Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Hey, whad up my peeps?

Well, I am thrilled to say that I got through the boxes in the kitchen today!! WOOO-HOOOO It has been a mess for over a month (you know, the whole moving in thing).

I'm still not quite done but I needed a break so here I am. Hi.

My radio is always tuned to 104.9 THE DRIVE. Seriously.

Besides, what other talk radio can you pick up over there? When I lived there all you got was static from the Greenville AM stations.

We have XM Radio so I can usually find something interesting to listen to.

For you guys who like the 40s music, have you checked out the Puppini Sisters? Their site (www.thepuppinisisters.com) takes forever to load but it's all done in 40s style, with pinup cards and everything. Their music is like the Andrews Sisters covering 70s and 80s hits! They do the coolest version of Walk Like an Egyptian! Definitely check them out if you like that kind of thing.

Liked the Puppini Sisters! Thanks for sharing.

Ahh.. yes, I vaguely know what you are talking about.. I might have experienced once, maybe twice. The reality is, all the "fair" genes that my parents could contribute to their offspring's DNA for some reason ended up in my strand. Half the year I stay ghostly white... the other half, usually I look like a lobster waiting to fade to ghostly white

Are we related? I'm a red-haired, fair skinned damsel myself. My sister, on the other hand, got all the indian (native american to be P.C.) genes and tans in mere minutes.

Man...I feel like if I tell you guys what kind of music I like, you will throw me off the thread.

Uuum, did you not see where I admitted to listening to 40's music?

..........I am a closet Neil Diamond fan I swear!!! There is something about some of his music that makes me happy

Sweet Caroline --duh, duh, duh duuuuuh -- Good times never seemed so good . . . .


Well, I better get back at it. I really want to get it done tonight.

Talk to you soon.

 

[maddhatir]

Click!
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Hello, all you animal lovers. This is pretty simple.

Please tell ten (or more) friends to tell ten today! The Animal Rescue Site is having trouble getting enough people to click on it daily to meet their quota of getting free food donated every day to abused and neglected animals.

It takes less than a minute to go to their site and click on "feed an animal in need" for free. It's in a purple box in the middle of the page. This doesn't cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate food to abandoned/neglected animals in exchange for advertising.

Pass it along to people you know

 

[PhotobearSam]

Click!
http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/clickToGive/home.faces?siteId=3

Hello, all you animal lovers. This is pretty simple.

Please tell ten (or more) friends to tell ten today! The Animal Rescue Site is having trouble getting enough people to click on it daily to meet their quota of getting free food donated every day to abused and neglected animals.

It takes less than a minute to go to their site and click on "feed an animal in need" for free. It's in a purple box in the middle of the page. This doesn't cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate food to abandoned/neglected animals in exchange for advertising.

Pass it along to people you know

I AM CLICKING AWAY....Keep reminding me and I will keep doing it.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

I'm clicking! Cats are clicking!

 

[PhotobearSam]

I'm clicking! Cats are clicking!

Just keep clicking...Just keep clicking...Just keep Clicking sung in a Dory voice

 

[maddhatir]

Reason for this post.....Just watching Flyers vs Rangers and......

I know some of us here are hockey fans aka PUCK bunnies

but have not seen a lot of our regular bunnies around in a while!

...........Anyway I see this commercial all the time when watching the Flyers games-

It is so funny- I cannot relate to the parent and the nursery But I just love the hockey analogy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EG6orPtnhdY

and the only thing this next one has to do with hockey is, I see it all the time while watching the games and PEE my pants it's so funny!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWgbMJZupGM&feature=related

Has anyone seen either of them?

 

[TXTurtles]

Fantastic commercials. Better than the Superbowl ones, though that's not hard.

And just enjoying the child-free air for the moment. My younger brother has, for some reason, decided that DH and I would be too good of parents to, well, not be. And, since we can't claim that we're not having kids for the kids' sakes (see above decision which I seriously think is insane - I put my fish through enough torture trying to teach him tricks ... perfectionist, anyone?) he gently insinuated that we're selfish for not increasing the population. Well, yes, I will be the first to admit that we don't have kids because we don't want to give up our childless ways ... but so? Many people have kids because they don't want to give up their dream of a 2.5 kid family. I fail to see how that's any better or worse. And anyway, this is the li'l bro that I, for all practical purposes, raised (including teaching him to drive ) so, well, I've done my part for the human race of the next generation. On the good side, he's one of only three people in the world that can be that level with me and the levelness itself not be insulting - on the other hand, what kinda person did I raise??? His one defense - he's my only sib so me not having kids shoves the pressure of grandkids off on him. Of course, between his driving and bagpipe lessons, I figure we're even ... but still. Anyway, after being equally level with him and tearing apart his entire argument (hey, the levelness goes both ways, kid) I feel better but still a little frustrated. AM I a selfish person? Er, more specifically, am I selfish in an area that I shouldn't be? Fortunately Fish is shaking his head at me (I think he's actually asking for food, but I'll take what I can get) and making me feel better. Besides DH spoils the fish rotten (you didn't think fish could be spoiled did you? Just wait until we get a dog or cat - it'll be entirely up to me to train it and DH will just sit there feeding it from the table. I can see it already) so any kids around here would have bipolar parents, one of which expects military discipline and one that lets them get away with murder. Yeah, definitely not a good idea. We should stick to raising things that don't get a vote in our government's future. Ok, feeling better.

