Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[zima-cheryl]

DH just sent me this & I thought it was pretty funny.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mHXBL6bzAR4&eurl
(it is about 7 minutes)

Anyone else w/yodeling cats?

 

[PhotobearSam]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WML7zy6HfgA

 

[tennvalgirl]

I love your pic that dances in your thread...I feel old when I think of how long ago that was...LOL

Thanks! When I saw this video after hearing the song on the radio, I said WTH!

 

[PhotobearSam]

anything to add to my "Funniest thing you have seen on youtube..." post?


http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1811143

 

[maddhatir]

I never understood that...
Ultimately we are all hockey fans; even if we are cheering on different teams. I can appriciate another team if they are doing well & I can certainly talk in a civil way to other fans.

Over the years the only time I ever had a problem was @ MSG. I was wearing my Thrashers gear & this guy got in my face... I have to confess he was big & I was scared!!
Nothing happened thank goodness....but I'll never go back there again!!!
We've never had problems at the Garden in Boston... Fans there seem a little more mellow. There is usually some good natured ribbing... but never a problem.

Last night during the game one of the Canadiens tried to block a shot......with his stomach! OUCH! He was doubled over and crawling to the boards- you know how it is just common courtesy to cheer when the poor guys gets up and taken off the ice (b/c he is REALLY) hurt- well our fans were booing him We USED to cheer- what the heck is happening?!

I can't even believe a GUY would do that to a woman! .............Scumbag! To bad you didn't have your mace with you- that would have shut him up!

No - I've not ventured over there.... From all the things I've heard about the CB I'm a bit afraid...

It is OK on the hockey thread- everyone is nice there!- If they are not nice to you when you get there....they will have to answer to ME!

There is even a Mod who posts there, she's cool- she is a Canadiens fan- she would not let things get out of hand- not sure how long she will be around though b/c the Flyers are up 3 games to 1! But I am never overly cocky about things like that b/c things can turn out not quite like what you expected!

 

[zima-cheryl]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WML7zy6HfgA

That's great!!!

My big boy Tiger is sitting here & you should see his ears & eyes when I played that one! I don't know which was funnier? The video? Or his reaction!

 

[PoohNTuck]

Hey all...

Nice to see that everyone is enjoying themselves. Looks like things have been busy. DH and I have been vacation planning and watching lots of fun movies lately. Unfortunately we've been working so hard the past few months it seems we have had little free time together! Had some deep thoughts...thought I'd share them here and get some feeback from like minded folks:

The doc officially declared us "sperm free" last week.

However, I broke down in tears a few days later at the thought of losing DH. Now, having children to keep from being alone is not a good reason. But we're not close (physically or emotionally) to either of our families. We spend most of our time together. Since we're not planning kids (hopefully puppies once we become homeowners in the indeterminate future) I just wonder what the best way to create a community around us will be. In my ideal world, I want to have a community of friends (ideally childfree couples) that we could be friendly with and have holiday celebrations with and regularly go out with or have over to hangout. In case anything were ever to happen to me or DH we would have a support system of close friends (who are like family) in place.

Does anybody have this where they are? Know of any great cf groups in the states? I'd be willing to take that into consideration when we move somewhere.

It just seems like a lot of people are still close to their original families and spend a lot of time with bros/sis/etc... anybody in a similar boat? Or have similar thoughts?

Looking forward to your opinions...

 

[Barthy73]

Hey Pooh,

My DW and I share your thoughts about being cf, and we're not terribly close with our families either. We're slowly building a support system of other childfrees and couples with grown children as well. If your thoughts of moving ever include South Carolina, we'd certainly be happy to offer our experiences and friendship!

John

 

[PoohNTuck]

Thanks John,

We're dealing with the New England storms for a few more years but have definitely considered S.C. We just need to relocate my MIL from Charleston area first

Good to know the life exists somewhere...

 

[zima-cheryl]

Thanks John,

We're dealing with the New England storms for a few more years but have definitely considered S.C. We just need to relocate my MIL from Charleston area first

Good to know the life exists somewhere...

Pooh,

Wow - some heavy thoughts for a Friday! Weekends are supposed to be fun & carefree...

