May 10, 2008 Ship of Thieves! Stealing the Magic..AGAIN!!! Panama Canal FL to CA!!! Part 7

[lillygator]

I am making my sister a "Jar of Advice"...I just need to find a nice jar. I am going to put 365 slips of paper with big sister advice on them. I am trying to do a jar of memories for my mother. Problem is, I truly cannot remember 365 nice things for the years I did spend with her. Really opens my eyes to how I want my children to remember their childhood.

Since Samantha is so into baking, cooking, etc. I am going to attempt some chocolate covered pretzel rods dipped in holiday colored sprinkles and put in goodie bags for people.
Someone posted about making a chocolate bowl with a balloon and then putting in chocolate covered oreos and wrapping in clear cellophane and giving. Sounds like it would be so pretty.

 

[HollyTyler]

Sorry, but I haven't had time to read one single post since I logged off last night. Work is super hectic today and I won't have time to read anything here until tonight after Tyler's in bed. But since many of you expressed concern about my little guy (and thanks 1grumpyjohn for your PM--my thoughts exactly!), I just want to share what happened at his pediatrician appointment today. To save time, I've just copied and pasted what I e-mailed to his dad. I surely just started World War 3, but will do everything I possibly can to help Tyler.

Just passing Dr. Hart's thoughts on to you while I have a free second. I had her read what the school and Miss Gimm wrote/typed, and told her about the things he was saying at day care about wanting to kill them and cut them all up, as well as how he would go into Tasmanian Devil mode (the spinning all over ripping things off the walls, knocking things over, throwing everything, hitting, biting, kicking, etc.) and how it would just come out of the blue and then a complete switch to happy kid just like a light switch. Her thoughts are that this is way beyond just a behavior issue because in her words, "he's already not succeeding at day care, not succeeding in school, and will soon not be succeeding socially (because kids will start teasing even more than they already do) which will affect self-esteem", etc. She wants to do an EEG to at least rule out any brain misfiring or whatever it's called, but her main concern is bi-polar, so she wants him to go see Jennifer Huffman, a neuropsychologist to get things narrowed down. She was quite frustrated with me because I expressed to her your concerns and how you disagree that anything's really wrong. She's really concerned because the things listed by the school are very unusual and extreme and not normal kid misbehaving and basically told me to just go get him evaluated no matter how you feel about it. So that's about all she said. Tyler had a great time with the cool books in the office!

 

[gydell]

Sorry, but I haven't had time to read one single post since I logged off last night. Work is super hectic today and I won't have time to read anything here until tonight after Tyler's in bed. But since many of you expressed concern about my little guy (and thanks 1grumpyjohn for your PM--my thoughts exactly!), I just want to share what happened at his pediatrician appointment today. To save time, I've just copied and pasted what I e-mailed to his dad. I surely just started World War 3, but will do everything I possibly can to help Tyler.

Just passing Dr. Hart's thoughts on to you while I have a free second. I had her read what the school and Miss Gimm wrote/typed, and told her about the things he was saying at day care about wanting to kill them and cut them all up, as well as how he would go into Tasmanian Devil mode (the spinning all over ripping things off the walls, knocking things over, throwing everything, hitting, biting, kicking, etc.) and how it would just come out of the blue and then a complete switch to happy kid just like a light switch. Her thoughts are that this is way beyond just a behavior issue because in her words, "he's already not succeeding at day care, not succeeding in school, and will soon not be succeeding socially (because kids will start teasing even more than they already do) which will affect self-esteem", etc. She wants to do an EEG to at least rule out any brain misfiring or whatever it's called, but her main concern is bi-polar, so she wants him to go see Jennifer Huffman, a neuropsychologist to get things narrowed down. She was quite frustrated with me because I expressed to her your concerns and how you disagree that anything's really wrong. She's really concerned because the things listed by the school are very unusual and extreme and not normal kid misbehaving and basically told me to just go get him evaluated no matter how you feel about it. So that's about all she said. Tyler had a great time with the cool books in the office!

Good for you!!!

 

[fourmcds]

We are on the same wave length. However, I just give the under 18 set and if someone has a problem, well, they can get mad, get glad and get over it!!

Life is too short to cater to those family members you can never satisfy anyway. I want to spend time with family members that share our same feelings not those who have petty grievances. We all have those members in our respective families but I don't give them any time or thought.

My mother and I had our differences but I marched to my own drum. When I had the holidays, I did them my way. She learned to adapt.

I tried to suggest the "only gifts under 18" thought with Scott's family...but got accused of being "selfish" When I started celebrating the holidays with them, we were buying for everyone (cousins, cousins kids, aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, sil's etc) and it would cost us so much money every year (money that college students didn't have). The kids are the ones who enjoy the holidays and the gifts and I kept trying every year to minimize things. Since there were only 5 kids amongst the whole family and Scott's siblings don't have kids, my IL's felt it would be unfair to ask them to buy for other's kids and not get anything in return...so here we sit 14 years later still buying for everyone
With my side, we just buy for the kids and try and do something fun as a family.

