Mommy's Little Princess

[kribit]

I have no problem with BBB. As I said, playing pretend and dressing up is one thing. If my daughter wanted to go, I'd love to take her as a special treat.

I'm talking about that mentality that my kid is entitled, royal, "it's all about me," etc. That's quite different from dressing up in frilly pink and pretending to be a princess for fun.

But when I see a little girl in a sparkley pink "Little Diva" or "Spoiled" or "Princess" t-shirt, it bugs me.

I really don't care for BBB myself, so I was being a tad facetious. If my dd asked me if she could go, I certainly wouldn't refuse, but I'm not unhappy she doesn't like it (and my dd is frilly, so it kind of surprised me). As far as the t-shirts, I agree with you there. I'll go as far as saying that I don't like the "older" version of those shirts either - like the 15 year olds that have "angel" or "spoiled" plastered across their butts.

 

[Tikicampers]

I'm talking about that mentality that my kid is entitled, royal, "it's all about me," etc. That's quite different from dressing up in frilly pink and pretending to be a princess for fun.

But when I see a little girl in a sparkley pink "Little Diva" or "Spoiled" or "Princess" t-shirt, it bugs me.

I agree with you about the royalty mentality that some kids have these days, but I think it goes so much deeper than just calling your child a princess. I knew I was my parents' princess growing up. It was also very clear to me that although I was a princess to them, I was not a princess to the rest of the world. DD is my princess. I didn't think I was going to get a girl, and we're going as girly as can be (if she turns out a tomboy, that's ok too). To me, calling her a princess is all about how I feel about her, not how everyone else feels.
If you don't like the princess stuff, that's fine. I actually don't like the shirts that say "brat," "diva," or "spoiled" either. However, DD will most likely wear things with tiaras and "princess" on them. I just don't think you should lump every parent that uses the term princess into one category.

 

[DisneyDeeva]

I totally ruined my 6 year old niece! LOL

I worked at The Disney Store from the time she was born. So, of course, she had all the princess swimwear, outfits, shoes, hair fufus, etc. Every year for Halloween, I've gone way overboard with her princess costume (they would put Disney to shame).

So, when she had her fourth birthday, her Grandma Pat (other side of the family) asked her "Alina Claire, are you grandma's princess". Without batting an eye, Alina put she hands on her hips, a smile on her face and replies, "Of course not Grandma...I'm a DISNEY princess!"

I was sooo proud!

 

[Stacerita]

We have a joke around our house. I will sometimes call my DD "Princess Sweetpea" to which she gets mad and then reminds me shes a queen. She is the farthest thing from princess though.

 

[disneymac]

Ok - I'll fess up - we call dd our "little princess" - but I will also tell you that she knows the difference between being our little princess and real royalty. I also don't believe that real royalty are better than us common folk!

Last year when we were in WDW, she wore her sleeping beauty costume the morning we went to CRT, as we walked through the gates a CM called to her and said "oh princess, could I please have your autograph?" She went over to him and said "I'm not a real princess you know" - he told her he'd like her autograph anyway or that she really was or something and she signed for him, but as she walked away the look on her face was like" is he okay?!" It made us laugh, but it also made her feel special. That's what we're going for when we call her "princess".

Whatever nickname you give your child, I wish you the best. Enjoy!

 

[bbmommy]

I have no problem with BBB. As I said, playing pretend and dressing up is one thing. If my daughter wanted to go, I'd love to take her as a special treat.

I'm talking about that mentality that my kid is entitled, royal, "it's all about me," etc. That's quite different from dressing up in frilly pink and pretending to be a princess for fun.

But when I see a little girl in a sparkley pink "Little Diva" or "Spoiled" or "Princess" t-shirt, it bugs me.

I do call my daughter Princess (princess bug a boo to be exact) but I do not like the t-shirts...although she has a few from her aunt! She is very girlie...never fully dressed without a bow. Back to school shopping for kindergarten was so fun! However, I do help her with posture and manners with the princess line. (Sit tall and with your knees together like a princess) Girls are wonderful, I was freaked out when I found out my second was a boy, but he is so much fun too! He loves cowboys, mickey, dinos and soon I am sure it will more for me to get used too! I do not call her princess like royality, just to me!!!

 

[diznygirl]

What about, "You are my Sunshine?" Does that mean the universe revolves around her?

Don't over-think, just enjoy!

