Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

About once a month a group of us get together for dinner but I have a friend that ALWAYS brings her little girl, it's like she' attached to her hip. I don't have children (not by choice, I've gone through plenty of treatment) and my best friend of 20 years doesn't have any (she likes her childfree life, lots of nieces/nephews). Our other friends are able to get a sitter or leave the kids with the spouse but this one insists on always bringing her kid. I give her enough notice to find a sitter or tell her it's "adult's only" but she doesn't get it. I'd hate to stop inviting her, so I tell my BF that I'm going to call and remind her about our dinner plans this weekend and this is her response....
"No don't remind her, you already told her and besides she is going to bring her little girl and I don't feel like hearing no kid acting up. I want to
enjoy my dinner, you know what I mean".

So I guess I'll need to be blunt with my friend and tell her not to bring her child, but I know how mothers can be overprotective so it's nothing against her child, I like the little girl but I want my friends attention.

Good Grief I'm w/ your BFF, you did your part in letting her know there was a get together, no need to remind her. If she can't remember . . . .

You're so lucky to have a friend w/out kidlets and for 20 years to boot! That's awesome! I have a friend right now (she's 23 her DH is 30 I'm 33) who does not have children. She had 2 miscarriages before I met her. I think she'd be fine w/out having children but I'm pretty sure her DH wants them. I'm just waiting for the annoucement that they're expecting. Great for them but I've been upfront and honest w/ her. We'll remain friends because I DON'T hate kids but when you have kids your life changes and so it's natural that our friendship would change. No more last minute going out just because, no more late night dinners and drinks. She'll be talking baby/kids because that's her life. And that's O.K. it's just NOT my life. Anyway, I've been pretty much upfront with her from the beginning that when that happens she can probably count on my pulling away. I don't want to be tied down w/ her kids.

I've been in that place before when ALL of my friends had kids. I hated it(again, didn't hate the kids just the situation)! We could never just go and hang out. Sure, my friends thought that kids didn't slow them down but let's be honest. Getting diaper bags ready, car seats situated, baby dressed. . . these things do slow you down and for a person w/out kids it gets tiresome.

Anyway, I'm just rambling now.. .. . . .

 

[Mozart]

I had a glass of wine very early this am before I went to bed. (I work nights) It came out of a box if you are not a wine snob.

BOXED WINE?!?!?!?! I tried that stuff once.

Notice I said "once." Just don't see how anyone can drink that stuff. Even an $4.99 bottle of junk from Bi-Lo is better than that.

But just out of curiousity...was it Franzia?

 

[maddhatir]

But anyway I just wanted to say I have appreciated the chuckles and if you ever see me at DW make sure you stop and say hello I will be the one without the screaming child

Welcome!

I think we make a lot of people "laugh" and some without even trying

I ALWAYS have my Green Mickey head on my handbag! The past 3 times I have been to Disney I have only seen 3 DISers! Well- 3 that actually came right up to me- some may see the green and be a little ..shy. I have never seen anyone with their green displayed- I even have it on my luggage- so say HI at the airport too!

um, contrary to popular belief, you can come closer and talk to me- I won't devour or sacrifice your children

 

[maddhatir]

BOXED WINE?!?!?!?! I tried that stuff once.

Notice I said "once." Just don't see how anyone can drink that stuff. Even an $4.99 bottle of junk from Bi-Lo is better than that.

But just out of curiousity...was it Franzia?

Believe it or not- I never like red wine until maybe 2 years ago- My SIL would buy those big JUG wines for parties and I tried one and thought- not bad. What did I know- I was not a red fan....yet!

That led me to try different types of reds until I pinpointed what it was that I really liked- one of my faves is Cartilidge & Browne Merlot.

We had a party and someone brought over one of the jugs- we had it on the counter and one day I was making dinner and decided to pour a glass- it was Sangria- OMG It was SO sweet I dumped it out!

That is pretty bad that I would rather not get a buzz than to drink that

OMG- when we were in Mexico- they cooked paella on the beach and served homemade Sangria! I skipped the paella being a veggie- so my tummy was nice and empty- I sucked down 3 glasses of the Sangria in about 10 minutes it was THAT good!

It was a bit amuzing trying to make it back to get my 3rd glass- I was just a tad bit....tipsy.....thank goodness we were steps away from where they were cooking.

 

[acm563]

Welcome!

I think we make a lot of people "laugh" and some without even trying

I ALWAYS have my Green Mickey head on my handbag! The past 3 times I have been to Disney I have only seen 3 DISers! Well- 3 that actually came right up to me- some may see the green and be a little ..shy. I have never seen anyone with their green displayed- I even have it on my luggage- so say HI at the airport too!

um, contrary to popular belief, you can come closer and talk to me- I won't devour or sacrifice your children

Thanks, I keep forgetting to look for or have a lime green mickey or ribbon. I will have to make a mental note and get something to make that tomorrow and to remember to keep an eye open for it. I have the lime green luggage tags on my bags but have never noticed anyone else with them

 

[Suzibrat]

Welcome!

I think we make a lot of people "laugh" and some without even trying

I ALWAYS have my Green Mickey head on my handbag! The past 3 times I have been to Disney I have only seen 3 DISers! Well- 3 that actually came right up to me- some may see the green and be a little ..shy. I have never seen anyone with their green displayed- I even have it on my luggage- so say HI at the airport too!

um, contrary to popular belief, you can come closer and talk to me- I won't devour or sacrifice your children

And that's all i have to say cuz I have beer coming out my nose!