 

[birkner]

Sorry, but I haven't had time to read one single post since I logged off last night. Work is super hectic today and I won't have time to read anything here until tonight after Tyler's in bed. But since many of you expressed concern about my little guy (and thanks 1grumpyjohn for your PM--my thoughts exactly!), I just want to share what happened at his pediatrician appointment today. To save time, I've just copied and pasted what I e-mailed to his dad. I surely just started World War 3, but will do everything I possibly can to help Tyler.

Just passing Dr. Hart's thoughts on to you while I have a free second. I had her read what the school and Miss Gimm wrote/typed, and told her about the things he was saying at day care about wanting to kill them and cut them all up, as well as how he would go into Tasmanian Devil mode (the spinning all over ripping things off the walls, knocking things over, throwing everything, hitting, biting, kicking, etc.) and how it would just come out of the blue and then a complete switch to happy kid just like a light switch. Her thoughts are that this is way beyond just a behavior issue because in her words, "he's already not succeeding at day care, not succeeding in school, and will soon not be succeeding socially (because kids will start teasing even more than they already do) which will affect self-esteem", etc. She wants to do an EEG to at least rule out any brain misfiring or whatever it's called, but her main concern is bi-polar, so she wants him to go see Jennifer Huffman, a neuropsychologist to get things narrowed down. She was quite frustrated with me because I expressed to her your concerns and how you disagree that anything's really wrong. She's really concerned because the things listed by the school are very unusual and extreme and not normal kid misbehaving and basically told me to just go get him evaluated no matter how you feel about it. So that's about all she said. Tyler had a great time with the cool books in the office!

I wouldn't worry about WW3 with Tyler's Dad. Your focus (correct IMHO) is on Tyler. You should show up at the counseling appointment and bring a copy of your email and Tyler's pediatrician's number. Best of luck, Holly!! I know these are hard times but we are here for you to vent, share and do whatever we can!!

 

[Jhalkias]

I am making my sister a "Jar of Advice"...I just need to find a nice jar. I am going to put 365 slips of paper with big sister advice on them. I am trying to do a jar of memories for my mother. Problem is, I truly cannot remember 365 nice things for the years I did spend with her. Really opens my eyes to how I want my children to remember their childhood.

Shortly after Amy and I were married, I found a ceramic jar in a pottery store labled “Motherly Advice”. I gave it to my MIL for Christmas, and told her every time she thinks of some advice for me to put it in that jar, and put the lid back on.

Needless to say, it has not worked – I don’t know if she threw the jar away, but it sure does seem like it!

 

[fourmcds]

Sorry, but I haven't had time to read one single post since I logged off last night. Work is super hectic today and I won't have time to read anything here until tonight after Tyler's in bed. But since many of you expressed concern about my little guy (and thanks 1grumpyjohn for your PM--my thoughts exactly!), I just want to share what happened at his pediatrician appointment today. To save time, I've just copied and pasted what I e-mailed to his dad. I surely just started World War 3, but will do everything I possibly can to help Tyler.

Just passing Dr. Hart's thoughts on to you while I have a free second. I had her read what the school and Miss Gimm wrote/typed, and told her about the things he was saying at day care about wanting to kill them and cut them all up, as well as how he would go into Tasmanian Devil mode (the spinning all over ripping things off the walls, knocking things over, throwing everything, hitting, biting, kicking, etc.) and how it would just come out of the blue and then a complete switch to happy kid just like a light switch. Her thoughts are that this is way beyond just a behavior issue because in her words, "he's already not succeeding at day care, not succeeding in school, and will soon not be succeeding socially (because kids will start teasing even more than they already do) which will affect self-esteem", etc. She wants to do an EEG to at least rule out any brain misfiring or whatever it's called, but her main concern is bi-polar, so she wants him to go see Jennifer Huffman, a neuropsychologist to get things narrowed down. She was quite frustrated with me because I expressed to her your concerns and how you disagree that anything's really wrong. She's really concerned because the things listed by the school are very unusual and extreme and not normal kid misbehaving and basically told me to just go get him evaluated no matter how you feel about it. So that's about all she said. Tyler had a great time with the cool books in the office!

Holly...although it is not often, I do have experiences where parent's are at odds about treatment of their child(ren). My advice is always the same...this is all about your child and not you, let's refocus on him/her for the time being. You are doing the right thing and hopefully Tyler's dad will realize that sooner rather than later and join in and help with the treatments/evaluations.

