May 10, 2008 Ship of Thieves...May 2008 Repo Thread...Part 12

[gaylean93]

It's really cause you want a spot for me and nan...just in case

That would be great. Are you surprising me?

 

[taysmom]

That would be great. Are you surprising me?

unfortunately NO!...but I look forward to meeting you in 20 days or so and definately look forward to PV..as long as you'll have me.

 

[HollyTyler]

OH< sweetie>, He's come along so far! Just to have him realize that he has "issues" is a milestone! That means he is trying and he knows that it's sometimes out of his control!

How many 5 year olds have to deal with that? He sounds very intuitive.

He tries so hard, he needs a break! I know! A cruise! Lets take him on a cruise through the Panama Canal! Lets have his picture taken with Mickey Mouse! Let let him eat out every day!

See you soon, you are doing a fantastic job. Just let him know he has lots of friends to support him!

Connie

OK, stop....you're making me cry again. Yes, he's always been a very smart kid. The problem is that he's known for quite some time that he tries and tries and still can't control some things, so it's very frustrating and discouraging for him. But I know the cruise will be a wonderful break for him!

 

[nskjerven]

Planky's not small!!! (don't let his small stature fool you.. in 24 hrs... my liquor cabinet & fridge are empty!!! )

like I said before OH CRAP!!!!

I told Molly and Wilson and they said "he's really small" and I told them, he is wearing a sombreo and they seemed to get it that he will have to be dealt with.

 

[nskjerven]

Didn't you know that I do this daily? I just got caught this time!

next time rob a bank or get some money from somewhere and make it worth more that just a tank of gas

 

[gaylean93]

unfortunately NO!...but I look forward to meeting you in 20 days or so and definately look forward to PV..as long as you'll have me.

If we'll have you? We can't wait.

 

[nskjerven]

It will take a lot more to make me run! Remember I was a youth pastor for 26 years, takes a lot to scare me (lol). Looking forward to meeting all of you.

Joseph

we are looking forward to meeting you too, and when we are over the top you can smack us down. I can't retailate and smack a man of the cloth...

 

[gaylean93]

like I said before OH CRAP!!!!

I told Molly and Wilson and they said "he's really small" and I told them, he is wearing a sombreo and they seemed to get it that he will have to be dealt with.

He will try to get the crabby patty formula.

 

[nskjerven]

I need to go back and read I think about 20 pages, but wanted to post these as they were just made (not by me)....

Thank you darling, the Queen Smiles on you. You are now the royal name getter, or whatever you want to call yourself (get it, call yourself...namegetter)

 

[gaylean93]

we are looking forward to meeting you too, and when we are over the top you can smack us down. I can't retailate and smack a man of the cloth...

I'm shocked that you have limitations on who you will smack.

 

[HollyTyler]

And unfortunately alot of parents will tell their children to avoid "those" kids. Which makes the problem worse. Saying things like I can't play with you...or even worse he gets labeled the problem kid and always blamed even if he was not the instigator. I would schedule a meeting with you and the lead teacher in the KAP program and discuss his feelings w/o him present, then have one with him and let HIM express his feeling in a safe and positive manner. I've been working at a school for 12 years and unfortnately, this is a common problem. With you working there is no way around him going to KAP or any extended care program, so you need to work with him to get him to understand that it's not possible for you to stay home with him. There is no reason for you to feel guilty about this either, many people incuding married ones have to have both parents work. Are you working full time now? If no, maybe spend an hour in the morning with him to see whats going on, how he interacts etc. IF you can do it w/o his knowledge that would be even better. We've had parents come in the lunchroom to witness their childs behavior..it was very enlightning to them. Are there cues when tyler is about to act out? Did you ever get him any OT toys..squishy balls, chew items? You need to get this going now while he's young so he can have a successful and productive educational experience. On the plus side (depends how you look at it) if he is getting worse at his school over the next year or so, there is always his dads local school. You have enough information to be proactive with them well in advance of his attendance to set up programs and IEP's for his benefit and in tylers mind..moving to a new school might be a clean slate for him. Hopefully as he gets older and with lots of medical assistance he'll be able to manage himself better...know his own "cues" etc. IMHO....

Oh, we already have the ball rolling with all the things you mentioned. The school has provided some OT items (a fidgit, a lap lizard, chewy top pencils) and the OT we see once a week gave him a chewy and some balls to keep in his pocket to reach in and squeeze whenever he gets the urge to put his hands on somebody or something.

The teachers in all classes have had meetings to share info on his triggers and have made adjustments for him, such as giving him his own desk instead of sitting at a table with 3 other kids, providing him with a "gym buddy" for gym class to do one on one activities with him because group stuff is too overwhelming for him with all the echoes in the gym, etc. They take him out of class a couple times a week for one on one help with writing, and also for small group sessions with the school psychologist with kids with similar issues. The school is in the process of doing their official evaluations in preparation for our IEP meeting which should be the end of this month. I've observed him many times, in his current school and also in day care last summer, and he just gets too much stimulation in groups.