Seriously - where in NE are you? We are in W. Mass (Go Red Sox! )

The "someday" question is a big one. You aren't the only one who struggles w/that...we know other CF couples & that is a common topic.
I'm blessed that although physically we are far away, I am emotionally close to my family (2 brothers, 1 SIL & 5 niece/nephews). DH however is an only child & not overly close to his family. So in essence, while living here in NE we are "on our own".

Building that network takes time....and it evolves over time. It looks different today than it did a year ago...and will look different in another year. Unfortunately people come & go in life.

Based on our experience, the best advice I can share is get active! Between yoga, church, bowling, belly dance classes, the hockey booster club, volunteering at the library, being semi-active in our local No Kidding group, etc., etc., etc., (whew...no wonder I'm so tired all the time!) we have met a lot of people and built up that network.

I'm amazed -- 15 years ago when I moved here I knew no one, and now I can't go to the grocery store w/out bumping into someone I know.

I've also learned that when you need that support - it often comes from the folks you least expect. And, a bit disappointing, doesn't always come from the ones you think it would.

You also need to be smart - get your will, power of attorney, etc. all done. And be sure to be investing in your own retirement. I think for CF folks this is so much more important, because there is not the same support that others w/kids might have (although I've seen some families where that support doesn't happen...you just never know ).
I think our choice to be CF makes us have to be a little smarter financially. That said - w/out the expense of kids it is much easier to tuck away gobs of $$ for retirement & still have $$ left over to play & travel!

Anyhow....sorry to ramble so long, but those are a few of my thoughts.

Now stop thinking so serious & go enjoy the weekend!
After my manicure tomorrow we are going bowling (I know...bad planning! ) and Sunday, assuming it doesn't rain, we are off to a baseball game!

 

[drummersmask]

If anyone cares ........

So- give dear Corey Taylor a rest and get out there and buy it!

Rock On peeps!

Ms. Madd....I would give Corey Taylor a break but his lovely little drummer keeps me totally enraptured Won't be too much longer and I will get to see the "9 in the Knot" and I'm counting down the days....94 days to be exact! (not that I'm counting mind you )

 

[maddhatir]

Ms. Madd....I would give Corey Taylor a break but his lovely little drummer keeps me totally enraptured Won't be too much longer and I will get to see the "9 in the Knot" and I'm counting down the days....94 days to be exact! (not that I'm counting mind you )

I have to check and be sure of the dates in NJ- I just got the newest Down CD- I was talking about Phil Anselmo with a cool freap mom of all people, on the freap chat thread of all places!

I had a Phil craving so I had to stop in Hot Topic and pick it up today!

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[WDWguru]

We're here in our BWV boardwalk view villa and the camera is set up! We'll have the camera on showing live streaming video (and audio!) as long as our internet access stays up until we check out the morning of May 7th.

Go to www.tivogirl.com/bwvcam

I have the audio setting pretty low quality so it doesn't suck all the bandwidth up. If you want to chat with others watching at the same time, you can hit the little talk bubble icon at the bottom right of the window. I'm using the same software I used for the AKV cam in December, so it's LIVE video and not just stills. ENJOY!!

 

[Rozzie]

However, I broke down in tears a few days later at the thought of losing DH. Now, having children to keep from being alone is not a good reason. But we're not close (physically or emotionally) to either of our families. We spend most of our time together. Since we're not planning kids (hopefully puppies once we become homeowners in the indeterminate future) I just wonder what the best way to create a community around us will be. In my ideal world, I want to have a community of friends (ideally childfree couples) that we could be friendly with and have holiday celebrations with and regularly go out with or have over to hangout. In case anything were ever to happen to me or DH we would have a support system of close friends (who are like family) in place.



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I just got a chill down my spine! I could have written this word for word a short time ago. Sometimes I struggle with the fact it is VERY hard to find CF couples in our area, and we really don't have outside friends. We live in a very pigeonholed area where everyone looks the same and acts the same, and does the whole 2.3 kid routine like clockwork. We really stick out like sore thumbs sometimes, LOL!

