Married ladies, I have a question, re:husbands

[disneycruising]

For the most part my DH makes his own appoitments...dentist & Doctor. His work schedule is to crazy for me to try and book anything. Not to mention that he is a grown man.

I do make his appt for the eye doctor. I like to book all of the family, once a year on a Saturday. This get everyone done at one time.

As far as packing... he has to pack for himself. I pack for myself, 4 kids and the dog. I feel that is more then enough. He does always ask me to come up and "look" at what he has out. Most of the time I end up changing out a few outfits.

 

[cheermom1]

I didn't comment on the packing, I pack for my dh as he has no fashion sense what so ever. But I don't mind doing that as I do it for the whole family. I learned the hard way, with 4 boys and a dh, that they will never have anything they need once we get there. It is just easier and less stressful on all of us if I do it. But dh does a lot of other things, like we are remolding and he does most of it as I always seem to be in the way instead of helping.

 

[disneycruising]

Sorry...Some how I doubt posted

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

DH makes his own appointments and i make my own.

 

[Arielle22]

DH makes his own appts but I do his packing. He has no sense of items matching so it is easier for both of us.

I do make him handle most of the repair calls for our house. He is the one that knows what is broken, not me. I pick out any new appliances.

 

[wdwfan16]

Packing - I have DH pick out the shirts he wants to wear. He also gets his socks, underwear and personal items. I then match his pants/shorts to the shirts. I do this so I can be seen in public with him.

 

[bumbershoot]

I'm the odd one here.

I make most, if not all, of DH's appointments. When I scheduled his last doctor appointment, the receptionist asked if DH knew that I was making the appointment. I kind of laughed and said yes. She said that they often get wives that call in but then forget to tell their husbands about them. They just wanted to be sure that he wasn't going to be a no-show.

DH's just not a phone person. He rarely has time during the day and when he gets home, the offices would all be closed.

I'm home all day, so it really doesn't bother me at all.

I'm also a wife that packs for DH when we go on vacation.

Yep yep!

I have stopped packing for vacations, though...just b/c he's now packing for his business trips and doesn't forget stuff anymore.

On the flip side, I will get calls at the dr's office every day from a wife making her husband an appt. I don't care one way or the other, but it always baffles me when the husband is right there beside her! I will hear her turn to him and say "is 2:00 ok?" and then you can hear him answer. Why the heck wouldn't you just hand him the phone?

We've done that. IF DH is at home, he's playing with DS. If I'm the mode to make an appt, I'm at the computer with the calendar and my phone...I'm not playing with DS at that time. So he's in the living room or at the table doing something with DS, I'm calling, and making sure of things with DH while he plays with our boy.

I make all his appointments. As the "homemaker", I run the household and know exactly what is going on and when, plus, I feel that as the wife and mother it is my duty to see that everyone in my household is fed, watered, and up to date on shots and medical care. I run a tight ship!

Seriously though, I don't know if it's b/c of my type A personality or just my deep southern roots that gives me this sense of "duty" but it's there none the less, and I don't mind it at all, it makes me feel good to know that I am taking care of my family. I make sure we all see the dentist every six months, have physicals every year, eye's checked every year, skin checked every year, vaccinations on time, etc.

DH and I are a team. He gets up at 4:30 every morning, goes to work all day and bears the weight of supporting us financially without a single grievance or complaint, he takes care of the house and is a great husband and father... the least I can do is see that he doesn't have to worry about appointments/dishes/meals etc. when he gets home. I take care of things on the home front (and I get to sleep in ) and never have to worry about bosses, deadlines, and bringing home the bacon plus I get lots of time to pursue my own interests and hobbies. The way we work is old-fashioned, and it's not for everyone, but it works for us and we're happier than pigs in slop! I wish there were an emoticon for that....

Yep! Except for the shots part, I'm with all of that. DH works his behind off for us, gets up at horrid hours and commutes, deals with crazy bosses...least I can do is make a dental appt for him, ya know?

I also do the taxes, because I was doing that for myself when I had a business, I'm used to it. I always show him just what I've done, and I try to make sure he knows what I'm doing with the money and all the accounts and passwords, just in case... I'm just better at the money stuff than he is (and we know this from two different times when he wanted to be in charge) and it makes sense! he does the recycling (which I hate doing b/c of the sound the glass makes going into the bin), I do the taxes, etc etc....


Doesn't make me feel like he's a child...just makes me glad that he's going to see the dentist, for example. He does his own endocrinologist appts, because they generally call him when they want to see him. But I keep all the binders with the EOBs, bills, receipts, and have copies of his labwork.

 

[Mrs.Reese]

My hubby has ADHD. He has no organizational skills as a result. I end up making all the appointments and doing the packing. I actually kind of like it because when we go on vacation I know that all his undies/socks will be clean with no holes and everything will match. He packed one time and it was frightening.

 

[Pixiedust34]

Do you make appts for your hubby? Doctors, Dentists, etc? or do they do that kind of stuff for themselves?

Yes. He isn't big on talking on the phone so I usually make appointments for him. I don't mind. I'm the Appointment Maker for myself and the kids too, so managing appointments of all sorts has kind of fallen under my realm.