 

[maddhatir]

Thanks, I keep forgetting to look for or have a lime green mickey or ribbon. I will have to make a mental note and get something to make that tomorrow and to remember to keep an eye open for it. I have the lime green luggage tags on my bags but have never noticed anyone else with them

I have seen a few people with just some random green item on, thinking maybe it was a Diser- Have you ever watched the Colbert Report- When Stephen comes RUNNING out to the show's guest like a big dork- all dramatic

That is what I look like---"heeeeyyyyyyyyy a Diserrrrrr"- *running up to them* ......................

then "whoaaaaaaaa, just a green shirt, false alarm" *trying to pretend I just did not look stupid*

 

[maddhatir]

And that's all i have to say cuz I have beer coming out my nose!

Well Suzi and I MAY sacrifice your kids- b/c you KNOWWWWW we do like that devil worshipping music

Marilyn Manson- umph she MUST be weird!

 

[Aunt Michelle]

Thought you might find this thread interesting:

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1722947

 

[maddhatir]

Thought you might find this thread interesting:

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1722947

OH MY! There are more of us out there! Oh well, there are just more of us to hate I guess

Does anyone listen to Howard? When Artie does the.......
*whaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh* whine!

 

[maddhatir]

I been wanting to post this masterpiece-

Marilyn, Mickey and kitties! Who can ask for anything more!
(BTW- this is really his kitty!- yes, he loves cats)

 

[acm563]

I have seen a few people with just some random green item on, thinking maybe it was a Diser- Have you ever watched the Colbert Report- When Stephen comes RUNNING out to the show's guest like a big dork- all dramatic

That is what I look like---"heeeeyyyyyyyyy a Diserrrrrr"- *running up to them* ......................

then "whoaaaaaaaa, just a green shirt, false alarm" *trying to pretend I just did not look stupid*

That sounds like something I would do....and lol...ya know I have these 44 year old eyes and believe me the sight IS the first thing to go

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Thought you might find this thread interesting:

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1722947

Heeeeeeyyyyy, I posted on that thread See me? It says ForTheLoveofDisney right there!!

OK, so I'm a little

But at least I'm not passin' my genes on.

Ahhhem, where's that wine?

 

[TheBina's]

I can completely understand your issue. My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We were just married in November, we are fielding the questions now. People honestly think the answer is going to change. I have a new answer when people ask us When are you having kids? "When you have them and you raise them." We said we werent' having kids years ago. It is not something either of us want. I do have a question though, how did your husband get fixed? Dr's insist we are too young. We are both 27 and have been running into road block after road block.

I am thrilled to be the best aunt and uncle with the best christmas presents and borrow the kids for a few hours and then return. I also enjoy traveling and taking vacations whenever we want...when we save up the money that is. lol
Thanks

 

[maddhatir]

Heeeeeeyyyyy, I posted on that thread See me? It says ForTheLoveofDisney right there!!

OK, so I'm a little

But at least I'm not passin' my genes on.

Ahhhem, where's that wine?

I saw you! We should invite some of them over "to the dark side"

I have a sticker on my cycle helmet that discribes some people to the T!

"The gene pool needs a little chlorine"

And guess what- It is NOT us CF people who are passin' those genes on- so I think some other people need to be worrying about themselves

I would love to post a few more of my sticker sayings b/c they are just so freakin'.....true.

I just did my shot of absinthe I have been waiting for all day- chillin' and watching hockey- life does not get much better that this--

Be back later.................

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

I saw you! We should invite some of them over "to the dark side"

I have a sticker on my cycle helmet that discribes some people to the T!

"The gene pool needs a little chlorine"

And guess what- It is NOT us CF people who are passin' those genes on- so I think some other people need to be worrying about themselves

I would love to post a few more of my sticker sayings b/c they are just so freakin'.....true.

I just did my shot of absinthe I have been waiting for all day- chillin' and watching hockey- life does not get much better that this--

Be back later.................

My DH saw this bumper sticker once and has used it several times it says:

 

[maddhatir]

I have a new answer when people ask us When are you having kids? "When you have them and you raise them." We said we werent' having kids years ago. It is not something either of us want. I do have a question though, how did your husband get fixed? Dr's insist we are too young. We are both 27 and have been running into road block after road block.

I am thrilled to be the best aunt and uncle with the best christmas presents and borrow the kids for a few hours and then return. I also enjoy traveling and taking vacations whenever we want...when we save up the money that is. lol
Thanks

I am sure they shut right up when you ask them to raise the kids they want YOU to have

I guess you just need to find the right doc- I can't believe DH and I had no problem at all finding a doc- and never thought about it. He just went- and it was done. The doc never had a problem-

As far as xmas presents- *I* have been told by one of my SILs that I am boring b/c I give all of our nieces and nephews savings bonds or cash for their accts! I told my one SIL who has 2 kids this- and she wrote me a little thank you note "from the kids" to DH and I Thank you for thinking about our future- SIL and BIL sure appreciate our gifts to the kids

 

[Hixski]

BOXED WINE?!?!?!?! I tried that stuff once.

Notice I said "once." Just don't see how anyone can drink that stuff. Even an $4.99 bottle of junk from Bi-Lo is better than that.

But just out of curiousity...was it Franzia?

Franzia Crisp White!!! I am rather fond of it with my Egg McMuffins in the early am before I go to bed after work.

 

[Hixski]

Heeeeeeyyyyy, I posted on that thread See me? It says ForTheLoveofDisney right there!!

OK, so I'm a little

But at least I'm not passin' my genes on.

Ahhhem, where's that wine?

I posted on that thread too!!

 

[danv3]

Stay stay stay! I don't belong here either since I'm a fencesitter, but the gals (and don't we have like 1 guy lurking?) are nice enough to let me stay. It's for my sanity. The CB is scary and too controversial. Hang out with us and let's talk about travel, home projects, furbabies, and *gasp* IDEAS

One guy lurker checking in! (And boy has this thread exploded in the couple of days since I last dropped in...)