We don't belong to a church (or really care to), and work all the time. We only get 2 days off together a month. We are super close to each other, and really rather be with each other than anybody else. We both come from dysfunctional families, and do not have very close relationships with siblings. My brother, for instance, lives 3 miles down road and I see him and his kids maybe 6 times a year. But you know, one day I woke up, and I quit worrying about losing my DH. I used to almost have panic attacks thinking about it. I figured I was wasting energy on the "what if's", and not the now.

What I did is found online friends who are CF, some are not. We actually are a really close bunch on another MB, and meet up at WDW at least once a year and all vacation together. It has made all the difference in my life. Some of the best friends I have ever had, and know I could call any of them if I needed. Online friendships make the best IRL friendships in my experience, no pressure during the week to meet up, etc. I used to struggle with why I didn't have a lot of friends, till I discovered I was capable of making friends, just had to find some with similar interests. KWIM?

I wish you the best, and if you are ever in the coastal Alabama area (which we affectionately refer to as the Armpit') I'll be happy to meet up!! Or in WDW for that matter. I love meeting up with people down there for drinks.

 

[PoohNTuck]

Thanks Cheryl and Rozzie.

Rozzie, my hubby laughed at your post! It is us, word for word almost.

We are struggling with whether to stay here (or move d/t cold weather) and making friends is really going to take a lot of effort. It's easy to find people to hang out with if you're willing to pay for dinners, movies, clubs and drinking... it's harder to find true friendships. People you can hang out with on a Friday night at your house, with a frozen pizza and a jug (or two) of fresh margarita... that would be my ideal.

Here's to hoping we find that! Thank you both for the supportive words...

Pink

 

[PhotobearSam]

Hello guys...I know what you mean.

I panic if DH is not home at exactly the right time and I am constantly tellinghim to drive safe. I would go nuts if I lost him.

We moved to my home town where a lot of my school friends still live but they are sooooo boring. One couple we are friends with have not left the house in like 3 years since their baby was born and now they are waiting for baby #2. They think the world will end if they get a sitter...

Well, we also have some friends who just don't like going out...We invite them over all the time. They come, we feed them, we even took them to Disney but they hardly ever do anything else.

I lot of my friends have kids. It makes it hard to make friends...I wish there was a no-kidding chapter around here but alas...not to be.

 

[Rozzie]

Hello guys...I know what you mean.

I panic if DH is not home at exactly the right time and I am constantly tellinghim to drive safe. I would go nuts if I lost him.

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OMG, I do the same thing! I find I have to "talk myself down" if he is 5 minutes late, I always think he is in a car accident or some type of dreadful robbery at the restaurant. Seriously I used to obsess about it, and still worry a lot. I think I will always be a worrier, it just my nature.

 

[PhotobearSam]

OMG, I do the same thing! I find I have to "talk myself down" if he is 5 minutes late, I always think he is in a car accident or some type of dreadful robbery at the restaurant. Seriously I used to obsess about it, and still worry a lot. I think I will always be a worrier, it just my nature.

Glad to know I am not alone.

I just wish we could find more people that want to hang out. We have a great home, and we love to entertain...Ah well...Maybe I will start a chapter of No-Kidding on my own.

 

[Rozzie]

Glad to know I am not alone.

I just wish we could find more people that want to hang out. We have a great home, and we love to entertain...Ah well...Maybe I will start a chapter of No-Kidding on my own.

I can't imagine me starting a No-Kidding chapter here, it'd just be Mr Roz and I sitting in the living room staring at each other!!

 

[drummersmask]

I have to check and be sure of the dates in NJ- I just got the newest Down CD- I was talking about Phil Anselmo with a cool freap mom of all people, on the freap chat thread of all places!

I had a Phil craving so I had to stop in Hot Topic and pick it up today!

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I was hoping to get up to Hot Topic today (it's 2 hours away!) to snag a copy of Wednesday 13's newest "Skeletons" but DH is working 7 day shifts, 5 am to 7pm and my car is in the shop getting a new motor. I've been bored out of my skull all day, just moping around, grumbling about being cooped up in the house. Probably should have done more housework but I wasn't THAT bored!
How's everyone else today?
Sam-good to see you. How's things with you?
It's nice to see that this thread is always picking up new posters. The more the merrier, huh? Think I'll go make some Rice Krispie Treats. That ought to kill about 5 minutes