 

[splashmtnfan]

I was @ Target today, looking @ girls shoes for my dd (7) and there were two little shall I say... BRATS...I believe that is what the appropriate term would actually have been called before the more politically correct "PRINCESS" term came along. Yea, these kids should have had spoiled ROTTEN on their shirts and LITTLE BRAT on their butts because they were plain RUDE! and I believe if you plaster that stuff on them they get a certain ATTITUDE! Now wearing a princess shirt ie. Ariel or Cinderella (which by the way my daughter never liked anyone except Ariel and Tink) does not change them. It is all about their rearing and I have a feeling that you will not be treating your baby girl like this mother did....SHE did it to them which made them ROTTEN!!
Ok here's what happeneed....This woman, who I would say was thirty-ish had two "prissed-up" girls, make-up glitter in hair...the BBB look (5 year-old and 2-3 year-old) who constantly whined "I want THESE" "NO I DON'T LIKE THOSE" "I AM NOT WEARING THOSE TO SCHOOL" etc. which I thought was bad enough but the younger one stood behind me at one point hands on hips and said "MOMMY they won't MOVE! Those people are in my waaaaaay.......!"
Do you think this Mom said anything to her? NO. She simply walked up and stood right on my heels and did not say "excuse us" or correct her or anything, SHE basically rooted her way past my daughter who was stooped over for a second untying her shoes and pulled her girls around my daughter and myself! See the other end of the aisle was maybe six feet away and perfectly clear, she was exiting the aisle but chose to squeeze past us causing us to move because she was right on top of us! SHE FELT ENTITLED!!!! This is what happens to the kids who do not get corrected, my child is polite loves girly things and is very smart, but I will not and have never tolerated ATTITUDE, she is very confident and caring, takes dance classes and has daily chores she does to keep her "grounded".
Truthfully this parenting thing is a lot of work but all worth it when you love hearing great things from your child's mouth like "excuse me" "thank you" and "I'm so happy!" Really it is all how you bring them up. My daughter's room is pink and she is a very girly-girl but only toes have colored polish and clear on fingers and no make-up except during recital or pretend play, not anywhere outside the house.( I do not allow BRATZ or those type dolls or clothes or any other sexy-looking stuff either) I am VERY picky as I am sure most of you other mother's reading this.
Just had to rant a little about those type of parents.....maybe that is where the Princess name gets a BAD name.

 

[lookingforward]

Well, I'm not planning to, but like I said, if she turns out princessy and swears she'll die unless she goes , I guess I have no choice in the matter.

My daughter LOVES the Bibbidi bobbidi boo boutique. But she also loves sailing, horseback riding, climbing, mud puddles, ballet, etc. She once said that she was a "girly girl but a little tom boy too". I cracked up! She used to be so shy when she was really little that she would not even look at anyone. Now she is almost nine, at summer sailing camp, and dancing in ballet recitials. Kids can amaze you with their changes, opinions and interests. It is such a joy just standing by and watching her be herself. What a joy!

 

[HunnyPots]

My daughter never had any interest in being a princess; when she was three years old she announced to us that we were to call her "Queen"! You gotta admire her ambition!

 

[lookingforward]

My daughter never had any interest in being a princess; when she was three years old she announced to us that we were to call her "Queen"! You gotta admire her ambition!

I love it!

We stayed at the GF for my daughter's 4th birthday. When she woke up she walked on the balcony and saw that the castle was lit up with purple lights. She assumed that Cinderella did that for her birthday. I toyed with telling her it was just a coincidence but I went along with it. We went to breakfast (in her princess attire) at the castle and she thanked Cinderella for doing the "lights" in her favorite color for her birthday. Cinderella said "I'm so glad you liked it! Happy Birthday". It was great. She still thinks (four years later) that she has that personal connection to the "big house".

This year she said she wants to be a Diva star and not a princess. She worships Hannah Montanna more than Cinderella now.

 

[Redbudlover]

I find it reassuring how little influence we actually have over our children's nature. I mean we teach them right from wrong and we help to see things from other's perspectives and we teach them to share and not throw sand - but a child's nature is so much their own. My lovely DDIL and my DS were firmly of the opinion that they would not raise a gender biased child. My lovely DGD was born and is a total tom boy and athlete. Millions of educational toys later and a princess truck and books and stuff - I bought her a doll and laid it inconspicuously among her other toys at my house. She walked in at age 13 months - and literally ran directly to the doll and now spends her days caryying it under her arm as uses my house as her personal playground. So I bought her more.... Now she puts her dolls in her trucks, throws them in the pool, feeds them, pats them and kisses and hugs them. No one taught her that - it is just who she is. I took her to Target the other day to buy her some new pool toys and all she wanted to do was look at the dolls - until we came to the aisle with baby shoes. She yanked her hand out of mine and ran as fast as her little 17 month old legs would carry her to the array of shoes, pulled off her sandles and began trying on purple shoes and orange shoes and purple shoes.... It turns out she loves purple shoes and orange shoes. Who would have known? My little tom boy who can climb anything and run fast wants to walk around in my prettiest wedgies, use my lipstick - which her mother doesn't wear, and feed her dolls.

 

[HunnyPots]

I find it reassuring how little influence we actually have over our children's nature. I mean we teach them right from wrong and we help to see things from other's perspectives and we teach them to share and not throw sand - but a child's nature is so much their own.

Isn't that the truth! And I am so glad we don't have that responsibility!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

That is your choice.

But I do wonder what you will do on the first trip to Disney with your daughter.



My girls love to dress as princesses, but I have never purchased nor have they worn the "mommy's little princess stuff".....

I won't really let them wear Tinkerbell stuff either unless it is CUTE without words...so no attitude expressions of Tink, "Bad Attitude" "Bad Fairy" or whatever other nonsense shirts out there.

