My problem has less to do with policies (which can of course be silly) - and more with politics. The priest who was at our "home" church left late last year. The rumor is that the parish council forced him to leave. There are rumors swirling everywhere as to the reason - and everyone who apparently really knows will not comment, and want to pretend as if nothing happened. I don't think it was anything he did "wrong", but a power struggle between some groups in the church that forced the ouster over a difference in philosophy and direction. Many of those same people are the people who have never made me feel at "home" in the church - even though my family has been lifelong members (other than my baptism at the other church), and my parent's constant attendance and steady contribution. We were never part of the "in" or governing group of the congregation. My father was a cleaner at Ford Motor Co, and my mother never worked - we would never (and did not) have any problems like Noel talked about, as my parents were and continued to be of very modest means.
We now have a priest who is actually divorced (how do you like that Lisa?) who is not a family man. I have always felt that to relate well to the young families, it is helpful to have a family man as a priest (he may be just a wonderful man otherwise - I don't know him yet), and he came here from Hawaii (who would want that transfer?).
At the other church, I have both of the families that baptized my children (my koumbari), and a priest who is a family man and devoted to children. People there also make you feel more at home and welcome, and I do not run into the "snobbery" that I see at my home church. So I am in a dilemma as to what to do. It is hard to leave the place you grew up in - no matter how unwelcome or detached you may feel.
I love my faith. I just abhor the politics.