any sort of food(sometimes people forget they don't have certain ingredients, but good grief I bet the neighbor didn't have to do grocery shop because she was shopping at OP's and who ever else's house)

 

[dakcp2001]

I don't even have word. I would have lost it too!

I am also floored because we have never thought to ask a neighbor for anything. One neighbor has helped us out and snow blowed out sidewalk for us (we were away) and we borrowed tools once but it was returned within the hour.

wow. i am floored.

You don't have to answer but can I ask what she said or did after you lost it?
Lara

You know those people that seem to think the world owes them something? The people who always fashin themselves as a victim of the world? She is one of those. Yuck. She kept saying she has 4 kids and she couldn't imagine what I was doing all day that was so important that I could not go to the store. She seems pretty resentful of the kids. She also said She hardly sees me go to work at all, and after that gem she didn't get another word in because that was when I unloaded. She shut the door on me. By the way, I work full time as a nurse so I work 3 shifts a week, but they are long days I work over 40 hours a week. This woman is a complete whackadoo.

 

[QVCshopper]

I had a friend like this. Honestly, looking back, I was used and won't stand for it anymore. The second she moved to the next town over, I never heard from her. But, I watched her kids for free, her cats for free, cleaned her house, gave her tons and tons of stuff never to get any of it back... Oh well. I'd honestly talk to the mother. Just ridiculous. Once in a while, sure thing. Everyday, heck no!

 

[POOHsie]

My moochie neighbor is a retired guy. When he first moved in, he came over and looked over my house and asked me about my stuff, did I want to keep this or that. When my DH died he asked about getting his tools. He asked about my LazyBoy chair and matching sofa tables, and I gave them to him because I started using a wheelchair, and I didn't have room for that much furniture. He also got a big sofa table and matching chest of drawers, really my whole matching living room suite minus the sofa. All of it only a few years old. He never offered me a dime for it.

He asked to borrow my DH's reciprocating saw, and 3 years later he still had it until I needed it and took it from his carport one day while he wasn't home. Next time he went to use it, he called me to report it missing. I said I took it back 'cause I needed it, and he seemed miffed. However, he has since bought his own. He has our lawn spreader. He's loaned it out to other people and I don't know where it is now. Every time he used it to fertilize, he told me he would do my yard, too. It's never happened. He's been thru other's houses and asked for their stuff, too. One guy gave him a LazyBoy-type chair that was electric with a controller for different positions. So he wanted me to take back the LazyBoy I gave him. I said no. This month, his Korean War buddy from Florida sold and financed his old furnished mobile home to him, so the neighbor is moving to Fla. Good. He'll be back up here to pack up, and what do you want to bet, he'll want me to take back all the furniture cause he won't need it? Sheesh!

 

[Carina]

borrow from my neihbour probably once every month or 2, definalty more than she borrows from me.

But we loaned her our car 2 times to get to work when hers was dead ( that was a long time ago) and just a few weeks ago she wanted to borrow mayo for the next days lunches. I was out of mayo, but on my way to the store so I bought her a jar and would not take any money for it, told her then I could borrow guilt free for awhile.

We live a little way out of town so being able to borrow instead of having to drive in for one little thing really saves us money.

Other than that I may borrow the odd egg, or something obscure like oxo, not knowing I was out, and dinner is 1/2 way cooked!

I'm can confidently say I know she dosen't mind, and appreciates borrowing a glug of milk for her tea when she opens the fridge to see the kids finished it! (which is the most common thing she borrows)

We are also in a townhouse and share a balcony - it's just divided by a railing which means we are pretty 'close' neighbours.

Glad I have that, I agree the OP's story is WAY over the top for whats OK, but I certianly don't think all borrowing is bad.

 

[crisi]

You know those people that seem to think the world owes them something? The people who always fashin themselves as a victim of the world? She is one of those. Yuck. She kept saying she has 4 kids and she couldn't imagine what I was doing all day that was so important that I could not go to the store. She seems pretty resentful of the kids. She also said She hardly sees me go to work at all, and after that gem she didn't get another word in because that was when I unloaded. She shut the door on me. By the way, I work full time as a nurse so I work 3 shifts a week, but they are long days I work over 40 hours a week. This woman is a complete whackadoo.

I'm so sorry. Having whackadoo neighbors is the worst because you really aren't sure when whacked is going to come your direction and there isn't much you can do. I grew up next to a guy who used to beat his wife and chase her around the backyard with a gun - both naked. My parents were terrified, but if she didn't press charges - apparently a man has a right to run around his backyard naked playing tag with his wife with a loaded weapon in his hand. And frankly, even if you sat around all day watching old Star Trek episodes and eating Pringles while living off your $300 million trust fund, it really isn't her concern.

