Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[zima-cheryl]

his response was "yeah, but don't you want your OWN kid?" Uhh, yeah, if we adopted a child it would be our "own".

You are so right - my brother has a blended family (some biological & some adopted) and each and every one of those children are "Ours"! No one even thinks about it any more really.

There is no difference between the children - each one gets spoiled rotten, hopped up on sugar & sent home to Dad & Mom!

 

[MapleGirl]

A while back we were talking about having child-free restaurants. Is V&A's such a restaurant? What about the Chef's Table? DH and I have not eaten there yet, but I'm sure we will get to it at some point.

I'm always joking that if eek DH and I have children, we would have to put our Disney trips on hold until they grow up and go to college!

 

[MapleGirl]

Woo Hoo - my Thrashers pulled out an OT win last night!

The Bruins are playing the Sabres tonight.... GO B's!!!!!! Timmy Thomas is the man!!!

 

[TXTurtles]

We may one day decide to adopt a child. When people hear that, they automatically assume that since we are "older" and have no children now, that something is wrong with us. Honestly, we have no idea if we could or could not have children because it's never even been a thought. If one day we do decide to adopt, it will be because there are already enough kids out there who need good homes. I would feel horribly guilty bringing another one into the world when there are perfect ones already here. DH told this to a colleague one day and his response was "yeah, but don't you want your OWN kid?" Uhh, yeah, if we adopted a child it would be our "own". People also don't understand that not everyone adopts because they can't have children. Some adopt just because they want to give a loving home to a deserving child. That will be the case if and when we decide.

Are you my long lost twin? DH and I are the same - the few times we talk about what we'd do with a kid (usually after I've come very close to strangling one of the kids I work with) it's always prefixed with "in the case of accident or adoption..." When we get asked about our future family (and since when was that considered acceptable small talk? Seriously, drop it unless you want to be asked how much you weigh) we'll mention that we might adopt someday and the responses you get ... they range from really positive to (especially in the case of my parents) more along the lines of "you don't know where those kids have been." Right. I just don't get why it's considered so novel - if we want a kid and a kid out there wants parents... why would we go with a biological kid? I know some people like the idea of seeing pieces of themselves in their kids - personally that's exactly what I DON'T want to see! I remember what I was like as a kid and that alone is enough to make me CF for life!

This is all, of course, assuming that my days working with small ones don't leave me with PTSD. And that we someday have a change of heart about being parents. And get more patience.

Maybe we'll just enjoy our nieces and nephews.

 

[Hixski]

A while back we were talking about having child-free restaurants. Is V&A's such a restaurant? What about the Chef's Table? DH and I have not eaten there yet, but I'm sure we will get to it at some point.

I'm always joking that if eek DH and I have children, we would have to put our Disney trips on hold until they grow up and go to college!

You can take children into V&A's. They don't have a childrens menu so that would be a hint that they are trying to keep it adults only even if they are not stating it that way. But you can take them in.

As for waiting till children grow up and go to college for a Disney trip...... Don't even joke about something like that. You should wash your mouth out with soap!!!!

 

[MapleGirl]

You can take children into V&A's. They don't have a childrens menu so that would be a hint that they are trying to keep it adults only even if they are not stating it that way. But you can take them in.

As for waiting till children grow up and go to college for a Disney trip...... Don't even joke about something like that. You should wash your mouth out with soap!!!!

You're right, I could never wait 18 years between Disney trips. I guess we would have to find a babysitter!

Just kidding.... I think we'll just remain happily child-free and enjoy our yearly trips.

 

[zima-cheryl]

You can take children into V&A's. They don't have a childrens menu so that would be a hint that they are trying to keep it adults only even if they are not stating it that way. But you can take them in.

If the lack of a children's menu doesn't keep the # of kids down the cost certainly would! I don't want to even think about how much dinner for 4 or 5 people would be there... esp. @ the chef's table!

 

[ChisJo]

do any of you CF couples ever do the character dinners? We were thinking of going to one when we go down there, and truly the only one he would consider is Chef Mickeys - do you think we're crazy?

