Married ladies, I have a question, re:husbands

[lillygator]

I end up making them. DH is just too busy during the day and when he finally gets a spare moment it's usually when the office is closed for lunch or after hours.

 

[jog58]

I'm the odd one here.

I make most, if not all, of DH's appointments. When I scheduled his last doctor appointment, the receptionist asked if DH knew that I was making the appointment. I kind of laughed and said yes. She said that they often get wives that call in but then forget to tell their husbands about them. They just wanted to be sure that he wasn't going to be a no-show.

DH's just not a phone person. He rarely has time during the day and when he gets home, the offices would all be closed.

I'm home all day, so it really doesn't bother me at all.

I'm also a wife that packs for DH when we go on vacation.

I am right there with you, and honestly I don't mind it at all.

 

[PrincessNancy96]

He makes all his own appointments for the most part since they need to fit in his work schedule.. However, on occassion he has asked me to make it for him.... If it's a family photo session or something, I make the call..

 

[Lanshark]

He makes any appointment that is dependant on his schedule. I make any appointment that is dependant on my schedule. If we're scheduling something together than it depends. Sometimes I make them and sometimes he makes them

 

[daughtersrus]

I am right there with you, and honestly I don't mind it at all.

I'm glad to know that I'm not alone.

 

[Nik's Mom]

I have made appointments before, but it rarely happens. I don't really mind making the appointments. It's not a big deal at all. But dh often has meetings scheduled at work, so it's easier for him to make his appointments since he knows his schedule.

 

[NikitaZee]

Usually me. If he's sick and needs to see the doctor that day, he does it. If it's for appointments in advance, I do it. I'm the mental database for the entire house - I keep track of everything and usually make everybody's appointments.

 

[Halloweenqueen]

I do. I'm sure he would do it, but I started doing this early in our marriage. Just an old habit, I guess.

I can't complain though. He took over the job of cleaning out the litter box 13 years ago when I was pregnant. lol

 

[dawson5]

I used to. Until he started saying he couldn't make the appointment, I rescheduled it and then he told me he couldn't make that date either. "Then you call honey and let them know when you can go." It's been that way ever since. He has his schedule at work, meetings or people being gone that he can't get away because of. It's just easier.

I used to pack for him also. Until (there's that word again) I forgot his tennis shoes. I thought he would come home and change for the drive, he didn't and I didn't think of it. We got to Charlotte and found he only had his dress/work shoes. I do successfully pack for myself, three boys and two dogs. I will get out his unmentionables for him though.

 

[mumom95]

Most of the time he makes his own appointments. There have been times when it's easier for me to do it for him simply because I have easier access to a phone during the day.

same here

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

I do because he won't...although if he needs to change his appt. or anytihng, he has to do it

 

[akcire]

I don't make his appointments, but I doubt he does either. My husband has three dedicated administrative people--I am guessing one of them makes his appointments.

If it is something we both do, ie taxes, banking--I normally send him an email and then make an appointment when I know he has availability.

As for packing his clothes--he is on his own--half the time I don't know what continent he is traveling to--I can see me sending him to Hawaii with a Parka or to Moscow with shorts.

 

[SC Minnie]

Do you make appts for your hubby? Doctors, Dentists, etc? or do they do that kind of stuff for themselves?

He makes all those for himself.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I've never made an appt for him, and never plan to. He's a grown-up =)

 

[npmommie]

well, just as I suspected, I am also in the minority!
I do make the appts for him, although the last time he was annoyed with the time, so this time, he wanted a PE appt, and I kept forgetting ( on purpose ), thinking he will get the hint and just do it himself. well no he keeps reminding me and he got annoyed because I suggested he do it himself LOL
I draw the line at packing though, I don't pack for him

 

[Liberty Belle]

My husband makes his own appointments. I'd feel weird doing it for him.

 

[Abbie]

Mine makes his own, although he sometimes needs reminding! When he's sick though I will make the appt only because I work there and can easily do it.

On the flip side, I will get calls at the dr's office every day from a wife making her husband an appt. I don't care one way or the other, but it always baffles me when the husband is right there beside her! I will hear her turn to him and say "is 2:00 ok?" and then you can hear him answer. Why the heck wouldn't you just hand him the phone?

 

[LoriABil]

My DH makes his own appointments, but it's up to me to remember them! I'm not sure why!

All other appointments are up to me, including vacation plans, flight times, school events, etc.

 

[mtemm]

its funny, I used to, or I'd harp on him to get to the dentist or the like. then we separated for a year and both of us did a lot of growing/changing, and when we reconciled, I just did not do those things any more. I think something a friend of mine said about him being a grownup, not a child, and trusting him to take care of himself, really sunk in for me.

the funny thing was he used to go to appts kicking and screaming or would blow them off. but since I dropped that rope and let him take care of it himself, he goes to the dr every year, the dentist every six months, and has even made some specialty dr appts.

its been great for both of us! and I've learned that if he chooses not to go in the future, well, his choice. he is more than capable of taking care of himself, and if he chooses not to, well, that's his choice to make.

 

[locolala]

I make DH's for him because A) he can't make calls to places that record the calls from work, and B) I know the password to his Tricare Online account. It's just easier for me to do it for him. I send him an email about when the appointment is, and he goes. Pretty simple.