I've even spoken with quite a few parents to explain what's going on with him, and to let them know he's not just being a bad or strange kid, etc. All have been very open to what I had to say and some mentioned that they knew something was different, but they all like him because he's so friendly and loves striking up conversations with the other parents. He's got the gift of gab, that's for sure! And his PM teacher in K has done a great job of explaining to the other kids that everybody learns differently and that sometimes we all use different "tools" to help us learn (referring to the different OT items he uses in class). I really think it's because of her that the other kids are very supportive. I often hear them saying encouraging things to Tyler. In fact, just this past Thursday, on our way back from the fire station field trip, one girl walked up to Tyler, grabbed his hand, and said, "Tyler, you did such a great job today!" He just said OK and kept holding her hand, but it really touched me and I told her thanks for noticing.

I don't think we'd want to switch schools because he doesn't handle change well at all and would surely have a setback. Plus, the school is doing a great job of trying different things to see what works for him. And his OT and also the psychologist told us that his school district is the only one in the area they've ever known to do whatever the doctors recommend regarding special accommodations or assistance without putting up a fight about it. Apparently most schools in our area drag their feet and it's like pulling teeth to get things started, so we're lucky we picked this school.

 

[nskjerven]

Let's attach DISNAMES to the last names

HALTERMAN - Daniel and Lisa - Disneylover5

ok...

SKJERVEN - nskjerven

just being a smartie pants....

 

[nskjerven]

don't shake your head at us...spilll......

 

[gaylean93]

Holly, do you think he has some problems because he has to go back and forth between you and dad? I only mention this because of the break down you mentioned earlier while you were on the way to dad's house. I know he has to go back and forth but maybe you could limit it a little until he can get the meds he needs or he gets a little older. My kids are 5 and 8 and I couldn't imagine them being alright with me being gone that much.

 

[nskjerven]

Also, F1 fans - have been to several F1 races.

which ones? Paul went to Monaco once. We keep looking at the calendar trying to figure out how we can go on one of the tours without the kids, but it never seems to work out at the right time.

 

[gaylean93]

don't shake your head at us...spilll......

Keep reading. They drank some wine and had a threesome!

 

[luv2cruzsus]

Unfortunately, we are unable to attend tomorrow's DISmeet, as we are attending a dear friend's father's funeral. (I informed edna mode early in the week, but she has been extremely busy.)

We will miss seeing everyone, especially those in our seating group whom we met last year (Lisa, DH, DS, DS, Bubba, Venetia). Perhaps Liserann can take over the Woody group.

BTW, today I went to five cooking demonstrations at the DCA Food and Wine festival, and they exceeded my expectations! (We've been to the Epcot F&W festival twice.)

Tasted generous portions of Carmelized French Toast, Rosemary Chicken, Monte Cristo sandwich, Potatoes au Gratin from Club 33, and many more. Highly recommended. Arrive ~30 to 45 minutes early to get a seating number.

We will miss all attending the DISmeet. Have a great time. See you onboard!

Woody

Sorry we won't get to meet you. I guess we'll meet in three more weeks! And I won't forget to tell you when we are having those special rose champagne's so you can sample them!

 

[HollyTyler]

we are looking forward to meeting you too, and when we are over the top you can smack us down. I can't retailate and smack a man of the cloth...

Are you sure?? I think you probably could!

 

[taysmom]

Holly, do you think he has some problems because he has to go back and forth between you and dad? I only mention this because of the break down you mentioned earlier while you were on the way to dad's house. I know he has to go back and forth but maybe you could limit it a little until he can get the meds he needs or he gets a little older. My kids are 5 and 8 and I couldn't imagine them being alright with me being gone that much.

Thats a good point. I know I didn't think anything about my dd going to her dads...and then he moved in with his GF and her son at the start of this school year. My dd said nothing about moving to their house and seemed to still enjoy her visits..fast forward 3 months and her school work was declining and her attention sliding..fast forward another 3 months after school psychologist, testing and outside counseling..the problem was going to her dads house. We now have adjusted the schedule so that she still has her "own" day with her dad (although he's a slacker who has bailed on that solo day more than he's had her alone) and she is picking back up in school and attention. She brought home her vocab test the other day and she got 100% a VAST improvement. As long as she's improving, I'm ok with him missing her dates..he doesn't get her any extra as it messes up her schedule, so it's his loss. She is doing fabulous now. There was a time when her teacher was very concerned about her missing 2 weeks of school for this trip, now she is totally ok with her going. Talk about a turn around!

 

[nskjerven]

haha I am sure you explain further later but this sounds kinda kinky.............but we sure had fun!

It was really good we might have to try that again!

who was your 3rd???? I wasn't invited