Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Suzibrat]

I actually slept in this morning DH goes back to work tomorrow That means I will be back to getting up between 5 and 5:30am, which I love. He's so happy about finally being able to go back that he's in a silly mood. I have to say that other than the TV being on as loud as it can go (he doesn't hear very well) he's really been no trouble and I'm going to miss having him here all day.
I just got home from running around. I had to mail a package to the UK and it cost $20 for a 2 pound package!! The person I'm sending it to is totally worth it though and I wanted her to have some Yankee Candles for her birthday. They have the yummiest scents! One of them that I sent her was "Fudge Ripple". I made sure I got one of those babies for myself.
I'm off to do some housework, make a pork roast and then relax with my man all night. Hope you all are having a great Monday! We haven't heard from Barthy so he must be holed up in the Sports Bar!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

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I just got home from running around. I had to mail a package to the UK and it cost $20 for a 2 pound package!! The person I'm sending it to is totally worth it though and I wanted her to have some Yankee Candles for her birthday. They have the yummiest scents! One of them that I sent her was "Fudge Ripple". I made sure I got one of those babies for myself.
I'm off to do some housework, make a pork roast and then relax with my man all night. Hope you all are having a great Monday! We haven't heard from Barthy so he must be holed up in the Sports Bar!

ok I am going to have to find that scent! Sounds yummy! I am hugely addicted to Yankee Candles!!

 

[HockeyKat]

You know- the first house DH and I owned in 1987- we had off white sofas and 2 off white ottomans.

We never went into the "sitting room" where they were. One Thanksgiving we had the family over. Well, add 3 kids to the house and by the end of the evening the sofas had marks on them!

We have a white/cream sofa... and two white/cream chaise lounges... and white carpeting... and a white cat...

Mr Kat, even if we already didn't want them, is way too OCD to foist on a poor defenseless child.

 

[zima-cheryl]

I just got home from running around. I had to mail a package to the UK and it cost $20 for a 2 pound package!! The person I'm sending it to is totally worth it though and I wanted her to have some Yankee Candles for her birthday. They have the yummiest scents! One of them that I sent her was "Fudge Ripple". I made sure I got one of those babies for myself.

Our favorites are Home Sweet Home & Vineyard!
MMmmmmmmm!!!!

We live 45 minutes from the big flagship store in Deerfield, MA
I still remember it before the family that owned it sold the place. Back when they had the car museum (it was a good spot to leave your DH while you shop!). It is still nice...but not as nice as it used to be.
I will say you can get some great deals & do some serious damage when shopping there.

 

[Suzibrat]

ok I am going to have to find that scent! Sounds yummy! I am hugely addicted to Yankee Candles!!

Our favorites are Home Sweet Home & Vineyard!
MMmmmmmmm!!!!

We live 45 minutes from the big flagship store in Deerfield, MA
I still remember it before the family that owned it sold the place. Back when they had the car museum (it was a good spot to leave your DH while you shop!). It is still nice...but not as nice as it used to be.
I will say you can get some great deals & do some serious damage when shopping there.

The Root Beer Float smells pretty good too! Right now I am burning Sun & Sand. I love these candles and they last so long! When I go thru Mass. on my way home from NY I always stop in the town that has the second hand Yankee Candle shop. It's right next to a free standing YC. I can't remember the name of the town for the life of me ( and too lazy to google it) but I think it's something like Shelburne??? I know they have a huge Antique fair thingie every year. One year they had the large jar "French Toast" candles for $9.95 just because the label was a little crooked! I'll be going there in a few weeks and plan on stocking up a bit!

 

[zima-cheryl]

The Root Beer Float smells pretty good too! Right now I am burning Sun & Sand. I love these candles and they last so long! When I go thru Mass. on my way home from NY I always stop in the town that has the second hand Yankee Candle shop. It's right next to a free standing YC. I can't remember the name of the town for the life of me ( and too lazy to google it) but I think it's something like Shelburne??? I know they have a huge Antique fair thingie every year. One year they had the large jar "French Toast" candles for $9.95 just because the label was a little crooked! I'll be going there in a few weeks and plan on stocking up a bit!

Shelburne Falls, that is a nice area! They have the Bridge of Flowers during the summer that is just amazing to see!

You do have to love the seconds. I don't mind crooked lables or bubbles or slightly off or swirlly colors as long as the candle smells yummy! The Macintosh Apple candle is amazingly dead on! Makes me hungry when I smell that one.

Different topic... it is the best time of the year (at least if you are a hockey fan)!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPW-uTKRFdc

DH's Bruins won one last night so at least Montreal won't sweep them out in Round 1.
My Thrashers didn't even make the playoffs...they are all off golfing now.
Maybe next year.
Of course I don't know who to cheer for now?

 

[maddhatir]

Different topic... it is the best time of the year (at least if you are a hockey fan)!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPW-uTKRFdc

DH's Bruins won one last night so at least Montreal won't sweep them out in Round 1.
My Thrashers didn't even make the playoffs...they are all off golfing now.
Maybe next year.
Of course I don't know who to cheer for now?

