Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[maddhatir]

double post- sorry

 

[HockeyKat]

I'll get back on topic... I had to explain what DINK was today.

 

[maddhatir]

I'll get back on topic... I had to explain what DINK was today.

ahhh yes! I love being the other half of a DINK!

 

[maddhatir]

What is everyone's weekend plans???

I am going to to Stevie Nicks tonight. I am not a big fan of hers, but my SIL really wants to go- she has a babysitter, her DH will be fishing so DH and I (along with my other BIL and SIL) are going with her. Poor thing-- she is so excited! She doesn't get out much at night.

I saw her DH today and he asked me if I was excited-- I said-- "surely NOT as excited as your wife!" He said "I think she is just excited to get out of the house!"

Chris Isaak is opening up for her-- now DH and I like him- we have seen him before in concert and he was terrific, cute, funny, sings good.

More news on the concert front for Madd!

I am going to see Marilyn Manson and Slayer in Aug!! I have always wanted to see Marilyn live! I got kind of crappy tix- off to the side and in the back- but my brother who is going with one of his friends- he got the CENTER section right behind the pit ROW A!!!!!!! SO- he said he will let me sit in his seats for Marilyn and then I can go back to my seats for Slayer!

I just hope Marilyn doesn't sling "anything" out into the crowd! I have heard some stories!

I will fall down and scream "I'VE BEEN HIT!"

Tix also go on sale for KORN tomorrow morning- they are another band I would love to see, DH said he doesn't wanna go- It's the Family Values tour so there will be tons of bands- it's an all day , outdoor thing- so I think I would rather wait and see if they come to an arena in PA, just KORN and an opening band

I will be happy now with Mr Manson!

ooops! And there will be yard saling tomorrow morning!
8am!!!!

We got a bunch of us already gathering for NEXT Sat. There might be 10 of us yard saling freaks going! That's gonna be fun! The word is spreading!

Not sure about Sunday yet- DH and his brothers MIGHT take my MILs DBF out fishing on my BILs boat for Father's Day- I think there might be a huge flea market on Sunday- I will take mom- But that is up in the air right now.

Gotta go get ready for tonight- and got to make DH something to munch on for when he gets home so he can eat in the car while we boogie over to SILs house to scoop up everyone!

 

[HockeyKat]

Sounds like fun! I love that rockin-out smilie.

My weekend plans are to do absolutely nothing. I am so looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow and reading either in the chaise or out on the patio in a hammock. Sunday I might get up off the couch and fold some laundry and maybe deal with some yardwork, but then again, maybe not.

I checked out that Mohler thing that someone suggested to google... man that is definitely scary. Unethical and immoral! Personally, I think the decision to not add to the population is a very ethical one. I was reading on wikipedia that if we continue at current fertility rates, we will be up to 44 billion people by 2100 from our current 6.4 billion.

 

[LoveStitch626]

What is everyone's weekend plans???

I am going to to Stevie Nicks tonight. I am not a big fan of hers, but my SIL really wants to go- she has a babysitter, her DH will be fishing so DH and I (along with my other BIL and SIL) are going with her. Poor thing-- she is so excited! She doesn't get out much at night.

I saw her DH today and he asked me if I was excited-- I said-- "surely NOT as excited as your wife!" He said "I think she is just excited to get out of the house!"

Chris Isaak is opening up for her-- now DH and I like him- we have seen him before in concert and he was terrific, cute, funny, sings good.

More news on the concert front for Madd!

I am going to see Marilyn Manson and Slayer in Aug!! I have always wanted to see Marilyn live! I got kind of crappy tix- off to the side and in the back- but my brother who is going with one of his friends- he got the CENTER section right behind the pit ROW A!!!!!!! SO- he said he will let me sit in his seats for Marilyn and then I can go back to my seats for Slayer!

I just hope Marilyn doesn't sling "anything" out into the crowd! I have heard some stories!

I will fall down and scream "I'VE BEEN HIT!"

