Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[momomonster]

 

[HockeyKat]

Oh my goodness!!!

Three white kitties in one thread! I LOVE the face. And the box picture! Cuteness overload!

(... did I mention that I am a cat fanatic?? )

 

[momomonster]

 

[momomonster]

My cat is the exact opposite! She spends her time at the vet getting as low and small as possible. You can almost hear her chanting to herself "this isn't happening... this isn't happening...."

My four cats are no fans of vets, either. Earlier this year I got the bright idea to bring a mobile vet in because I figured they would be less freaked-out if they were seen here at home- NOT! It was 10X worse, as if they'd been *violated* in their own home. You should have seen the fur flying everywhere!



Thanks, ya'll, for starting the weekend off nicely.

 

[kennancat]

I've been a lurker for a while but had to say that I've been following this thread since it started. It always makes me feel good when it goes back in a happy direction. Love those pics too!!

Have to say, I love the "Earning my Tow Hook"!

 

[maddhatir]

BULAH1: MADD: Thanks for sticking up for Duncan!!!! He says you can be his adopted aunt in Jersey anytime.

awwww- It would be an honor!

Everybody's kitties are so precious and beautiful!

I will need to get some pics of, our, um, mom's kitties and post them- they are both all white with a few black spots Japanese Bobtails. We used to share the kitties but mom moved out (she lived with me for a few years) and it was better she took them b/c DH was getting really bad with allergies and asthma-

I still see them though. and........mom is moving back to our house, that is who the addition is for- so I will be seeing even more of the kitties!

 

[maddhatir]

Can I share all those that I love? not pets necessarily...lol But they take up alot of time and energy, and I get to dress them up twice a year! (this was at dress rehersal for final bows, don't judge their form too harshly!...I almost messed up and put the pic of the one girl with the dress over her head up)

So- do you teach the kids ballet???

I have been to a few of my niece's dance recitals, she is 5 now. I love watching the ballet dancers, oh and the 4 and 5 year olds trying to keep in step with each other!

 

[KirklandTutu]

So- do you teach the kids ballet???

I have been to a few of my niece's dance recitals, she is 5 now. I love watching the ballet dancers, oh and the 4 and 5 year olds trying to keep in step with each other!

Well, the 4 and 5 year olds have one mission, to be cute. If they manage to be in sinc with each other, the effect is totally ruined! If we're getting technical about it, we don't teach them ballet until they're about 8, before that it's helping them along in a fun way with childhood development--but that's a whole other story and science.

Meanwhile I'll leave you with the memory of the little girl who pee'd on stage...

 

[Muushka]

Thanks OM!!

Awwww... Muushka she is gorgeous!!

My cat is the exact opposite! She spends her time at the vet getting as low and small as possible. You can almost hear her chanting to herself "this isn't happening... this isn't happening...."

We have a fluffity outside cat that we feed. Our nbors put her outside when they had a child, and I don't think they feed her, and I just can't let a cat starve. We would take her in except I don't know how she would mix with Trinity since she has all her claws. I have trouble justifying declawing a cat, especially as an adult. I just adopt them as pre-declawed adult kitties instead!

I think a few other strays in the nborhood feed from that dish too... we are a soup kitchen for cats!

Awww I love that you feed all the hungry kitties. They appreciate it so!

When we get 'trolled' lets just post pictures of our pets! That will throw them!

 

[Hixski]

Awww I love that you feed all the hungry kitties. They appreciate it so!

When we get 'trolled' lets just post pictures of our pets! That will throw them!

No, it will just reenforce in their minds what they are already thinking. How pathetic we are. My dog Duncan is still insulted that he was referred to as a mangy mutt.

 

[Muushka]

No, it will just reenforce in their minds what they are already thinking. How pathetic we are. My dog Duncan is still insulted that he was referred to as a mangy mutt.

I really don't care! What better way to irritate than with a bunch of pet pictures!

Poor Duncan. Cover his little ears!
I have to limit my cats with their internet time.

 

[momomonster]

My dog Duncan is still insulted that he was referred to as a mangy mutt.

You can tell Duncan that this "crazy cat lady" thinks he's absolutely adorable. Not only that, he looks very sweet and happy!

But you know, the troll was just having a discussion with us.

