Mean doctor - what should I do? UPDATE

[mjkacmom]

I'd find a new doctor, or at the very least, keep my old one as well. When I was pregnant with twins, I saw both my OB and my peri, and my peri was definitely colder than my OB. I had your condition with #3, I believe, and it went away on it's own (there is no treatment). I was told they usually do, so good luck!

 

[Savanah'sMom]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I agree with the PPs, run, run fast away from Dr. Personality.

Good luck and sending pixie dust for a healthy, happy baby!!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

Good that DH is going with you on Monday. Unless this person is the best of the best in your area, I'd find a new doctor. And I'd let her and the referring MD know exactly why I was going to a different doctor.

By all means. let the referring MD know how she treated you. He/she may not ever get any feedback on how one of their referrals goes, so they are thinking that the referred to MD is doing fine.

 

[krcit]

That's terrible. The last thing you need during any pregnancy let alone a risky one is added stress. I hope you're able to switch Drs. If not I advise you to call her on her rudeness. Maybe say something like 'I'm sorry Dr. You seem to be upset with me. Have I done anything to annoy you? I know you and I both want a healthy baby as the outcome here, how can we work together." Might just wake her up to her nasty attitude. Good luck. Prayers for you and your little one.

 

[Gabes_mommy]

I just got off the phone with my OB and she was so nice!!! She told me that she has gotten other complaints about "Dr. Personality" and referred me to the other Peri in the practice who she said is "wonderful".

She also told me that my SCH is very small - thank God!!! Basically it is just a wait and see situation, but I feel much better now.

Thanks for all the comments everyone. It is very reassuring to hear that other people felt she was out of line too and I wasn't just being over-sensitive.

 

[dislaney]

I just got off the phone with my OB and she was so nice!!! She told me that she has gotten other complaints about "Dr. Personality" and referred me to the other Peri in the practice who she said is "wonderful".

She also told me that my SCH is very small - thank God!!! Basically it is just a wait and see situation, but I feel much better now.

Thanks for all the comments everyone. It is very reassuring to hear that other people felt she was out of line too and I wasn't just being over-sensitive.

I'm glad your OB was so nice about this and referred you to the other doctor. Geez some doctors have absolutely no bedside manner. I would have been in tears over what that doctor said. Congrats on your pregnancy. I hope all goes well from here on out!

 

[esbrick]

So happy for you! We will keep sending you GOOD THOUGHTS!

 

[acmeyer]

oh sweetie..some of these dr need to take a flying leap.. when i was pregnant w dd we had to do a amnio (during which my water broken an finally resealed itself) due to my "advanced" maternal age(36)...it came back a little quirky so the sent us to a gene doctor ...he basically told us very very rudely that my dd would be severely ********, not able to take care of herself, and never walk or talk and that we should basically run to have an abortion....as we had tried to have her for 4 yrs i was just heart broke...luckily i went back to my ob who was LIVID!!!!! he had seen this little quirk before took my blood and found out that i had this exact same "quirk". Long story short..dd is 9 and is qualified for the for school that you have to have a HIGH IQ to get into..and she NEVER shuts up....we have always said that we want to find this lovely dr and lock him in a room with her...he would be begging for mercy after a half hour with her...she would drive him crazy with her questions and ceaseless talk!!!!These drs need to think before they open there mouth when they deal with patients!!! If they can't go work in the MORGUE!!!

 

[Amy&Dan]

I am glad you are doing better and got some postive feedback from another doctor. I am telling you some doctor's should get out of the field, they just don't have what it takes.

I had a doctor similar to that when I was preganant with dd. I can still see his face and how unkind he was to me in what was a very scary time. Thankfully it did turn out well (and you will too ).

I am so glad you didn't just let this go!

 

[momof1princess]

good for you, and kudos to your OB for acting swiftly on your complaint and doing her best to alleviate your fears. may you have a stress-free, uneventful pregnancy and delivery and a healthy baby

 

[laurie31]

I just got off the phone with my OB and she was so nice!!! She told me that she has gotten other complaints about "Dr. Personality" and referred me to the other Peri in the practice who she said is "wonderful".

She also told me that my SCH is very small - thank God!!! Basically it is just a wait and see situation, but I feel much better now.

Thanks for all the comments everyone. It is very reassuring to hear that other people felt she was out of line too and I wasn't just being over-sensitive.

OH I'm so happy to read this update, and also that you DH is going with you to the next appointment.