Tix also go on sale for KORN tomorrow morning- they are another band I would love to see, DH said he doesn't wanna go- It's the Family Values tour so there will be tons of bands- it's an all day , outdoor thing- so I think I would rather wait and see if they come to an arena in PA, just KORN and an opening band

I will be happy now with Mr Manson!

ooops! And there will be yard saling tomorrow morning!
8am!!!!

We got a bunch of us already gathering for NEXT Sat. There might be 10 of us yard saling freaks going! That's gonna be fun! The word is spreading!

Not sure about Sunday yet- DH and his brothers MIGHT take my MILs DBF out fishing on my BILs boat for Father's Day- I think there might be a huge flea market on Sunday- I will take mom- But that is up in the air right now.

Gotta go get ready for tonight- and got to make DH something to munch on for when he gets home so he can eat in the car while we boogie over to SILs house to scoop up everyone!

I swear you need to live closer to me! LMAO you'd be on your own for Manson though I'm jealous though about getting to see Stevie. I've *really* only gotten into some of her stuff recently.. the few songs I like I REALLY like lol.

It's our turn to cook for friends. Every weekend the group of us take turns on either Friday or Saturday night for our CF mini-group (within the bigger group lol). It's SUPER fun. Im making stuff out of last years F&W cookbook. We usually start grazing/drinking early.. cook as we go... drink as we go.. so by the time we're done with dessert we're pretty buzzed and ready to play cards. Tomorrow we'll probably be sewing (got the top done Hattir LOL) and just hanging out. Sunday dh is off so we're bathing the dog.. lounging around.. who knows hehe.

 

[kennancat]

Sorry - I'm still new at this (posting in general...not just the DIS board). Didn't mean to get off topic & cause problems.

I thought, based on all the pix of pets I've seen in past posts, folks might be interested. I know our dog & cats are such a huge part of our lives, I loved the idea.

I'll get better at knowing what is/isn't okay to post as I do more. Don't ever hesitate to tell me (nicely) when I'm off base, that is the only way I'll learn.

Don't worry - most of this thread tends to be "married no kids" -> tangent -> another tangent -> back to married w/o kids I didn't mean to single you out or chastise you at all; I just didn't want to say that we were on topic and leave it open for someone to point out that we weren't.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

ahhh yes! I love being the other half of a DINK!

Better than being a NIMK.



I am cleaning. I threw away two boxes of old magazines and got two garbage bags of clothes to donate. I'm feeling good about that!

Since you were discussing childfree Christian couples, I thought it might be closely related to a question I have. Is there a Biblical basis for the Fund. Mormon's belief in polygamy and having so many kids?

Also - someone was mentioning it being a sin to "waste" eggs - wouldn't that mean a girl would have to get pregnant at her first period to not waste any? Talk about not making sense!

Anyway, we will be seeing characters in WDW, just the two of us and loving it!

 

[kennancat]

Is there a Biblical basis for the Fund. Mormon's belief in polygamy and having so many kids?

Okay, I'm not Mormon, so my information comes entirely from knowing several people who tried out Mormonism and watching the PBS special on it last month I believe most of it comes from the Mormon Bible, not the traditional Christian Bible. According to the special, Joseph Smith claimed that God revealed to him that he needed to take plural wives like Abraham and other men in the Old Testament. The mainstream Mormon church formally abolished the practice sometime in the 1800s (conveniently around the time that Utah was trying to gain statehood), but turned a blind eye to it for a while. At some point in the 1900s the church really started cracking down on it and excommunicating believers. You still have the fundamentalists who practice it and argue that they're the true Mormon church because Joseph Smith started this and the church got rid of it for practical reasons, not because God said to.