 

[KRIS10420]

I had posted in this thread near the beginning and have been following ever since. DH and I are very happy being child free and receive much enjoyment and entertainment from our furbabies.
This one is Bodie
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/bodie1.jpg
This one is Kelso
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/kelso1.jpg

 

[kennancat]

I went to get my hair cut this morning (chopped off 10" to donate to locks of love, btw - more of that pathetic, self-centered childfree lifestyle ) and ended up talking about kids with my hairdresser. She is childfree and always has been - I told her that I was jealous that she knew decidedly what she wanted! I mentioned our thread and the occasional trolls we get and it was almost funny how perplexed she was by that. She just couldn't get why other people would get their knickers in a twist over it. I told her we didn't understand it either.

 

[Quinn222]

I recently found this thread and have enjoyed it very much (other than the trolls of course.) I went to a baby shower today. I'm really happy for my friend but it's not for me. I muttered, "I don't have a single regret about not having kids." and my friend next to me muttered right back, "Same here." Nice to have some like minded folks here!

Here's my boy (Dandy) to add to the 'family' album:

 

[ChisJo]

Here's my boy (Dandy) to add to the 'family' album:

What qa beautiful picture!!! Now, when I figure out how to post pics, I will post a pic of my beautiful baby!!

 

[maddhatir]

I recently found this thread and have enjoyed it very much (other than the trolls of course.) I went to a baby shower today. I'm really happy for my friend but it's not for me. I muttered, "I don't have a single regret about not having kids." and my friend next to me muttered right back, "Same here." Nice to have some like minded folks here!

Here's my boy (Dandy) to add to the 'family' album:

OMG- How adorable!.... he looks like he is peeking out and saying "what?!"

 

[maddhatir]

I had posted in this thread near the beginning and have been following ever since. DH and I are very happy being child free and receive much enjoyment and entertainment from our furbabies.
This one is Bodie
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/bodie1.jpg
This one is Kelso
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/kelso1.jpg

Bodie and Kelso are adorable!!!!

 

[PoohBear321]

I just came across this thread and wanted to say that I think everyone should be respected for whatever decisions they make concerning having children or not having children. I myself have one son...almost 2...that I adore and I wouldn't change being his mom for anything. We tried several years to have a child and thought we'd never be parents. Started adoption paperwork and within a few months had a beautiful one week old baby boy that we love to pieces. But I must admit that having kids does put strains on your marriage...at least it did mine especially in those sleep deprived early months...and it's definately not for everyone. I've been best friends with someone for 17 years now and we used to see each other all the time and go wherever whenever. I saw her a bit less when I got married and moved farther away and since I became a mom I'm lucky if I see her every 3 months. She has her life and her single friends and I'm a stay at home mom with an active toddler to take care of. As much as I love my son and wouldn't change having him for anything I do miss the freedom that I had when I didn't have him. I'm also constantly bombarded with:
Are you planning on any more?
You DO plan on adopting again don't you?
You know he really NEEDS a sibling
When will you give him a brother or sister?
Why do you only have one?

So I understand the pressure and annoyance. The 4+ years we tried I was constantly asked when/if we were having kids. When it looked for a while as though we wouldn't have any and I told people that they were horrified. I'm not one who thinks that just because I have a son and am happy with my choice to be a mother that I need to convince the whole world to have kids too. Personally I know too many people who should never have had kids that only had them because it was expected of them. My husband and I have friends who have been married a few years and are constantly asked. They tell people they're perfectly happy with just the two of them and their furbaby. I don't ask...I figure if someone chooses to talk to me about having kids or not having them that's fine but it's none of my damn business to go poking my nose into anyone's private life or question their choices.

 

[CampbellScot]

I've lurked on this thread for ages. I have always found it very interesting and thought provoking!

I'm in an odd situation as I don't have kids of my own, but I am a step mom to an 8 year old girl and 5 year old boy. They were 5 and 2 when I came into their lives. I am a "part time" mom...my step kids keep asking when I'm going to "get a baby" and could I please "hurry and have a sister..."

The thing is, I'm not sure I want to be a "real" mom. Everyone assumes that b/c I'm a step parent I must be chomping at the bit to have some of my own. If anything, step parenting has been great birth control! Don't get me wrong, I love the kids to pieces. They are GREAT. I enjoy them most of the time. But I see how kids that aren't even MINE have strained my very young marriage...I can't imagine having one of my own. It's good to know I am not alone in this train of thought!!!

I'm actually one of those really bad people who enjoys going to Disney WITHOUT my step kids! (see if you admit that in any other thread on any other board you are bombarded with the or the ever judgmental )