I am floored reading this thread. Where I live in NJ, the OP would probably be homeless! Or at the very least, being forced to live in a relative's basement or something. $40,000 a year won't even get you a one bedroom apartment - you probably wouldn't even be approved. Well, maybe a $40,000 income can get a tiny place in the not-so-great areas close to or in Newark, but not anywhere you actually want to live. Cost of living is insane here.
Funny - I asked a question on the Budget Board not long ago for a coworker - she makes about $40,000 and was trying to get a one bedroom apartment, and was looking at a place over $1100 a month (almost every apartment is at least that much around here), and was wondering what was feasible. Most responses said she absolutely couldn't afford it alone, she needed at least a roommate! So the OP making $40,000 and owning a house???? Unheard of!!