Marrieds choosing not to have kids

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Wow, I am off for a few hours and the "enlightened ones" come back. :rotfl2:
It is amazing we have all gotten this far in life not having children. We are going to regret our decision, our lives are miserable....blah...blah....blah.

OT: Here is my fuzzy baby running around outside today in the snow. I hate snow but he loves it.

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OT: Here is my fuzzy baby running around outside today in the snow. I hate snow but he loves it.

What a sweetie! Our 2.5 year-old dog saw snow for the first time last week and didn't know what to think. He didn't like the way it felt on his paws and that was pretty funny to watch. He's a Southern dog for sure. ;)
 
NOW! Animals are a whole other subject- I have allergies and asthma and my heart ACHES for a pet, which I can not have-- I love animals so much that they are the reason I became a vegetarian! Amazing- how I can ache to want a pet but not a child!:lmao:

When I look into an animlas eyes- I just melt!~

Hixski your pup is so cute!

Actually about 2 weeks ago a stray kitty foound his way to me (he can sense -stray animal sucker- I guess!) I took care of him until last week when I found a home for him with one of my DIS "wench" friends- We both traveled an hour on the NJ Turnpike (we live about 2 hours or more from eahc other!)and met each other half way so we can meet and give the kitty a home!

He is now warm and cozy and in a loving home!:banana:
 
Thanks for thinking my baby Duncan is a cutie. Mommy certainly thinks so.:rotfl2: Believe it or not but he is really my old man. He will be 10 in June. He is in great shape. I hope he stays that way for a long time.

Maddhatir: I don't know how severe your allergies are but my cousin has asthma and allergies too. She has always had a dog. She has a terrier mutt now. She has to take medicine for both conditions and it is enough to allow her a dog. It might not be hopeless.
 

One of my good friends is an animal lover and is allergic to everything that moves. She wound up getting two pet rats...yes....rats. They are extremely clean and smart believe it or not. She got them from a breeder so they would be properly socialized. I don't know if I could handle rats, but she loves them! They even know their names. :eek:
 
I work at Social Services receiving police reports on juvenile delinquents & assigning them to a social worker. It's amazing how many times a social worker will meet with a family and they want the worker to "fix" their kid and take no responsibility. Or the other extreme, persons having unprotected relations and having kids they don't want and they end up getting shipped off to foster care. Sheesh!:confused3
Tammy - just wanted to say welcome to the thread. Sorry the trolls woke up for your arrival :) Your job sounds like it must be really tough at times - I'm glad there are people like you doing their best to help!
 
Another Childless-by-choice person here! I've just never wanted kids, despite being an in-demand babysitter throughout HS and involved with them through church in college and beyond. Or maybe that's WHY ... :) I just don't want any of my own and have been blessed with a DH2B who feels the same. We actually talked about it months before dating - when he mentioned that he was hoping to stay kidless, I knew he was a keeper. :) Well, for that and many other reasons. I live on campus at my grad school right next to the family housing and really don't know how some of my fellow students do it. I'm barely making it with just myself to feed and house, some of them seem determined to fill out their family to the max before they graduate. Because student loans, second shifts, exams, papers, and two-bedroom apartments are just better with three crying kids? :confused3 . They may be fantastic parents, but it just seems cruel to do that to a small kid. "Here's your patch of grass to play in, someday your daddy/mommy will actually be home sometime and not studying so you can meet them."

We're a few months out from the wedding and have already gotten the "when're you gonna have kids" question from at least two sources. Most I can just push off with the standard "let's get through wedding/school/whatever" line and change the subject. The hard one was my friend who had an "oops" kid and is now the cutest, best mother. She seems to feel that since she so loves being a mom, despite not wanting to beforehand, I will feel the same way and am missing SO much by refusing. Maybe. I'll gladly take that risk and enjoy your little guy and enjoy even more handing him back to you!
 
And another random thing - what's with the "when you're a parent" thing? Yes, there are some parts of parenthood I'm ignorant of. However, I'm an EXPERT on what it's like to be a kid. I've been able to connect with small fries from itty-bitty to HS and guide and, in small part, raise them because I remember kid-hood. Why does giving birth to one, or even a small crowd of kids make you an expert on how another kid works? They're all pretty different.
 
Another married and child free by choice here. I'm quite lucky as we don't tend to get asked about having kids. There is one girl at work who does ask, but even the other girls tell her to stop asking as it's never going to happen! It's not that I don't like kids (I spend my day teaching a class of 9 year olds), I just don't want any of my own.

As for the topic of pet rats, we had 2 pet rats in my class for a few years. They made great pets, very friendly and very clean animals.
 
Your not even a mom and you think you know what is best for kids. What a JOKE!!!!:rotfl: Your better off getting a job washing dishes. Until your a mom you have no clue.

Where did I say that in my post?:confused:

Okay, so I was going to get on my bandwagon and spill out personal information about my family but decided this person did not deserve that (not to mention it's TMI). Apparently some people misinterpret what others are saying. Personality A, B or C?:confused3

I love kids, I would not go to Disneyworld if I did not like them. I just chose not to have them. That's what this thread is about, right?

Have a magical day!:wizard:
 
Tammy - just wanted to say welcome to the thread. Sorry the trolls woke up for your arrival :) Your job sounds like it must be really tough at times - I'm glad there are people like you doing their best to help!

Thank you! I'm looking forward to chatting with all of the "friendly" people here at the Dis Boards!:banana:
 
The hard one was my friend who had an "oops" kid and is now the cutest, best mother. She seems to feel that since she so loves being a mom, despite not wanting to beforehand, I will feel the same way and am missing SO much by refusing.
Since you mentioned church, I'm assuming you're religious. If your friend is as well, try pointing out to her that God knew what a great mom she would be and that's why her life worked out the way it did. If He feels the same way about you, well, do you really think birth control will stop that? That's what always gets me about refusing to use birth control for religious reasons. I'm of the opinion that if God wants my husband and me to become parents, a 99.7% prevention rate won't be an problem for him ;)
 
Oh, thanks, I hadn't thought of that. That helps. Well, in my conversations with her. Now I'm a little paranoid -- think I can convince God to keep us childless? ;) Seriously, though, I like your perspective.

And Tammy, THANK YOU for braving the world of child service. Wow, that's a tough calling. Don't mind the trolls, they're just there for decoration. Like those little ugly ones lurking around in the garden, or those dressed up ducks in yards. You CAN'T take those too seriously. :)
 
thanks for all the laughs....too many to quote, but sitting at work and laughing so loud....people are wondering if I have finally lost my mind....
 
Don't mind the trolls, they're just there for decoration. Like those little ugly ones lurking around in the garden, or those dressed up ducks in yards. You CAN'T take those too seriously. :)
I've also seen them referred to as "seagulls" on another thread because they fly in, make a lot of noise, &^%$ all over everything, and leave!
 
I've also seen them referred to as "seagulls" on another thread because they fly in, make a lot of noise, &^%$ all over everything, and leave!


I like that one!!!:lmao:

I wish there was a smily for THAT! How interesting would it be instead of this one:stir:

This one might be fitting
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but not really I guess!


Maybe these???
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NAH! I might go hunt for a seagull!:lmao:
 
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