After watching that special, DH brought up what I thought was a really great point - what happens to all the extra men? Figure that the birth rate is typically biased towards males, but by the time we reach reproductive age, the ratio is around 1:1. So, if one man marries two women, then that means some guy is left without a wife. I guess you could assume that the men marry later than the women (so more have died off and the ratio is now biased towards the women) or maybe the practice started when they were low on men. But bottom line as I see it is that in modern times, the math doesn't work out to make polygamy a good choice.

 

[Liisa]

I'm missing out on the best years of my life - blah blah blah....

Sorry to be jumping back a few posts. Work got in the way... But this made me laugh. Hmmmm, if you ask me and DH, THESE are the best years of our life!!!! But I guess that goes back to the root of the problem, some people with kids can't imagine how wonderful a quiet life can be. The nice dinners, the travelling, the random "get up and go"...

 

[zima-cheryl]

What is everyone's weekend plans???

Last night we went and saw "Ocean's 13". If you liked 11 & 12, I would recommend you see 13. Fun movie, plus George & Brad aren't too hard on the eyes. And of course had to get the bag of sweedish fish.

Tonight I'm making DH take me to "Midsummer Night's Dream". He is a good sport about going. He knows how much I enjoy Shakespeare (it is the English Lit. major in me).

Tomorrow we are taking my father-in-law out for Father's Day. And then if the weather holds I'll spend the rest of the day working in my yard. I'm slowly trying to get a new flower bed put in. Think I'll be going to the nursery to pick up some daisy & yarrow plants.

 

[Liisa]

My weekend... bathed the dogs, cleaned the house, tended to the yard, vacuumed the pool (new pool, we haven't used it, but the dogs have. Needs to warm up a bit for me...) Tonight we are going out to dinner to celebrate our anniversary. Tomorrow I have to pack. We are heading down to Tampa next week for my brother's wedding (hence all the chores being crammed into this weekend). We don't have time to squeeze in a trip to Disney which is just about killing me (1 hour away and we're not going! )

By the way, we're DINK's. But I'm hoping that someday DH will enable us to be OINK's!!!

 

[Hixski]

We are finishing some remodeling we are doing this weekend. Nothing special. We are having pasta con broccoli with a bottle of wine for dinner tonight. Yumm. Tuesday we have ball tickets to the St. Louis Cardinals game. We will probably have a few beers somewhere tomorrow sometime. Just a typical childfree weekend.

 

[maddhatir]

By the way, we're DINK's. But I'm hoping that someday DH will enable us to be OINK's!!!

OINKS!

weeeeeee--oooooooo ( I just got a vision of Deliverance! )

 

[Hixski]

OINKS!

weeeeeee--oooooooo ( I just got a vision of Deliverance! )

DH and want to be LINKS. Lottery income no kids!!!!!

 

[maddhatir]

I swear you need to live closer to me! LMAO you'd be on your own for Manson though I'm jealous though about getting to see Stevie. I've *really* only gotten into some of her stuff recently.. the few songs I like I REALLY like lol.

It's our turn to cook for friends. Every weekend the group of us take turns on either Friday or Saturday night for our CF mini-group (within the bigger group lol). It's SUPER fun. Im making stuff out of last years F&W cookbook. We usually start grazing/drinking early.. cook as we go... drink as we go.. so by the time we're done with dessert we're pretty buzzed and ready to play cards. Tomorrow we'll probably be sewing (got the top done Hattir LOL) and just hanging out. Sunday dh is off so we're bathing the dog.. lounging around.. who knows hehe.

Stevie was OK- her voice, I admit is still incredible- she sounds perfect- but even after the show- I had no desire to go and buy a CD. I did enjoy hearing her sing.

We all had a nice time- We had lawn tickets so we all brought our blankets to sit on. It was a bit chilly, BIL had the sheet thrown over him- he looked like he was ready for bed

Speaking of dessert- I bought these adorable dessert plates and mugs today at one of the yardsales- they come 4 in a set and they are in round boxes, I usually see them in the department stores- they have pics of desserts on both the plates and mugs. Never used!! 6 bucks for both sets.