 

[mdsoccermom]

I would have told her it didn't matter if I sat on my butt all day with enough money to buy out Hewlett-Packard. The fact that she had 4 kids and was too lazy to get her own ink was not my problem.

 

[dakcp2001]

I'm so sorry. Having whackadoo neighbors is the worst because you really aren't sure when whacked is going to come your direction and there isn't much you can do. I grew up next to a guy who used to beat his wife and chase her around the backyard with a gun - both naked. My parents were terrified, but if she didn't press charges - apparently a man has a right to run around his backyard naked playing tag with his wife with a loaded weapon in his hand. And frankly, even if you sat around all day watching old Star Trek episodes and eating Pringles while living off your $300 million trust fund, it really isn't her concern.

Haha oh my! Fun neighbors!

 

[hereyago]

This thread makes me recall this about one of DF" s friends moms: My DF had just passed away to lung cancer. His friend's mom (who obviously knew my DF) called and I thought she would say: sorry about your DF.

Um nope. she said, hey, can I have your DF"s car? Color me shocked. I was like um no, his 1 car had been sold before he passed and the other car was my mom's.

There was no other calls from her after that.

 

[QVCshopper]

This thread makes me recall this about one of DF" s friends moms: My DF had just passed away to lung cancer. His friend's mom (who obviously knew my DF) called and I thought she would say: sorry about your DF.

Um nope. she said, hey, can I have your DF"s car? Color me shocked. I was like um no, his 1 car had been sold before he passed and the other car was my mom's.

There was no other calls from her after that.

That's so utterly terrible! So sorry it happened!

My previous friend called up my MIL (got her number out of the phone book--not from me) and had my MIL watch her kids while she looked at the house next door for sale. She ended up buying it, but that was the beginning of the end for me. That took a lot of nerve and crossed a line, IMHO. She thought nothing was wrong with it.

OP, some people are weird and don't like like to drive or shop. My friend was like that; she would stay home and her DH would go do all the grocery shopping with all of the kids in tow. Very odd. She got people to do things for her and give her things all the time; she also has four kids and plays the same card as your neighbor--plus she pretends to be broke and sends her kids to private school. Oh well. It's great you stood up for yourself!

And to the naked neighbors with guns--yikes!

 

[hereyago]

That's so utterly terrible! So sorry it happened!

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Thanks. She always had no filter, so even though it shouldn't have shocked me it did. My DF actually gave her son, his fellow musician certain guitars, etc that he wanted him to have before he passed away, so maybe she thought hey, what can I get? her son was mortified and apologized profusely.

 

[North of Mouse]

I love what leadfootlevi said quoting Sebastian "Give them an inch and they swim all over" That lady is a crackpot I've never had neighbors like that or I'd nipped it in the bud pronto I have had neighbors which borrow occasionally and I have done the same, but it's a very comfortable situation where neither of us did it much. But, I will have to say some of the stories I have heard on this post has left me speechless Can't imagine where people get the nerve. But the worst of it is when they use their kids - that would rile me fast

 

[Belle599]

To the OP, I am so sorry that you have to live close to this "lady".

Her poor children.

If you want to stay on civil terms, when she sends her kids over next time to borrow something (sounds like she still will!!) might I suggest a polite response of "No Thank-you, I hope you have a lovely day!" and a big smile.

Sometimes a polite but firm response is most effective with these sorts of people.

 

[Pumbaa_]

time for fun with moochy neighbor

start collecting things for the special visits from the children of the moochers - moochettes

things like a sock with hole or no pair, cat toy, sponge, empty soap bottle - whatver you have

When they come over for a spice, send them home with a sock in a bag

Egg? get a cat toy

They willl soon pass by your house and no more crazy mama visits

 

[Robinrs]

Wow, you're good. Sorry I don't have any would've been my answer after the third time.

Her response about your not having kids was beyond rude. I was the only non Mama for YEARS in my family and among my friends and just because of that people thought I was rolling in extra money, too.

Having Michael nineteen years ago TODAY put an end to that!!

 

[sarahk0204]

Oh my!

Just a thought about the uniforms on the kids - many public schools now have uniforms, so uniforms does not necessarily equal $$$private school tuition (kind of like no kids does not equal rolling in $$$)

Still, that woman was rude (and very odd, too).