Mom present in the room during teen's physical

[maxiesmom]

I really don't understand why some posters have such an issue that other posters would have felt more comfortable accompanying their child into the "exam room". Frankly, and it's been said before on this thread by myself and others.... the Doctor should have had an assistant of the opposite sex in the room for HIS OWN PROTECTION. Granted, it was a quick non-invasive exam, but an accidental brush of a hand could be misconstrued as inappropriate touching and accusations could be made- and then other kids start thinking "did he touch me?"

I don't think all men are perverts- I think in the world today, trust your gut and better safe than sorry for EVERYONE.

I wouldn't take issue with any parent that would want to go in with their child. I do take issue with those who think every male doctor is a pervert, or that they are just waiting to touch your child in a bad way.

I agree too that the Doctor should have had someone else in with him, just to cover his own rear end. People are sue happy, and all it would take would be a child making one comment that the parents misunderstand, and all sorts of hell would rain down on that Doctor.

 

[Mermaid02]

I wouldn't take issue with any parent that would want to go in with their child. I do take issue with those who think every male doctor is a pervert, or that they are just waiting to touch your child in a bad way.

I agree too that the Doctor should have had someone else in with him, just to cover his own rear end. People are sue happy, and all it would take would be a child making one comment that the parents misunderstand, and all sorts of hell would rain down on that Doctor.

Has ANYONE said that EVERY male doctor is a pervert? I must have missed that. Just because the OP and others here have said they would have been more comfortable accompanying their child into the exam room- it does NOT mean they think every male doctor is a pervert.

The Doctor should have had a chaperone/assistant- it would have been in EVERYONE'S best interest- ESPECIALLY his own.

 

[jodifla]

People keep saying that the doctor needs a chaperone. In my experience, I'm alone with the doctor unless they are doing a gyn exam. And even then, the nurse only comes in for that part...otherwise, just me and the doc.

There was nothing in the described exam that was remotely private, there are a hundred people in the halls, the girl is a teen....not seeing the big deal here at all.

I would have gone in if my child wanted me to, and stayed out if she preferred it.

 

[goofy4tink]

Didn't read all the posts...don't need to. I can safely assume what has been said here.
I will say that I have an almost 17 y/o dd...and two much older kids (in their 30's). My dd just had her yearly physical in June...she gets one every year. She mostly sees a nurse practitioner. BUT...she always asks me to come with her for the exam. Not sure why, maybe she is just more comfortable. So, I go. But, there comes a time, every year, when I am asked to wait out in the waiting room, while the NP talks to my dd about 'stuff'.
Would I allow my dd to go into the examing room by herself? Sure. And it wouldn't matter whether the doctor was male or female. If there were to be an issue, I'm sure my dd would be able to verbalize it to me.

 

[sillyboxerzboy]

i dont think everyone should assume that a kid wants to go in alone. i'm a high school boy and i have never been alone for a physical and don't want to yet either. my mom or my dad always come in the room with me and yes i'm comfortable doing that even though for some of the exam my boxers come off. they are my parents, i don't feel like i should be embarrassed.

 

[mjkacmom]

i dont think everyone should assume that a kid wants to go in alone. i'm a high school boy and i have never been alone for a physical and don't want to yet either. my mom or my dad always come in the room with me and yes i'm comfortable doing that even though for some of the exam my boxers come off. they are my parents, i don't feel like i should be embarrassed.

Interesting first post bringing up an old thread. As a parent, I've been asked to leave the room (with my child's permission) once she turned 13, for the physical exam, and never, ever, have my children been told to remove their underwear (just a quick peek).

 

[Anne34]

I see your ETA, but that would not have changed my reply.

When I see our ped for my DS14 and DD11, I wait outside, and then he calls Me in. I used to be inside the entire time, but for a few years now, I asked THEM what they prefer. Having said that, he has seen them since they are 2 weeks old, and I have total confidence in him. That is why I stated I would not have done the school thing.

For our sports physicals we go to our pediatrician and they fill out the forms. I don't go into the rooms with the kids and haven't since they were about 10 or 11. The ped calls me in and we talk after the exam.

I would not have felt comfortable with the way the OP described.

 

[mhsjax]

i dont think everyone should assume that a kid wants to go in alone. i'm a high school boy and i have never been alone for a physical and don't want to yet either. my mom or my dad always come in the room with me and yes i'm comfortable doing that even though for some of the exam my boxers come off. they are my parents, i don't feel like i should be embarrassed.

I can assure you that my DS would never allow me into a room while his boxers were off, and even if he did want me in there (I would have him evaluated) I would refuse, that is disturbing at the very least. I think you are just trying to start something.