Playoff time!!!

That clip must have been old- it had our own Eric Lindros in a Flyer's Jersey!

But the clip had it all- hockey and James from METALLICA!!!!!

 

[Hixski]

You know I try not to let what posters say bug me but this thread just struck me wrong. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1793063

We have had people question us about why do we have a 3bd-2bath house if we don't have children before. It just struck me wrong that she is somewhat complaining about yet another couple without children moving into her neighborhood. Makes me wonder how many of our neighbors back in the day (we have been here 20yrs) gave us the stink eye because we didn't produce playmates for their children.

Is it just me or did that come across rude to any of you??? Or am I just being crabby today??

 

[zima-cheryl]

You know I try not to let what posters say bug me but this thread just struck me wrong. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1793063

We have had people question us about why do we have a 3bd-2bath house if we don't have children before. It just struck me wrong that she is somewhat complaining about yet another couple without children moving into her neighborhood. Makes me wonder how many of our neighbors back in the day (we have been here 20yrs) gave us the stink eye because we didn't produce playmates for their children.

Is it just me or did that come across rude to any of you??? Or am I just being crabby today??

No -I don't think you are being crabby....
I just don't get it? She just assumed the neighbors would always have kids the same age as hers? To me hers is a pretty narrow minded & selfish sounding post. I hope it just came out poorly & that she really didn't mean it the way it sounds.

Personally I love our immediate neighbors - one older, retired lady who "keeps an eye on the neighbor hood" on one side & the couple on the other side have 2 nice girls 1 in college & the other a senior in High School.
The couple accross the street have a toddler...but they seem nice enough. I'm sure being across the street means we don't hear the screaming & tantrums like their immediate neighbors probably do.

 

[Devil_Dog99]

You know I try not to let what posters say bug me but this thread just struck me wrong. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1793063

We have had people question us about why do we have a 3bd-2bath house if we don't have children before. It just struck me wrong that she is somewhat complaining about yet another couple without children moving into her neighborhood. Makes me wonder how many of our neighbors back in the day (we have been here 20yrs) gave us the stink eye because we didn't produce playmates for their children.

Is it just me or did that come across rude to any of you??? Or am I just being crabby today??

I read that post and DW and I must have ruined our neighborhood when we moved in almost 15 years ago. Our neighborhood has plenty of kids and we just didnt add to the population. If her point is lamenting days gone by when kids were more plentiful (and there was an allusion) then I can almost see the logic. But teh way that post came across made it seem like it is the new neighbor's responsibility to provide playmates - and that is just wrong!!! I started to leave a reply but stopped - couldnt really come up with anything nice to say - too

 

[Devil_Dog99]

Couldn't help myself - left a post - tried to be as nice as I could - hope my fellow no-kidders will lend me some flame proof materials.

 

[PhotobearSam]

Only one neighbour here has kids...I love it.

I just hated the way it came across...Not nice.

I am always excited when people with no kids move around here as we could use people who think like us to talk to...

 

[patti_jim_peanut]

I was shocked at her attitude about the couple moving in. The aren't even married So what? I've seen unmarried couples last longer than married ones and you're income doesn't get a magical boost once you get married And how can they afford it What? Does not being married mean you're poor? Or does being married mean you're well off enough to buy a house?

$230,000 is average for a house around here as well and I don't know about her, but we've got a married couple living by us and their son is in the same class as my DD... we won't let her anywhere near him!! Him and his big brother are plain old evil!!

 

[Hixski]

Well, I'm glad to know it wasn't just me that it struck wrong. I grew up in a neighborhood too that had tons of kids. Heck, the family across the street had 11 kids (10 girls and 1 boy ). I just hope that poster doesn't treat the new neighbors with a "Well, you aren't married and you don't have children for my children to play with so what the heck are you doing in the neighborhood attitude". I would like to think people wouldn't do that but you never know in this day and age.

 

[Andy B]

This is your choice and great for that, however I would say that my children are the greatest joy of my life, true they don't come without challenges but luckily our have all been small ones.

With regard to your answers to questions I feel the our dogs are our family allways sounds strange and is in fact a substitution for children and so could lead to more questions. Also the thypew of answer indicating that we want to spend all our disposable income and spare time on us does sound a little selfish, I'm sure it's not meant that way but to me it does.

If you are happy then I do not see why you should let this bug you but do not assume you know how you would feel with children, my wife was not particually interested in babies and still does not traditionally 'coo' over others but she is a wonderful mother to ours.

 

[Suzibrat]

You know I try not to let what posters say bug me but this thread just struck me wrong. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1793063

Is it just me or did that come across rude to any of you??? Or am I just being crabby today??

Naw, you weren't being crabby. I was thrown off track by it as well. But I guess that when people are used to having neighborhoods full of kids they get used to it that way and want it to stay the same. The house across the street from me just was sold and my neighbor and I were praying it was a headbanger with long hair and tattoos (not that she's into metal music, she just likes the way the guys look ) My husband was praying that no one like that would move in! I think he had visions of finding a party on our deck everday when he got home from work. No such luck, it's a family who is from out of state (like I was) so right now they are probably suffering from shell shock because they realized they have stepped back in time to Mayberry. Hope they don't meet Andy Griffith and Barney Fife too soon or they'll put the house back up for sale! (Ohhh the story I could tell about my run in with Barney Fife!)

