Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[plgrn]

I don't know if any of you have seen the Room Escape game thread that solferino start a week or two ago. It's crazy and addicting.

Yeeaaa....kind found that one

 

[maddhatir]

back semi on topic...for those with furbabies...how easy is it to board a cat who is 6 and never been boarded before.

When mom went away- she hired someone come to her house to feed the cats and just check on them. Of course, she had some refrences from other people in her neighborhood.

So you have people like that in your area that advertise??? This way kitty will feel comfortable at home.

 

[maddhatir]

I respect people who know that they don't want to be parents.
I am a very happy mom but as a teacher I see people all the time who really should NOT have kids.

I am just sad that people can't understand that.

It seems we hear from a lot of teachers here.

We only see things here and there.......You are all right there to witness it everyday!

 

[disney_family_1247]

I think you guys are awesome. I personally know lots of parents who are horrible at it (I'm not implying that you would be bad parents). Many of them had kids because they were expected to and not because they really wanted to be parents. Don't let people make you feel bad about your choice; you seem way more honest than a lot of people out there .

 

[Aunt Michelle]

When mom went away- she hired someone come to her house to feed the cats and just check on them. Of course, she had some refrences from other people in her neighborhood.

So you have people like that in your area that advertise??? This way kitty will feel comfortable at home.

I use a cat sitter as well. My felines find it very traumatic to be seperated, first from me and then from each other. Oh, and they are very change adverse, you wouldn't believe what happens when I move the furniture! You should be able to find someone who is bonded, and will come out and meet with you and the cat before you leave. For me, it is far cheaper because my sitter charges per visit not cat.

 

[WDWguru]

We've used a pet sitter for years. We have five kitties who would hate to leave home. We board our pug in a doggie daycare facility (she loves the company) and have a pet sitter come by once a day. She also checks the mail, cleans up any messes, waters plants and takes care of all that little stuff. We live in a condo, but when she sits for people in houses she even rotates the lights and such.

Try www.petsit.com and www.petsitters.org for people in your area. I just changed pet sitters (our old one got out of the biz) and interviewed three before I chose one. I'm very happy with our new one - she makes videos and sends them to us while we're away!!

 

[Hixski]

I think you guys are awesome. I personally know lots of parents who are horrible at it (I'm not implying that you would be bad parents). Many of them had kids because they were expected to and not because they really wanted to be parents. Don't let people make you feel bad about your choice; you seem way more honest than a lot of people out there .

Thanks!!! We can use the support.

 

[luvthemouse71]

I'm always leery of asking this..but Plgrn, did you lose weight? If yes, then congrats..I'm on a "lifestyle modification plan" (I refuse to call it a diet! ) and would like to lose about 25 pounds. Sheesh, and it's been hard too. I work evenings at the hospital and don't go to bed until around 3 am- then I sleep in, because I love sleeping , and haven't been making it to the gym as often as I should. It's a vicious cycle!

 

[Suzibrat]

Partners in crime

You got that right!!! BTW..did you just spit on us??? Ewwwwwwwwww!

Suzibrat I thought you were a goner

Glad you found us

Thank you so much! I was lost for hours, trying to find you all and then a little magic happened and POOF!! there you all were in front of me. So I did a happy dance
I couldn't wait to get online this morning to catch up with you all. I got my coffee, cigs and the house is so peaceful! I watched the sun come up and then realized it had snowed yet AGAIN last night I'm so sick of snow I could scream..not that I already haven't done just that. Hopefully the sun will get rid of a bit of it today and then I'll get to look at the brown grass and "doggie sculptures"...now there's a mental image for ya!
On the subject of boarding animals...we will be boarding our cat and one of our dogs but it's old hat to them. The first time I boarded our dog Maggie I was scared to death. But she does extremely well and doesn't mind it as long as the facility I take her to has alot of interaction with her (which they do). Rio, our cat, is so laid back...as long as he gets fed he could care less where he is. He's so cool! My little dog, Dolci, will be driven 525 miles to New York, to stay with my parents while we are gone in September. Yes, she's spoiled but the real reason is that she has seizures and I wouldn't board her for nothing! So we have to leave from another state to go to Disney but at least I'll have the peace of mind that she will be with "Grandpa & Grandma". Of course I'll be calling several times a day to check up on all of them and DH is already worried that he'll constantly hear "I miss my "kids!!!" I told him to "deal with it buster or I'll throw you overboard at jungle cruise and let the mechanical critters eat you!"
Hope you all have a great day!!!!!!

 

[PhotobearSam]

I think you guys are awesome. I personally know lots of parents who are horrible at it (I'm not implying that you would be bad parents). Many of them had kids because they were expected to and not because they really wanted to be parents. Don't let people make you feel bad about your choice; you seem way more honest than a lot of people out there .

I have seen this so many times (also people who get married because they have been together x amount of years and it's the next step)

I think the ONLY time one should have a child is if they would literally cannot imagine their lives without them. So many people have kids for the wrong reason...