You were NOT overreacting to the other...um...(laurie31 tries to think of DIS-friendly word, fails...). Seriously, it upset ME (on your behalf) just to read about it earlier, to the point where I was too angry about it to even post a reply then. There is no call to EVER talk to a patient like that.

And goodness, when I was pregnant, I would cry over Hallmark commercials! I would have been completely undone if I'd been treated like you were. I hope you get good news at your next appointment, along with compassionate care.

 

[bettymae1121]

I just got off the phone with my OB and she was so nice!!! She told me that she has gotten other complaints about "Dr. Personality" and referred me to the other Peri in the practice who she said is "wonderful".

She also told me that my SCH is very small - thank God!!! Basically it is just a wait and see situation, but I feel much better now.

Thanks for all the comments everyone. It is very reassuring to hear that other people felt she was out of line too and I wasn't just being over-sensitive.

I was going to suggest that no mater what, to let your OB know so she could stop refering to to the witch-peri and to also perhaps send you to another, if at all possible. But it looks like you took care of that already. Good luck!

 

[vettechick99]

Wow, what a B! I am glad your OB referred you to the other one. I hope this doctor treats you with respect and kindness. Like you need any other stress on your plate!

I hope this pregnancy goes without complications. Sending lots of pixie dust your way!

 

[JerseyJanice]

Best of luck to you, Gabe's Mommy. I hope everything works out for you.

 

[agnes!]

YAY! Good for you, OP, calling your OB and good for your OB referring you to a new peri.

You'll have to share pics of your baby after she's born, I'm sure she'll be beautiful.

agnes!

 

[WDWorBUST]

So glad you are going to have different doctor. I had a mc this past April and it was the worst experience ever....but my doctor was absolutely wonderful and although I liked her before having a mc I liked her even more after. She was extremely sweet and understanding. I asked about the cause and could it be low progesterone and she told me that she didn't really think so but when I got pregnant again that they would get me in as soon as I had a positive hpt and would keep a very close eye on it. Now I just have to get pg again.

 

[HelenePA]

I'm glad your seeing another dr. I also had a dr from hell. My dd was diagnosed with a pretty serious heart defect by this dr.. she was evil.. truly evil. She told me what was wrong told me I should terminate and had the appointment pretty much set up for me.. now mind you I was 28wks along!! We told her no.. she told us she would die when she was born and left the room. She walked out on us.. we were stunned.. We left and never looked back.. We found wonderful caring dr's who told us the other dr misdiagnosed her.. now she did have a serious defect but nothing like this other evil woman said my dd had.. She is very much alive 9 years later with the help of these wonderful other drs. Good Luck on the rest of your pregnancy! May it go as smoothly and as easy as possible!

 

[Magic Mom]

It's time to find a new specialist. This one sounds like a raging you know what. Someone in your position especially, needs a doctor they can trust and feel comfortable with. I'm sorry you had to put up with her for even one appointment.

 

[ZachnElli]

I'm glad you don't have to see that doctor anymore. But has your regular doctor mentioned seeing an endocrinologist or hematologist? If your problem is blood clots you need to be having your blood tested regularly. Are you on any blood thinners, baby aspirin, anything?

 

[Ciciwoowoo]

Oh gosh, just ran across this post and boy, can I relate!!!

My peri is nicknamed Dr Death by every person I've met so far...I am talking nurses and other personnel at the hospital! Our very first visit with her was very somber... She said I had all sort of percentage chances of losing the baby, the baby being born with all sorts of illnesses...stillborn...etc...

I cried for days afterward!

Fast forward to the end of my pregnancy... Once we got over the initial "down" visits, the visits we are making weekly are actually fine. In fact, my meeting with her Monday, she said she was confident that if I wait until I am 39 weeks to have the baby, she has enough statistics on both me and the baby that she believes he will be just fine! She said something POSITIVE!!!

My honey says she just comes off this way because she does not mince words and well, she's avoiding potential lawsuits by giving us the worst case scenario. Its so not what I want, but we've survived it.

Sooo...take a deep breath and tell yourself the peri is just trying to avoid any potential lawsuits...but really, he's not a fortune teller and he doesn't really know what the future holds!!! Think good thoughts and take every day as it comes.

My thoughts and prayers are with you!!! And who knows, maybe at the end you will hear good words from him too, and you'll know darn well that if you do, well, he doesn't say that sort of thing to just anyone!