 

[granmaz]

Sorry, but I haven't had time to read one single post since I logged off last night. Work is super hectic today and I won't have time to read anything here until tonight after Tyler's in bed. But since many of you expressed concern about my little guy (and thanks 1grumpyjohn for your PM--my thoughts exactly!), I just want to share what happened at his pediatrician appointment today. To save time, I've just copied and pasted what I e-mailed to his dad. I surely just started World War 3, but will do everything I possibly can to help Tyler.

Just passing Dr. Hart's thoughts on to you while I have a free second. I had her read what the school and Miss Gimm wrote/typed, and told her about the things he was saying at day care about wanting to kill them and cut them all up, as well as how he would go into Tasmanian Devil mode (the spinning all over ripping things off the walls, knocking things over, throwing everything, hitting, biting, kicking, etc.) and how it would just come out of the blue and then a complete switch to happy kid just like a light switch. Her thoughts are that this is way beyond just a behavior issue because in her words, "he's already not succeeding at day care, not succeeding in school, and will soon not be succeeding socially (because kids will start teasing even more than they already do) which will affect self-esteem", etc. She wants to do an EEG to at least rule out any brain misfiring or whatever it's called, but her main concern is bi-polar, so she wants him to go see Jennifer Huffman, a neuropsychologist to get things narrowed down. She was quite frustrated with me because I expressed to her your concerns and how you disagree that anything's really wrong. She's really concerned because the things listed by the school are very unusual and extreme and not normal kid misbehaving and basically told me to just go get him evaluated no matter how you feel about it. So that's about all she said. Tyler had a great time with the cool books in the office!

You have done the right thing Holly and I agree with Noel that Tyler is your focus, so keep going along this route.

Come here for some .

 

[lillygator]

Holly....I also would not worry about starting WW3...you have Tyler's best interests at heart and that is the main focus.

 

[lillygator]

the weather is really starting to become enjoyable to be outside. I think I will try and convince John to walk down to the beach tonight - it will be good exercise if nothing else!

 

[granmaz]

the weather is really starting to become enjoyable to be outside. I think I will try and convince John to walk down to the beach tonight - it will be good exercise if nothing else!

I would so love to be able to say that! Mind you it would have to be a Florida beach.

 

[lillygator]

It's only 3:30....bummer I am so ready to get out of here. Coming to work is just harder and harder these days.

 

[lillygator]

since my mom has me thinking of Thanksgiving, what is on everyone's menu this year? Do you all feast on the same things year to year or do you add anything new?

 

[lillygator]

I would like to try some new sides this year...but we'll be having:
roast turkey
fried turkey
green bean casserole
mashed potatoes
spinach salad
rolls
cranberry dressing
stuffing

eta acorn squash as well.

 

[lillygator]

oh and various appetizers around - cheese and crackers, artichoke and spinach dip, deviled eggs....I am having the inlaws and my dad bring a dessert.

 

[lillygator]

I don't drink coffee...so I have no experience with it, but I know others will want it...can anyone reccommend a nice but on the inexpensive side that would be appealing? I am thinking Foldgers won't be a hit.

 

[nskjerven]

not sure what our plans for Tday.

We have in past gone to the Lake or had it around one of our houses.

The only hard part is 2 of my sisters aren't talking with a 3rd. So we won't all be together. Who knows what it will be beyond that. Time will tell.

DH's parents have travelled to Paris for many years on Tday, so they tend not to fit into our decission in making plans.

 

[fourmcds]

since my mom has me thinking of Thanksgiving, what is on everyone's menu this year? Do you all feast on the same things year to year or do you add anything new?

This year is our year with my mom, so it is the laid back Thanksgiving. We started a tradition of going to the movie that morning (mom brings our traditional appetizers there to eat (dates and peanut butter and blue cheese and celery sticks)) and then a quiet small dinner at my moms (just mom, dad, and us). We have Turkey with stuffing (rice not bread stuffing), salad, sweet potato casserole, bread, broc. salad and cranberry sauce (the good stuff from the can!) Then I go to bed early so I can get up at 5 to hit all the great sales!!!!!

 

[nskjerven]

I don't drink coffee...so I have no experience with it, but I know others will want it...can anyone reccommend a nice but on the inexpensive side that would be appealing? I am thinking Foldgers won't be a hit.

ummm, what's inexpensive? We drink Starbucks and Peets on a daily basis. Whole beans that we grind in our pot. I conclude that if the coffee isn't good then it's not worth me drinking it. I'd rather have water in that case. Not sure who your serving. My mom would drink any kind of coffee and be happy with it.

 

[lillygator]

ummm, what's inexpensive? We drink Starbucks and Peets on a daily basis. Whole beans that we grind in our pot. I conclude that if the coffee isn't good then it's not worth me drinking it. I'd rather have water in that case. Not sure who your serving. My mom would drink any kind of coffee and be happy with it.

it would be my MIL and probably my Dad's girlfriend drinking it. I don't have a grinder so unless it can be ground at the store....