Any more good commercials?

 

[maddhatir]

Fantastic commercials. Better than the Superbowl ones, though that's not hard.

AM I a selfish person?

Any more good commercials?

Mom was telling me about this commercial http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uUcJuR_aqTs today and I had to check it out on You Tube- it IS from the Superbowl but I am SO not a fan of football so I missed it- Not only that we were in Mexico during the Superbowl so we had an excuse NOT to watch

Oh the million dollar question- ARE you selfish- to answer the question about MYSELF- #ELL YEAH I am selfish! So what!?

That is exactly why I do not have kids. And I know it.

Well not only that- There is NO way I would want to take any of my attention away from DH- I love giving him any and all the attention I can- he does not demand it or expect it, I just love giving it all to him.

We enjoy each other's company and I cannot see a 3rd (4th, or 5th) person interfering with that. He feels the same exact way.

We are lucky we both agree- not a lot of couples can say that- and that is where the trouble begins.

 

[Hixski]

I hate the selfish comments!! Who gets to decide just what is selfish??

I see comments from parents saying "I would like to have a 3rd (or 4th or 5th) child and my DH is just not quite on board". It gets debated with responses ranging from "just go ahead and have another your DH will come around" to "be careful I had a friend who "accidently" got pregnant with the next one they wanted and their marriage was over from the mistrust". Most people are reasonable about it but so many of the comments sound sooo selfish to me. It is all "I want, I am not finished with my family, I need to get DH on board. The comments all seem to be about "I, I, I, me, me, me".

So again just what is selfish?? Some of the people calling us selfish might take a good long look at themselves. People can be selfish in a variety of ways.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Well not only that- There is NO way I would want to take any of my attention away from DH- I love giving him any and all the attention I can- he does not demand it or expect it, I just love giving it all to him.

We enjoy each other's company and I cannot see a 3rd (4th, or 5th) person interfering with that. He feels the same exact way.

We are lucky we both agree- not a lot of couples can say that- and that is where the trouble begins.

This is exactly how I feel. I enjoy being married to my husband and knowing him as such.

 

[maddhatir]

This is exactly how I feel. I enjoy being married to my husband and knowing him as such.

Of course, I LOVE my husband- AND I actually LIKE my husband enough that I like being in his company all the time

I think I would resent anyone that came between us- even if it was a child. But like I keep saying- we BOTH knew this not long after we met - I would not want to have a child and resent it!

 

[maddhatir]

Dimmu Borgir (them satan lovin'men ya know

Sorry to keep bringing up the music, but,

I am sitting here DISing and have Hard Attack on my laptop playing away, then, all of a sudden......I hear this cool song.....I NEED to know who is singing this song-

Maxed my SIRIUS screen to see.....and its DIMMU BORGIR- Burn in #ell!!!!

That song was pretty cool!

 

[tink8jr]

Click!
http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/clickToGive/home.faces?siteId=3

Hello, all you animal lovers. This is pretty simple.

Please tell ten (or more) friends to tell ten today! The Animal Rescue Site is having trouble getting enough people to click on it daily to meet their quota of getting free food donated every day to abused and neglected animals.

It takes less than a minute to go to their site and click on "feed an animal in need" for free. It's in a purple box in the middle of the page. This doesn't cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate food to abandoned/neglected animals in exchange for advertising.

Pass it along to people you know

I go to that site everyday and click for everything, there is also a new site animalattraction.com for pet lovers, everytime you log in it donates a penny to your charity.



Now about having kids I respect people who are mature enough to say I don't want to have kids to many people have children just to have them, or they didn't mean to get prego and the child suffers, I speak from first hand experience I love my boys ages 6 and 9 they mean the world to me and I was a very selfish person until they came along and forever changed my life, My hubby now they are his bio kids, I am in the process of adopting them, the baby was 18 mths when he came to live with me and the oldest was five, my hubby and now ex wife had broken up gotten back together and the five year old had gone through this most of his life, I know because I knew her in school and she has told me all of this, she should have never had children, after me and hubby got together she kept them for two weeks then we had them and she quit coming to get them all together about three months into the relationship my baby doesn't even know her. She has not seen either of them in over three and a half years... she use to leave the baby in his crib all day, he always came back home raw and sick, the oldest got up one night at her apt and she was gone to a party he was FIVE and the baby was 20 MTHS she emotional abused the five year old made him go hungry, told him she would have another baby to replace him if he wanted me to be his mom etc... He only trust me now I have him in therapy, he also suffers from depression b/c of all this but he is getting better and feeling better everyday and I am thankful for that the baby hasn't been effected b/c I am all he knows , anyways she has moved away now and gone to prison, drugs, alcohol etc... she signed her rights over in Nov YAY I have been waiting forever to adopt them. I found out the month after she signed over her rights that she is having another BABY!!! some people never learn and I just feel sorry for that baby. To many people have kids just to have them, not everyone is suppose to be a parent, So I feel if you don't want kids don't have them that is your choice and you are being a responsible adult everyone else needs to mind there business and worry about there on life, not why do you have four kids, or two or one or none! My question to those people is why do you need to know?