As far as packing goes, he packs his own stuff when we travel. He's a better packer (as in how to most efficiently fill a suitcase) than I'll ever be, anyway! : )

 

[tinkerbell198530]

DH makes his own appointments and i make my own.

Ditto

 

[scrapquitler]

Do you make appts for your hubby? Doctors, Dentists, etc? or do they do that kind of stuff for themselves?

at the thought of him making his own appointments! Half the time I make the appointment, then he wants me to GO with him because he is worried he will fill out paperwork wrong or forget to tell them something.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

I make all the appointments which is weird because I never know his schedule. I just make sure they are at least 6 months out so he has time to build them into the calendar at work.
Packing, well he does his own but he wants me to "help". Yeah ok, you mean stop what I'm doing and sit and watch you pack. Um, no.
I pack for everyone else though.

 

[connorlevismom]

My Dh makes his own appointments. I make them for the 2 kids, he can certainly take care of himself. Besides, his schedule is so crazy that I would never even know when to make an appointment.

I used to pack for him only because he waits until the last second and it drives me nuts. But, one time we went somewhere I accidentally forgot his boxers. It was truly an accident but when he complained about it I told him to pack his own damn clothes and then maybe nothing would be forgotten. Again, I take care of myself and the two kids, he can take care of himself.

My mom cannot believe that I don't make DH his lunch for work everyday. I always laugh my butt off when she says that.

#1. I work too so I am certainly not going to make his lunch for him. I am just as busy as he is.

#2. How the heck and I supposed to know what he wants for lunch everyday? Seriously!

DH used to have this guy that sat across from him whose wife packed his lunch everyday. Everyday she packed him an apple and everyday he threw it away. I think he was afraid his wife might throw the apple at his head if he told her he did not like what she packed. But seriously, they were wasting A LOT of money on apples that he was not eating!

Kristine

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

He makes his own. He used to hint at me to do it but I have enough on my plate already.

It drives me nuts that the man won't even buy himself clothing until I point out all the holes in them. And then when he comes home with clothes they don't fit right because he just grabs them without trying them on and that includes pants!

I already do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, pack and ship orders for his part time business that I don't even like, take care of the kids and pets, yard work (except for lawn mowing which I pay DS14 to do), grocery shopping and any other errands that need to be done. And take care of getting any work done on my car. I used to do all this and work full time too. I was slowly going insane. Heck, I still am.

He can make his own appointments, dang it!

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

at the thought of him making his own appointments! Half the time I make the appointment, then he wants me to GO with him because he is worried he will fill out paperwork wrong or forget to tell them something.

This is me - If I had to make my own appointments, I would never go. Heck, I don't even know my doctor's name, much less the number or address...

 

[bigbabyblues]

Nope, he does it himself. I would do it if he wanted me to, but he never asks.

 

[cheermom1]

My Dh makes his own appointments. I make them for the 2 kids, he can certainly take care of himself. Besides, his schedule is so crazy that I would never even know when to make an appointment.

I used to pack for him only because he waits until the last second and it drives me nuts. But, one time we went somewhere I accidentally forgot his boxers. It was truly an accident but when he complained about it I told him to pack his own damn clothes and then maybe nothing would be forgotten. Again, I take care of myself and the two kids, he can take care of himself.

My mom cannot believe that I don't make DH his lunch for work everyday. I always laugh my butt off when she says that.

#1. I work too so I am certainly not going to make his lunch for him. I am just as busy as he is.

#2. How the heck and I supposed to know what he wants for lunch everyday? Seriously!

DH used to have this guy that sat across from him whose wife packed his lunch everyday. Everyday she packed him an apple and everyday he threw it away. I think he was afraid his wife might throw the apple at his head if he told her he did not like what she packed. But seriously, they were wasting A LOT of money on apples that he was not eating!

Kristine

Do we have the same mom??? LOL no really my mom said the same thing to me. I work full time too geez, I don;t see him making my lunch!

 

[Handbag Lady]

Usually, we make our own appointments for ourselves. There are exceptions, if either one of us is experiencing a heavy work day, then one of us will step in and help out the other.

We would NEVER pack for each other. He wouldn't give me enough shoes and I would throw away his "travel only" fanny pack (that I hate with a passion.)

 

[FoundMyPrince]

I make appointments for DH (dentist, doctor, hair), pack for DH and usually make his lunch. I'm a stay-home-mom and have more time around the house to do those things than he does. Doesn't bother me one bit.

 

[connorlevismom]

Do we have the same mom??? LOL no really my mom said the same thing to me. I work full time too geez, I don;t see him making my lunch!

LOL it must be the generation or something.

This is also a woman who told my sister (when she was having marital problems) that she needs to make sure she is bathed, has a dress and make-up on and smelling pretty when her husband get home from work. That is what a wife does to keep the marriage going. Yeah, my sister is going to run home from work, take care of her 3 kids and make sure she is clean and smells pretty for her husband when he gets home! Sometimes I don't know if I should laugh or cry when my mom has marital advice.

Kristine