Yesterday I found out one of my best friends is pregnant with #2 and another friend wants to start trying again. I was happy for one but not the other,,,Why?
Well, the one who is pregnant is a very good parent, is married to a wonderful husband and father, own a lovely home and have $$ in the bank. They have the means to afford this and have done an outstanding job with the first child.(their son's favourite words are thank you...Really sweet kid) I am really happy for them.

My other friend who moved her 4 year old son in with her boyfriend of 1 month, want another. They are unmarried (not that there is anything wrong with that but they used to say they wanted to get married), have known each other just over a year, live in a 2 bedroom rented apartment and can't even pay their bills now...She is a good mother but I feel this is irresponsible. Why not get a house first and then get pregnant...Not my life but I am not so happy for this one.

Does this make me a bad person?

 

[Liisa]

Hi all!

We got busy at work... then I come back here and holy crap!!!! Lots of new stuff! YAY!!! Lots of new people.

Suzibrat - I know completely what you are going through with a seizure dog. My Yeti (see my avatar) was epileptic and stressful situations would end up resulting in a seizure for him. We took very few vacations when he was with us, and even those were short. Plus we could only leave him with my parents (how on earth do you ask someone else to watch an epileptic dog?!!) We lost him last January and as heartbroken as I still am, certain aspects of life are much easier with the two dogs I have. (that being said, I'd trade the freedom in a heartbeat if I could get him back).

Just over two (verrrryy llloooonnngg) months until my Mexico vacay. Of course, my running program is completely off course. I've been busy nursing the chomp on my leg from breaking up the last dog fight between Kayla (the rescue) and my Pari. I can't believe this darn thing still hurts this much 2 weeks later. UGH!

Oh, and I promise to try really, really hard to "If anyone comes to this thread and criticizes us, we will turn the other cheek and not be pulled into a fight." It's just that sometime, I can't control myself. You know, some people just get under your skin. But, I don't want this thread closed, so I'll be on my very, very best behavior. Now we spit?

Welcome all!!!! This is great!

Liisa

 

[Liisa]

Does this make me a bad person?

Not in my book. I've thought the exact same thing about several people I know that were having kids when I thought they should wait. I wouldn't bring an animal into my life if I couldn't afford food and vet bills and such. Shouldn't it be the same thought process?!!

 

[maddhatir]

Hi all!

We got busy at work... then I come back here and holy crap!!!! Lots of new stuff! YAY!!! Lots of new people.

Now we spit?

Liisa

hey Lis!!! Welcome...back.....

You can spit- but just try and keep it in your hand- and do a PRETEND shake. This way Suzi does not think you are spitting at her

Odd- no matter what subject comes up- this man is always on my brain- Mr Depp and spitting....hmmmmm

Hey guys--- question?

Has anyone ever been to Bonaire????

DH is now obsessing over this place. Since he was so spoiled being able to walk right into the water from our resort beach in Mexico- he has been looking up places that have good snorkeling. We had the BEST places to snorkel when we lived in St John, only the locals knew of some of them- of course we would steer clear of the tourist trap- TRUNK BAY! Any time you see people with large hats, black socks and sandals on the beach- RUN!

Just curiuos of any of you have ever been??

PS- went to the docs yesterday @ The Penn Spine Center in Philly for my back- the doc told me my body is healing itself- he said would LOVE to give me a steroid injection But he does NOT feel I need one!

He is concerned with the weakness the herniated disc has done to my left leg though. He also told me only time will tell if I will ever get the feeling back in the skin of my knee and shin or reflex back in my left knee- I guess I will not be accidently KICKING someone with my left leg now! Darn!

He would like me to start up PT (Friday- 1st appt) and gave me a RX for Celebrex- after reading the risks- I decided to skip the stuff- heart attack, internal bleeding anyone? No thanks. I have never taken a med that had such serious possible side effects-
creeps me out. I have major family history of heart disease!

Heck- I will stick with my percocets if I need something for pain.

MUCH more fun than a heart attack, internal bleeding, ulcers

 

[Suzibrat]

Hi all!

We got busy at work... then I come back here and holy crap!!!! Lots of new stuff! YAY!!! Lots of new people.

Suzibrat - I know completely what you are going through with a seizure dog. My Yeti (see my avatar) was epileptic and stressful situations would end up resulting in a seizure for him. We took very few vacations when he was with us, and even those were short. Plus we could only leave him with my parents (how on earth do you ask someone else to watch an epileptic dog?!!) We lost him last January and as heartbroken as I still am, certain aspects of life are much easier with the two dogs I have. (that being said, I'd trade the freedom in a heartbeat if I could get him back).


Liisa

Oh Liisa, I'm so sorry to hear about Yeti! What a heartbreaker.

hey Lis!!! Welcome...back.....

You can spit- but just try and keep it in your hand- and do a PRETEND shake. This way Suzi does not think you are spitting at her

I'll put on my rain gear just in case! I hope you get feeling better quick! You must be in incredible pain! Maybe a trip to the Mouse is the answer???
Bonaire? Sounds like a lovely new chocolate that I haven't tried yet...oh wait..it's actually a place??? Nevermind

 

[maddhatir]

We've used a pet sitter for years. We have five kitties who would hate to leave home.