And LS626- you would be proud of me- I bought a patch today, but that is as close as I get to sewing- just "buying" the patch! I will have my tailor sew it onto my jeans It's some kind of military patch I bought from a guy at a flea market, he had a bunch of old military stuff- I have a little hole in the knee of my jeans. So I will slap it on and look cool Funny, I have a few jeans that I bought WITH the holes already in them- but I buy a patch to COVER a hole that popped up in another pair.

Dinner shounds fun! We usually end up playing UNO when we have a bunch of people over-

+ + UNO=

It NEVER fails- I am ALWAYS the one who says "who's turn is it" and EVERYONE yells at me "YOURS!"

"What? settle down, now what color is the card?"

 

[maddhatir]

DH and want to be LINKS. Lottery income no kids!!!!!

OINK, LINK- I like the sounds of both- I hate working!

Now NIMK- No...thank...you.......but funny how there are many people all around that love to "choose" this lovely lifestyle!

 

[maddhatir]

My weekend... bathed the dogs, cleaned the house, tended to the yard, vacuumed the pool (new pool, we haven't used it, but the dogs have. Needs to warm up a bit for me...) Tonight we are going out to dinner to celebrate our anniversary. Tomorrow I have to pack. We are heading down to Tampa next week for my brother's wedding (hence all the chores being crammed into this weekend). We don't have time to squeeze in a trip to Disney which is just about killing me (1 hour away and we're not going! )

By the way, we're DINK's. But I'm hoping that someday DH will enable us to be OINK's!!!

HAPPY ANIVERSARY!!!!!!

OH! and PLEASE have a glass of champagne on me!....ummm....FOR me!

I am so excited! I LOVE champagne- I was just telling DH he has to bring me to a new place that opened near us--- it is a CHAMPAGNE BAR!!!! It is called.... Swanky Bubbles! How awesome is that name! I will be there all the time just to be sure I get to try every single champage cocktail on their menu!

 

[LoveStitch626]

Stevie was OK- her voice, I admit is still incredible- she sounds perfect- but even after the show- I had no desire to go and buy a CD. I did enjoy hearing her sing.

We all had a nice time- We had lawn tickets so we all brought our blankets to sit on. It was a bit chilly, BIL had the sheet thrown over him- he looked like he was ready for bed

Speaking of dessert- I bought these adorable dessert plates and mugs today at one of the yardsales- they come 4 in a set and they are in round boxes, I usually see them in the department stores- they have pics of desserts on both the plates and mugs. Never used!! 6 bucks for both sets.

And LS626- you would be proud of me- I bought a patch today, but that is as close as I get to sewing- just "buying" the patch! I will have my tailor sew it onto my jeans It's some kind of military patch I bought from a guy at a flea market, he had a bunch of old military stuff- I have a little hole in the knee of my jeans. So I will slap it on and look cool Funny, I have a few jeans that I bought WITH the holes already in them- but I buy a patch to COVER a hole that popped up in another pair.

Dinner shounds fun! We usually end up playing UNO when we have a bunch of people over-

+ + UNO=

It NEVER fails- I am ALWAYS the one who says "who's turn is it" and EVERYONE yells at me "YOURS!"

"What? settle down, now what color is the card?"

LMAO dude. I just wear the holes in my jeans. Ventilation baybeee Dinner was fun. Pierogies flopped but dessert was GOOD. We haven't played UNO in forever. LOL I may bust out the cards next week. I'm always that person too. Except I've usually been and it usually goes more like "Who's turn is it?" YOURS " "** off! I'm goin I'm goin.. What color are we at? *giggle & look at cards* What color do you have? *looking over neighbor's shoulder* Hey gimme that red 2"

 

[maddhatir]

looking over neighbor's shoulder* Hey gimme that red 2"

HUH! No way man- No cheatin'!

I am such a dork- If I can see my neighbors cards- I yell at them

But then again- it's not like I am going to remember what the heck they even have after I turn my head back to my hand!