This is your choice and great for that, however I would say that my children are the greatest joy of my life, true they don't come without challenges but luckily our have all been small ones.

With regard to your answers to questions I feel the our dogs are our family allways sounds strange and is in fact a substitution for children and so could lead to more questions. Also the thypew of answer indicating that we want to spend all our disposable income and spare time on us does sound a little selfish, I'm sure it's not meant that way but to me it does.

If you are happy then I do not see why you should let this bug you but do not assume you know how you would feel with children, my wife was not particually interested in babies and still does not traditionally 'coo' over others but she is a wonderful mother to ours.

Huh?????

I've been up since 2:30 this morning. Couldn't sleep for some reason and started searching for "pay as you go" cell phones online. The wall I keep hitting is that there is not a bit of cell phone coverage here! I want to use it mainly when I travel. I have 3 trips coming up and since I will be doing them alone I like to have a phone with me just in case. My tracfone hasn't been able to hit a tower anywhere around and won't even go into roaming mode so I'm ready to ditch it!
My car was finally dragged (and i do mean dragged, because the back brakes were locked) up onto a hauler and taken to be fixed. When I screw up a car I do it in fine fashion...it needs a new motor. Oh yeah, and all new brakes in the back as well (imagine that!) I will get it back in about a week and I can't wait! Then I have to have a new set of speakers put in. Somehow the rear speakers got blown. How ever did that happen?????
Hope you all have a good day. It's a beauty here!

 

[Andy B]

Naw, you weren't being crabby. I was thrown off track by it as well. But I guess that when people are used to having neighborhoods full of kids they get used to it that way and want it to stay the same. The house across the street from me just was sold and my neighbor and I were praying it was a headbanger with long hair and tattoos (not that she's into metal music, she just likes the way the guys look ) My husband was praying that no one like that would move in! I think he had visions of finding a party on our deck everday when he got home from work. No such luck, it's a family who is from out of state (like I was) so right now they are probably suffering from shell shock because they realized they have stepped back in time to Mayberry. Hope they don't meet Andy Griffith and Barney Fife too soon or they'll put the house back up for sale! (Ohhh the story I could tell about my run in with Barney Fife!)

Huh?????

I've been up since 2:30 this morning. Couldn't sleep for some reason and started searching for "pay as you go" cell phones online. The wall I keep hitting is that there is not a bit of cell phone coverage here! I want to use it mainly when I travel. I have 3 trips coming up and since I will be doing them alone I like to have a phone with me just in case. My tracfone hasn't been able to hit a tower anywhere around and won't even go into roaming mode so I'm ready to ditch it!
My car was finally dragged (and i do mean dragged, because the back brakes were locked) up onto a hauler and taken to be fixed. When I screw up a car I do it in fine fashion...it needs a new motor. Oh yeah, and all new brakes in the back as well (imagine that!) I will get it back in about a week and I can't wait! Then I have to have a new set of speakers put in. Somehow the rear speakers got blown. How ever did that happen?????
Hope you all have a good day. It's a beauty here!

Why the HUH! I was replying to the original post subject.

 

[Suzibrat]

Why the HUH! I was replying to the original post subject.

THe OP was from September of 2005, that's why I was confused....I couldn't figure out who you were responding to that had posted on here lately. That's why the "Huh"???? I haven't had enough java this morning yet I guess.

 

[zima-cheryl]

...and started searching for "pay as you go" cell phones online...

You might want to check out Virgin Mobile (http://www.virginmobileusa.com).
Virgin Mobile is the same as the Virgin Airlines company... odd combo I know, but at least it is a known, reliable company.

I believe they piggy back on the Sprint towers (I could be "misremembering" that but it is one of the other major carriers they piggy back on). In the US we've always had good coverage.

We have the cheapest option they offer - we add $15 every 3 months (it ends up being $15.75 w/tax). Per minute it is a bit high compared to other plans, but if you are like DH & I you'll never use it all. We both have over $100 balance on our phones right now.
Downside is you buy your phone...unlike getting it for free when you sign on for some of those 2+ year plans from the other companies. However, I still think over the years we have come out way ahead compared to paying the monthly service plan amount to Sprint, AT&T or Verizon.

 

[zima-cheryl]

Couldn't help myself - left a post - tried to be as nice as I could - hope my fellow no-kidders will lend me some flame proof materials.

I tried to avoid it....but I left a post too.
Not so much for me... but what ticked me off was the comments about older couples & empty nesters. My grandparents didn't own their first home until after all the kids were grown & gone. The folks on their street were lucky to have them as neighbors!!!! (OK maybe I'm a bit biased.. but they really were good folks )

It really sounds like age discrimination...
well you are too old - just go to the nursing home...you waited too long so you can't own your own home now!