The past few days *I* have been a pet sitter to my cousins- 4 cats, AND a stray He and his wife go on vacations all the time and I volunteer to feed the kitties 2x a day and ......clean the litter box- if he is gone for along time. bleck. NOT my favorite thing to do!

He just did a quick trip to N Carolina just to see the NJ Devils play- he does that often, flies to different cities just to see his sports teams play.

BUT- he and his wife are now pregnant! So, I am not sure if the quick trips to see the Devils play hockey or going to Phillies spring training will be in their future! Maybe spring training b/c that they make a whole vacation out of.

Uh-oh isn't that basketball crap coming up soon- the big game? What is that called The Final 4 or something? ( I am a die hard puck bunny- I know nothing about any other sport) He usually flies to Vegas for that- I might be pet sitting again.

How can you NOT love a sport where the guys look like this (and stay in the game to play!)- our HOT Capt, Jason Smith, ladies and gentlemen

 

[PhotobearSam]

Glad everyone has found us...I have met the OP of this thread at Disney and I want to thank her for opening this dialogue. (They were super nice people...)

Well, what shall we all do now? I need a drink but all I have in the house is MILK...Anyone want any?

LOL

 

[maddhatir]

Glad everyone has found us...I have met the OP of this thread at Disney and I want to thank her for opening this dialogue. (They were super nice people...)

Well, what shall we all do now? I need a drink but all I have in the house is MILK...Anyone want any?

LOL

Nahhh, no thanks- I only drink soy milk....has to be Silk though

ETA- Hey! I CAN break out the bottle of Absinthe I got over the internet from Europe- hmmm- note for tonight....break out the bottle of Absinthe......

 

[Suzibrat]

Glad everyone has found us...I have met the OP of this thread at Disney and I want to thank her for opening this dialogue. (They were super nice people...)

Well, what shall we all do now? I need a drink but all I have in the house is MILK...Anyone want any?

LOL

I have the Jack Daniels but ran out of coke.....maybe we can combine it with the milk and make a JackShake?

Nahhh, no thanks- I only drink soy milk....has to be Silk though

Ohh I love Silk soymilk. Especially the chocolate one....which I am out of at the present moment

 

[PhotobearSam]

but...do you likes cows...LOL


Ok, enough of the inside jokes...Sorry guys.


Now, we took a trip to the world in Dec and had a great 2 weeks. We were joined by 2 disers (mother / daughter) and they brought along their grandmother as well..
Picture this, me (35) DH (38) DISer #1 (54) Diser #2 (23) and their mother/gran (79)...Neat difference there.

Well, hardly saw ANY bad behaviour from any children...It was awesome. We even saw a few who were outstanding and we gave them some pins...EXCEPT for this one kid at AK on Dec 16th. We had stopped for lunch at Flame tree and we sat down to eat...

We then HEARD the most god awful screams from a child I have ever heard. She was yelling at her Dad (she was about 3 or 4 and he was sitting eating while she sat in her stroller 4 feet away) and yelling at him to move her stroller. He would not. She yelled about that at the top of her lungs for over 10 minutes. We tried to ignore it. Then, she got out of her stroller and pushed it herself to the table and starting screaming again.

I figured that top of the lungs screaming would tire anyone out after 5 minutes or so but this lasted in total 45 minutes and was still going on after they left the area as we could hear her scream while they walked away.

After 20 minutes, DISer #1 looked at her and said "Stop it, be quiet!" (she a nurse and she said this usually works at the clinic) but the Dad just laughed and said "She won't stop...I don't even try anymore... She does this all the time"

I can't believe that he did nothing. I had a lot of pity for him that day because I thought maybe the child had problems but then I thought "Why does he not take her out to the car, or the benches outside the gates and give her a time out or something...?"

Short of a spanking, I have no idea what could be done but I hated that we were subjected to this. I have had normal tantrums happen around me before and I have never said anything to the folks because most of the time, they seem embarrassed enough already, but this day...I was shocked.

We laughed about it because we were at AK and it did give us a conversation topic for the meal.

We later had a Mom apologize to us because her son was being a bit whiny in line ahead of us for a ride...We told her, No worries. We met the spawn of Satan already this trip...you child is an angel compared to that one...She seemed relieved.

We have all decided that at WDW, we will see some melt downs and if we decide that it's not a big deal, then it is not but that one child, that was too much.

 

[Mozart]

We have all decided that at WDW, we will see some melt downs and if we decide that it's not a big deal, then it is not but that one child, that was too much.

I can honestly say that in my trips to WDW, I have seen very few children have meltdowns.

Parents however, are a different story. I have also run into quite a few people who didn't seem to have kids with them that were quite rude as well. I think it has something to do with getting food at counter service restaurants. Seems like nearly every meltdown I've ever seen is either in a food court, or just outside of one.