 

[maddhatir]

her. She has not seen either of them in over three and a half years... she use to leave the baby in his crib all day, he always came back home raw and sick, the oldest got up one night at her apt and she was gone to a party he was FIVE and the baby was 20 MTHS she emotional abused the five year old made him go hungry, told him she would have another baby to replace him if he wanted me to be his mom etc...

I can only respond with this.......Whaaaat!?

 

[tink8jr]

Yeah its a very sad story I am so glad they don't have to go through that anymore.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

To many people have kids just to have them, not everyone is suppose to be a parent, So I feel if you don't want kids don't have them that is your choice and you are being a responsible adult everyone else needs to mind there business and worry about there on life, not why do you have four kids, or two or one or none! My question to those people is why do you need to know?

Thank you. Well said.

 

[maddhatir]

Calling Suzibrat!


Some Slipknot and DISTURBED concert news!

I have been waiting to see Disturbed for a long time- so I thought I would just Google some tour info and found this
http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1580706/20080131/slipknot.jhtml

I see they will be in Camden NJ on 8/15

and on 8/13 in Boston! Is that close to you????

I am SO getting tix- I do despise these all day concert things- with all of those testosterone infested kids- BUT I will just find out what time Slipknot and Disturbed will take the stage- most likely at the end of the day- and just scoot in the venue then!

DH will NOT be happy- he hates those kinds of concerts too- but- I have my LIST of must see bands- and Disturbed in on it!

OMG - AS I am writing this- the DJ on SIRIUS is TALKING ABOUT IT!

This is DESTINY!!!!!

 

[ChisJo]

Hey everyone...it's been awhile for me on this thread. Haven't read through the posts, so I hope everyone is doing well.

Quick story for you....I have a very good friend who has 2 children and is very accepting of my decision not to have kids (in fact, she encourages that decision ). Not too long ago, she had a Party lite party and I attended. I know her family quite well, and many of them came to the party. Her one grandma is deaf, so communicating can be hard, but I did get her when she pointed at my finger and saw there was no wedding band on there yet, the head shake, and then she pointed at my belly, then to the kids running around, and I shook my head no, no kids. She shook her head and gave me a look of pity...like I was missing out. She is quite elderly, so she may think differently, but I honestly have only seen her 5 times in my life and again, it just irks me...alot, that people think 2 people in a relationship have to have children, just because that's societals expectation.

Anyways, off that rant...

Madd - I am getting really excited about seeing the Foo's later this month...have you ever seen them live??? Would LOVE to see Disturbed too! Doubt they'll ever come to my neck of the woods though...

OT: We are thinking of heading to New Orleans following a convention near by with my BF's company. Has anyone ever been to New Orleans? We are thinking of going and I need some pointers, where to stay? Do we need a car? Any hotel recommendations? How are the Bed and Breakfasts? What should w do? We'll have 4 days in May to explore the city. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Madd - I am getting really excited about seeing the Foo's later this month...have you ever seen them live??? Would LOVE to see Disturbed too! Doubt they'll ever come to my neck of the woods though...

!

I saw them what has to be at least 7 years ago or so now...they were amazing...I saw them when they were touring with RHCP(oops sorry, red hot chili peppers for any that didn't know) both were completely awesome...but I haven't had another chance to see either since...Hope you enjoy the show!!!

 

[maddhatir]

Hey everyone...it's been awhile for me on this thread. Haven't read through the posts, so I hope everyone is doing well.

Quick story for you....I have a very good friend who has 2 children and is very accepting of my decision not to have kids (in fact, she encourages that decision ). Not too long ago, she had a Party lite party and I attended. I know her family quite well, and many of them came to the party. Her one grandma is deaf, so communicating can be hard, but I did get her when she pointed at my finger and saw there was no wedding band on there yet, the head shake, and then she pointed at my belly, then to the kids running around, and I shook my head no, no kids. She shook her head and gave me a look of pity...like I was missing out. She is quite elderly, so she may think differently, but I honestly have only seen her 5 times in my life and again, it just irks me...alot, that people think 2 people in a relationship have to have children, just because that's societals expectation.

awww- even a little ol' deaf lady?.....

Madd - I am getting really excited about seeing the Foo's later this month...have you ever seen them live??? Would LOVE to see Disturbed too! Doubt they'll ever come to my neck of the woods though...

You know- sometimes I hear a song by the FF and say- hey thats not bad- and then others are just way too mellow to risk getting a CD- I got a FF CD on the freebie thread and was kind of disappointed- I gave it to my SIL. I need it raw and crunchy, loud and nasty- my music that is Ok and my men......MAN!

and- I have never been to New Orleans- I would love to go and check out the cemeteries and some of the voodoooooooo! I BET the B&Bs there are awesome!