 

[KirklandTutu]

DH and I will do the character dinners, but not on purpose. For instance, we really really like to eat at Cinderella's Royal Table or Arials Grotto in DL, it just happens to have characters. I don't do so well with characters, they start doing their thing, then I start giggling and laughing because I find the whole thing silly. Now, I like silly, but being face to face with silly puts me into a laughing fit. I always think that I have to say something witty to them, but it always comes out awkward and I feel like kicking myself.

Maybe it's because I know people who were face characters and know on a very real level that there are true people underneath those pounds of makeup. I just want to up the conversation level a bit, but I just get stupid.

Last time at Ariels Grotto (granted I had had a cocktail upstairs before the glass of wine at dinner), I proclaimed to Belle that she was DHs favorite as he 'likes those readin types'. She did a great job playing along, got that 'ohhhh' look on her face that all the princesses do so well, and gave him a big ol kiss on his bald head.

You can't see it, but there's a v. clear pair of lipstick lips on top of that dome

 

[honugirl]

Ha ha ha ha. No, I didn't move from NJ to WA. I'm hoping to go the other way WA to NJ in the next couple of years. When I first started playing goal about 9 or so years ago someone said I looked like Brodeaur a bit and it stuck, he's been my fave goalie ever since. Although I have had small crushes on other guys: Eddie the Eagle Belfour, Mike Richter (still have some of his sticks that I use), Ron Hextall, you get the idea. I'm more of a fan of goalies than I am teams.

 

[honugirl]

Ok, so my man Marty's not having such a great season yet. He just needs me to show up in Vancouver next month with a copy of his mask on with my Devil's jersey and cheer him on.

I think it's been hard on the team because they didn't start their home games until just recently, like two weeks ago because the stadium hadn't been opened by Bon Jovi yet. Sigh. It's hard to have to constantly be on the road.

Unfortunately I don't get to do much hockey watching right now. Too many medical tests and stuff and too tired to care. It really sucks. I really miss playing right now. Oddly enough, I even miss reffing, well I should say I miss reffing the kids games (I get to break up more fights, the hockey is better than adult crap). As much as I want to go up to Vancouver next month, reality may set in and I may not be able to go.

 

[TKDisneylover]

do any of you CF couples ever do the character dinners? We were thinking of going to one when we go down there, and truly the only one he would consider is Chef Mickeys - do you think we're crazy?

Our first character meal was by accident, we had been to WDW with my best friend and her family (2 kids) and we did not have ADR's but just happened upon one at Hollywood & Vine at Disney MGM-Studios with Minnie, Pluto, Chip & Dale & Goofy. Their attention was more on the children, but that was okay with us, but they did stop for photo ops and it was actually fun. This time around we purposely booked one at 'Ohana's at the Polynesian resort because it was Lilo & Stitch with Mickey & friends. I'm a big Mickey fan and I also wanted to try the Tonga Toast that everyone keeps raving about. So I have the opportunity to get both with this character meal. We're also doing Restaurant Marrakesh in World Showcase at EPCOT, it's not a character meal but DH is looking forward to seeing the bellydancer!

You can't see it, but there's a v. clear pair of lipstick lips on top of that dome

VERY cute! Love the look on his face!

 

[zima-cheryl]

do any of you CF couples ever do the character dinners? We were thinking of going to one when we go down there, and truly the only one he would consider is Chef Mickeys - do you think we're crazy?

Absolutely Go!
My favorite is Crystal Palace! I love Pooh & Piglet

We go & play it up w/the characters and get lots of pictures. The handlers always make sure they get to our table and that we get our pictures. And they are so fun to interact with!

Go for it! And have fun!

 

[maddhatir]

I think it's been hard on the team because they didn't start their home games until just recently, like two weeks ago because the stadium hadn't been opened by Bon Jovi yet. Sigh. It's hard to have to constantly be on the road.

A few weeks back I e-mailed by cousin (the Devils fan) to bust on him about where the new venue was going to be--- Welcome to beautiful....Newark He then asked me and DH if we wanted to go to a game to see the new place......ahhhh, no thanks. I will stay out of Newark at all costs. Well, except to maybe catch a plane!