It never occurred to me that Tink was a villain until my sister pointed it out and Tink is indeed a villain. Though my girls think she is cute, I am vigilant about what Tink stuff they do have. Their room is now done in the Tink Fairies, but we use all the fairies.

We don't allow Bratz either.

And yes--kids tend to migrate to their own thing. You just have to pick and choose your battles.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well, I'm not planning to, but like I said, if she turns out princessy and swears she'll die unless she goes , I guess I have no choice in the matter.

LOL!

I do maintain all choices---if my daughters insist...they'll have to save a long time before they can go.

 

[MushyMushy]

I find it reassuring how little influence we actually have over our children's nature. I mean we teach them right from wrong and we help to see things from other's perspectives and we teach them to share and not throw sand - but a child's nature is so much their own. My lovely DDIL and my DS were firmly of the opinion that they would not raise a gender biased child. My lovely DGD was born and is a total tom boy and athlete. Millions of educational toys later and a princess truck and books and stuff - I bought her a doll and laid it inconspicuously among her other toys at my house. She walked in at age 13 months - and literally ran directly to the doll and now spends her days caryying it under her arm as uses my house as her personal playground. So I bought her more.... Now she puts her dolls in her trucks, throws them in the pool, feeds them, pats them and kisses and hugs them. No one taught her that - it is just who she is. I took her to Target the other day to buy her some new pool toys and all she wanted to do was look at the dolls - until we came to the aisle with baby shoes. She yanked her hand out of mine and ran as fast as her little 17 month old legs would carry her to the array of shoes, pulled off her sandles and began trying on purple shoes and orange shoes and purple shoes.... It turns out she loves purple shoes and orange shoes. Who would have known? My little tom boy who can climb anything and run fast wants to walk around in my prettiest wedgies, use my lipstick - which her mother doesn't wear, and feed her dolls.

Aww, she sounds so sweet!

I tried the whole non-gender bias thing too, and it didn't work. I bought dolls and stuffed animals for my boy, who pummeled them and used them like weapons. When DD was a baby, I hadn't bought her any dolls or things like that, so she took her brother's nasty action figures (remember those ugly street sharks?) and gave them love and affection. We HAD to buy her dolls after that -- couldn't let her walk around loving on street sharks all the time.

Kids go through all kinds of different phases, and I don't see any harm in the princess phase if they go through it. My daughter lost interest in it in the past year and now she's all about pirates. I give that another six months, and then it'll be boys.

 

[golfgal]

I read on one of those 'rules of dating' type email things once "never date a girl who's father calls her Princess".

I agree with you OP, the clothing that says Princess, Diva, etc. will never be worn by my DD--yes, I can say never in this case because I have final approval over clothing and DD doesn't like them either.

 

[Becky2005]

I find it reassuring how little influence we actually have over our children's nature. I mean we teach them right from wrong and we help to see things from other's perspectives and we teach them to share and not throw sand - but a child's nature is so much their own..

It wasn't too long after my son was born that I basically said "I don't care what the experts say -- I'm saying the gender differences are inborn!" Considering he had an older sister our entire house was filled with Barbies, etc... to which he played with but let me tell you it was *certainly* NOT the way his sister played with the dolls.

As far as Princess -- for attitude my DD certainly doesn't have it (well sometimes but she's a teenager -- so I would think she would get attitude anyway at times!) but in a way I do spoil her with the girly girl stuff because she loves it & she's my only girl. The only thing I won't do is Bratz but I know she owns at least one since someone gave her one. That is fine but I won't spend my money on them. She is already talking about getting married at Disney ; wants lots of sparkles, etc... She is now also talking about wearing Villian stuff next time we go -- I hope that doesn't turn her into a Villian! Their attitudes are WORSE than any Princess ones.

I have to agree with everyone else, it is just in how you bring them up as a whole. If they play princess or wear shirts that have it, etc... all depends on your personality. I'm sure I get a bad rap at their school because I get these shirts for the kids that basically exploits sibling rivalry but we find it tongue in cheek funny. My 2 older ones tend to annoy each other all the time. I've gotten my DD shirts that said basically she would trade her brother for a horse; so in turn I got her brother a shirt that said "For Sale: An Annoying Sister" -- my DD was *with* me when I bought it & she helped pick it out. Yes, they annoy each other but when it comes right down to it at critical times -- they look out for each other, etc...

Edited to add: I read about Tink. I really don't like Tink because I can't stand her attitude. I never thought about her as a Villian per se but I never put her in the same cateogry as the Princesses. As far as I know none of the Princesses tried to get anyone killed just because they didn't like them as Tink did.

 

[splashmtnfan]

Yea, I did not realize Tink was a "villian" either until I got the new Peter Pan platinum edition or whatever it is called this past week. We never even watched the movie (well I am sure I did when I was young, but I do not even remember anything about it except the kids could fly and the crocs and Captain Hook) So until recently my DD did not even know the story, she just thought Tink was cute and she LOVES fairies....Still a big fan of the TOOTH FAIRY... so she has a Tink fleece blanket and lamp etc. and shoes but no ATTITUDE stuff I do not approve of pouting and will not get those type character prints, shirts etc.