Mean reply?

[goofyernmost]

I find the CB to be very judgmental sometimes.

And then I find myself wondering if some people know how to read.

But then I try to just sit back and laugh at their stupidity. If you don't want to read things correctly and still cast judgement then I'm not going to bother myself with anything they have to say. It's not worth my time.

My, my could this be the pot speaking to the kettle? I don't agree that because someone disagrees with you that they are "stupid" nor would I blame them if your post was confusing or misleading and misunderstood. As was stated earlier, there is no tone or infraction is the printed word, we read it as we see it and put our own tone in. That is what causes the majority of misread posts.

It's a discussion board, not a hug and kiss board. How dull this world would be if everyone agreed with everything all the time.

One just needs to be a little thick skinned. People posting here do not even know you. They cannot be out to get you or embarrass you or do anything else to you. We all come from different backgrounds, different degrees of education and different temperments. The community board can sometimes be a little less magical then the WDW board or the Disneyland board. Occasionally the discussion on this board can get emotional. Just don't take it personal and either join in or ignore it. It's really that easy.

 

[SplshMtn99]

Has anyone posted a question only to receive mean and snarky replies? I've noticed a few of these replies today and it makes me sad. Why do some people add their 2 cents just to insult someone? What is with that: isn't the idea to help?

So, has this ever happened to you?

I see you are new here.

Its the typical holiday season on the CB compounded by a heated election. With Christmas coming with a tough economy, its only bound to get even more heated around here.

Wait until the "I didn't get a Christmas bonus" threads come out.

 

[L107ANGEL]

There are a few posters who get up everyone's noses for being snarky, rude and just damn right obnoxious.

They know who they are.



Rich::

Kidding!!! Its the CB, with an election that just passed, and the holidays are on the way. People seem to take alot out on message boards.
I tend to think as Hiwaygirl, its hard to know the true intent many times.

 

[mommy*RN]

I have a VERY sarcastic sense of humor and have had two incidents in the recent past where I was accused of being snarky or mean. Like the other posters said it's hard when people don't know you, can't see your face and can't hear the tone of your voice. Just remember we are all not going to agree all the time and you can chose not to read the "snarky" replies or try not to let them bother you.

Welcome to the DIS!!

 

[Aisling]

Someone once posted what kind of finger food they should have a jewekry party they were hosting, and someone came on just to say how she would never go to those kinds of parties. What a downer! Just give your food suggestions, or don't post!

 

[perriwinkleblue]

The other problem is that what I wrote was not taken in the spirit I intended it to be. Someone asked for an opinion and I gave mine. That's all. You can disagree with me. I was not being mean or anything to anyone but if you ask for an opinion that's what I will give you.

It is hard when you can not hear voice inflection or see facial expressions that go with what you are reading. Emoticons only go so far.

First, I'm really talking about the other board areas, not just the CB. I can appreciate a little "spirited" debate. and I know some love it.

That said, yes, I agree that sometimes it's hard to read someone's tone as it was intended. I also feel that if you ask for an opinion, you will get an opinion, like it or not. Also, if you ask for advice, you may get advice you don't agree with.

What bothers me is when someone asks a question or asks for advice and they are insulted. For example: someone asked a question today regarding reserved seats on an airline. They really just wanted an answer - but what they got were a few posts calling them cheap and inconsiderate. Literally. I just don't get the name calling. Why be mean?

I'd ask, "does it make some people feel better to be mean to someone else?" - but I know the answer. Sometimes I feel so bad for the OP. Thanks for all the great replies so far. I knew it wasn't just me.

 

[goofy4tink]

There are a few posters who get up everyone's noses for being snarky, rude and just damn right obnoxious.

They know who they are.



Rich::

Oohhh, one of my favorite British-isms....'get up one's nose'....it just says exactly what you want to say sometimes!!

Snarky responses?? Well, maybe. But sometimes, more often than not, people post and are looking for validation. When they don't get it, and actually get answers that are completely different than what they expected, they get upset and accuse others of being mean or nasty.
These are public boards. Frankly, I can't understand some of the things people put 'out there' for all to see. Way too much info sometimes. But, that's just me. I just stop reading and go elsewhere.

Sometimes, attitude is misinterpreted. You can't see someones expression, so you 'think' they are being mean. I have a nasty sarcastic sense of humor...gets me in heaps of trouble sometimes. I have typed something out in response to a post, then reread it, and then deleted it. It wasn't nasty but it most likely would have been taken in a very different manner than I intended.

 

[HoneyPooh]

But.......all the meanies are gone right Have been for months.

How can there be mean and snarky replies?

 

[John Smith1]

I was called an outright liar yesterday...

I appreciate the fact that the perp did come back and explain his disdain, but yes, it did seem rather surprising.

Surprising, though? No. People grow big ones when no one can punch them in the face.

 

[John Smith1]

I heard an 'internet guy' on the TV one night saying that the people on the internet consist of 'victims and predators'. I guess it's a little extreme but I could see what he meant, it can be a jungle out there!!!


Trish

Trish

That's the world.

 

[L107ANGEL]

But.......all the meanies are gone right Have been for months.

How can there be mean and snarky replies?

Oh Snap!

 

[Aisling]

But.......all the meanies are gone right Have been for months.

How can there be mean and snarky replies?

The meanies aren't gone, just the major trouble makers, since you brought it up.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Has anyone posted a question only to receive mean and snarky replies? I've noticed a few of these replies today and it makes me sad. Why do some people add their 2 cents just to insult someone? What is with that: isn't the idea to help?

So, has this ever happened to you?

Sometimes, quite a few years back here. Don't frequent this board here much anymore, a drive-by a few times a week, so none recent.

 

[LaraK]

But.......all the meanies are gone right Have been for months.

How can there be mean and snarky replies?

You posted exactly what I was thinking.


OP...tone is really hard to determine. I know I jumped on a thread trying to be funny, it was misinterpreted and then ended up with a big mess. A lot of posters on the CB (and the regulars on other boards) have gotten to know each other over the years. We tend to break into groups and can get defensive if a we feel a friend is being slighted. Can turn into some INTERESTING threads...usually ending with WMKathy slapping us all with a ruler and being sent to the corner.

Let it slide. The nasties will be nasties, the nice ones will have a bad day. Excpet for those of us who are angels

 

[MoniqueU]

It's happened to me and it makes me leary of what I post. I may not always make the best decisions but I don't feel like getting flamed, just want a nice take on whatever is going on.

My favorite one was when I got blasted for saying britney Spears was Bi Polar. The whole thread was calling her a drunk and a druggie and I just knew that wasn't her real problem. Turns out I was right.

 

[Holly]

I was called an outright liar yesterday...

I appreciate the fact that the perp did come back and explain his disdain, but yes, it did seem rather surprising.

Surprising, though? No. People grow big ones when no one can punch them in the face.

The perp.


That made me laugh.

 

[John Smith1]

The perp.


That made me laugh.

Various PERPS on the DIS....

 

[denisenh]

The meanies aren't gone, just the major trouble makers, since you brought it up.

 

[mommy*RN]

Various PERPS on the DIS....

Did you get permission to post their pics???

 

[John Smith1]

Did you get permission to post their pics???