Mid-life crisis anyone?

[MushyMushy]

OMG, I think the world around me is going insane. Nearly all of my friends are having some form of mid-life crisis. We're not talking new cars or out-of-control spending, we're talking full-blown destructive behaviors from otherwise intelligent people.

What on earth???

Are any of you seeing this with your friends? Or heaven forbid, feeling it yourself?

For all the problems I have right now with depression and grieving and just trying to hang on, I feel like an island of sanity in a sea of crazy.

 

[ZachnElli]

Yeah, my brother's exwife, part of the reason she's an ex now. Well, not part, the whole reason! My brother married the girl next door who was also one of my best friends. She is not the same person today as she was for most of her life. She went from being one of the best moms, wife, friend, etc. to cheating on her husband, leaving her young children home alone for hours at a time (10, 6, and 3 years old, leaving the 10 year old to cook and bath for the younger 2). The 10 year old said her mom cried all the time, she even woke her up at 2 am one night vacuuming the 10 year old's room and crying!?! But still to this day if you ask my ex-sil, it was all my brother's fault. She doesn't have any of her old friends anymore, just new ones who didn't know her "before". I really miss the old her.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

My FIL is going through a VERY LATE Mid Life crisis and he is taking DH with him. I think this whole thing with the economy broke the camel's back. He lost much of his retirement. His wife is budgeting and saving while he is spending like a crazy man. He just bought a new horse trailer, 5th wheel and tractor (yes he has a ranch otherwise it would be very crazy). he is also buying tools that he doesn't need. When his wife finds out and puts a stop to it (for a while) he calls up DH and wants him to go buy stuff. It is driving me nuts. We were at a party a couple of weeks back and he starts talking about how he should buy more horses. He doesn't need them, at all. So me and his wife's DDs start telling him he should buy a couple of draft horses (just joking). Well guess what he just picked up last week.

 

[Disney Doll]

Most of my close friends and family are pretty stable, but I have many acquaintances who are getting kooky.

I don't feel the need to do something crazy, but I am starting to feel hemmed in a bit by the responsibilties of life right now. I have elderly parents who are becoming more difficult to deal with, I have a house which I wish I could find the time to really clean out and get rid of crap. I'm feeling the need to lighten my load of "stuff". Every trip I plan is planned with the thought "oh boy, if something happens to mom or dad, this will have to be cancelled". It's just a difficult period.

This too shall pass.....

 

[krcit]

Yeah, my brother's exwife, part of the reason she's an ex now. Well, not part, the whole reason! My brother married the girl next door who was also one of my best friends. She is not the same person today as she was for most of her life. She went from being one of the best moms, wife, friend, etc. to cheating on her husband, leaving her young children home alone for hours at a time (10, 6, and 3 years old, leaving the 10 year old to cook and bath for the younger 2). The 10 year old said her mom cried all the time, she even woke her up at 2 am one night vacuuming the 10 year old's room and crying!?! But still to this day if you ask my ex-sil, it was all my brother's fault. She doesn't have any of her old friends anymore, just new ones who didn't know her "before". I really miss the old her.

That's sad. Sounds like depression.

 

[minkydog]

I am the Queen of Mid-life Crisis. I have had multiple bouts of depression going back to my teens, but this year was the worst--I had a major breakdown in the fall and have had to be hospitalized twice since October due to suicidal intentions. So it' really caused a sea-change around here.

Now that I'm finally recovering I'm aware that I am not the person I was in my 20s and 30s. My whole way of thinking has changed this year. I have always identified myself by what I do--nursing--and lost sight of who I*am*.

Sooo...I quit my job and I don't know what I want to do when I grow up.

I sold my minivan and bought a cool sporty red Jeep Wrangler.

I joined Weight Watchers and lost >20-lbs in the past 7 weeks.

I joined the YMCA and started working out.

I've planned a trip to New Orleans with my sister, no hubbies or kids.

And I just realized that today I feel happy. Not thrilled, but pleased with my life. Relaxed. Comfortable. Something I have not felt in several years. So, while I would not recommend going the route I took to get here, having a Mid-Life Crisis is not a completely negative idea. It depends on how you work it.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Disney Doll wrote: I have elderly parents who are becoming more difficult to deal with, I have a house which I wish I could find the time to really clean out and get rid of crap. I'm feeling the need to lighten my load of "stuff". Every trip I plan is planned with the thought "oh boy, if something happens to mom or dad, this will have to be cancelled". It's just a difficult period.



You know, it's funny, because you think you have it made once your kids are raised and on their own. Then it's time to take care of your parents.

Who has time for a mid life crisis?????

TC