 

[Mrs.Reese]

Just got back from the closing of F&W (yes that makes two trips this year to it) and I found Figment!!! Nobody was there with him. I now have about thirty pictures of me and Figment. That poor character I was just way too "relaxed" for my own good. I promise it's not off-topic since we decided last minute to go and as we were leaving DH said "we couldn't do this with kids."

I still will get in line to take pics with the characters. Will I ever see any of these people ever again? Probably not, so go have fun, enjoy character meals and don't feel like a fruit for liking character events.

 

[ChisJo]

well....we were thinking of going to a character dinner, but then I couldn't get a PS for the nights we were thinking....so then I asked on the boards if we went a little later if anybody thought we could get a table without a PS - I know it's a good thing to have one, but we are going during the SLOW season, and someone pretty much said don't even waste your time....so, I guess that answers my question....we won't waste our time...

I was actually kind of looking forward to it....I would've really like to do it, but wasn't sure about DBF - so oh well...thanks everyone for the encouragement to go....I would have really liked to try it with him!

 

[Rozzie]

Character Dinners? Yup! Character breakfast? Yup! We do it all. We love our characters.

Can I vent just for a second? I know most of ya'll will understand where I am coming from. I am working Christmas this year, okay I can live with that, I am a RN and it comes with the paycheck. But what has bothered me is the reasoning....we have a new manager, who is very "kid" oriented, and scheduled everyone with kids off Christmas, and those without to work. Her reasoning, we "don't have kids so we don't need the day off". WTH? When does my DH and dogs and mother not count as family?

Sometimes it would be worth my while to hang a bunch of pics of unknown children on my locker just to get a holiday off.

 

[druidia]

Can I vent just for a second? I know most of ya'll will understand where I am coming from. I am working Christmas this year, okay I can live with that, I am a RN and it comes with the paycheck. But what has bothered me is the reasoning....we have a new manager, who is very "kid" oriented, and scheduled everyone with kids off Christmas, and those without to work. Her reasoning, we "don't have kids so we don't need the day off". WTH? When does my DH and dogs and mother not count as family?

Sometimes it would be worth my while to hang a bunch of pics of unknown children on my locker just to get a holiday off.

Oh, now that would burn my britches!!! Even if I don't have kids, I do still have DH, parents, a brother, and the rest of our families to spend time with! ARGH!

 

[maddhatir]

Character Dinners? Yup! Character breakfast? Yup! We do it all. We love our characters.

Can I vent just for a second? I know most of ya'll will understand where I am coming from. I am working Christmas this year, okay I can live with that, I am a RN and it comes with the paycheck. But what has bothered me is the reasoning....we have a new manager, who is very "kid" oriented, and scheduled everyone with kids off Christmas, and those without to work. Her reasoning, we "don't have kids so we don't need the day off". WTH? When does my DH and dogs and mother not count as family?

Sometimes it would be worth my while to hang a bunch of pics of unknown children on my locker just to get a holiday off.

Whoa! Is that even legal!!? Would that be considered discrimination?

What happens if some of those people do not even celebrate xmas!? How the HECK does she know who and who does not celebrate!?

OMG- I am speechless! and I want to throw up!

 

[Poppinsme]

Character Dinners? Yup! Character breakfast? Yup! We do it all. We love our characters.

Can I vent just for a second? I know most of ya'll will understand where I am coming from. I am working Christmas this year, okay I can live with that, I am a RN and it comes with the paycheck. But what has bothered me is the reasoning....we have a new manager, who is very "kid" oriented, and scheduled everyone with kids off Christmas, and those without to work. Her reasoning, we "don't have kids so we don't need the day off". WTH? When does my DH and dogs and mother not count as family?

Sometimes it would be worth my while to hang a bunch of pics of unknown children on my locker just to get a holiday off.

Ah yes same problem with me. I'm an RRT that works NICU/PICU and always gets the " But you don't have kids". And my co-workers with kids thinks I should trade with them so they can be with there kids. Well I have traded over the years and bought there candy and other crap they sell for school but NO more. I just went agency and its the best thing Ive ever done! No more holidays unless I want them. And the next time they come to me with buying a candy bar for (insert whatever) I am going to say my horse needs a new halter can they give ME money for that? I don't think its being mean because I have been giving now for 30 years and have had enough. And yes I love children.