Making a large purchase with an inheritance...

[Goofyluver]

Would you be comfortable seeing the receipt of a financial inheritance as a context for indulging in one or more large purchases?

Also: Would or would not the things you buy with money from an inheritance "remind" you of the loss that brought about the inheritance?

 

[java]

1. Yes
2. Would not

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

Depends. If you used the inheritance to buy a big, antique vase with the word "Grandma" on it, it would definitely remind me...

 

[Stitchfans]

1. Yes
2. Would not

Same here.

 

[TheZue]

Ya I'd be fine with it. And yes it would remind me of the person that passed; but that's not always a bad thing. I got a car with some of the money from my dad's passing and I like that it reminds me of him. He taught me to drive so it's apropriate

 

[Monte Cristo]

Would you be comfortable seeing the receipt of a financial inheritance as a context for indulging in one or more large purchases?

Also: Would or would not the things you buy with money from an inheritance "remind" you of the loss that brought about the inheritance?

Strange question...who am "I"? A friend or spouse? If I was a friend no I wouldn't feel comfortable seeing a receipt and why would my friends be showing said receipt to me for justification of the purchase?

Maybe I'm thinking too much into it...

 

[Goofyluver]

Strange question...who am "I"? A friend or spouse? If I was a friend no I wouldn't feel comfortable seeing a receipt and why would my friends be showing said receipt to me for justification of the purchase?

Maybe I'm thinking too much into it...

I think you misunderstood my question.

Would you see receiving a large inheritance as an acceptable opportunity to make one or more large purchases? And would your purchase serve as a reminder for your lost loved one?

 

[Monte Cristo]

I think you misunderstood my question.

Would you see receiving a large inheritance as an acceptable opportunity to make one or more large purchases? And would your purchase serve as a reminder for your lost loved one?

Got it, thanks. Not enough coffee I guess.

1. Yes -- We have
2. Yes -- It has, in a postive light.

 

[MontanaZoo]

I think you misunderstood my question.

Would you see receiving a large inheritance as an acceptable opportunity to make one or more large purchases? And would your purchase serve as a reminder for your lost loved one?

I tend to keep a small keepsake from a person as a reminder, like a teacup my great-grandmother used.

If I ever receive actual money as an inheritance, I don't think I'd really associate it with that person at all.

I also do my own memorial contributions in different ways, like I adopted an animal at the zoo in my aunt's name to remember her.

 

[DVCLiz]

How much is "large?" I would personally use an inheritance to shore up savings, etc. before I made any large purchases. If the amount is large enough to do it all, then I wouldn't hesitate to make large purchases. Again, though, what do you mean by a large purchase - is it a new TV or a vacation home? I suppose I would have a little trouble making the really big purchases unless I was sure I had covered all the other important things first.

Once I had the money, though, the stuff I bought wouldn't remind me of the person. I would be mindful of the way I got it, of course, but once it hit my bank account it would be "mine" and I wouldn't attach any great sentiment to the item.

 

[DVCisME]

We used an inheritance frommy husbands grandfather to by the DVC. Though not always we do remember what a great gift he gave us and our children. He gave up the opportunity to give our kids vacations that would not be possible without him. At the time my oldest was 1, and we had just purchased the mouse ears for great grandpa, grandpa, my husband, and my son. So we have a great picture of them all lined up! It adds to the reminder!

 

[mickeyboat]

I think it would, but in a good way - that Grandma's thoughtfulness to pass on something to us allowed us to have or do something we otherwise would not have been able to do.

I also think that if I was still having such sadness about someone's passing at the time I was making a big purchase with an inheritance, I might step back and let a bit of time pass before I made the purchase. It might be that I was still too close to the pain of my loss.

Denae

 

[Cinders Mum]

yep, I would and have made a large purchase.
yes, it reminds me of that loved one, when I recall the memories of that purchase, but in a positive way not negative.

 

[Justanopinion]

I will be receiving a pretty good inheritance in the coming months.

My thoughts for spending it so far have been:
Down payment on cruise
New sofa
New laptop
New TV
New carpet

I could probably do 3-4 of those things and still have some to put in savings. My grandmother would be happy knowing that I got some of the things I've wanted. No, I don't think it would remind me of her except maybe the cruise, she loved to go on cruises. I think she would be honored if I did the cruise though.

 

[TennisGirl80]

It depends on who it is - for example, DHs cousin has put us in her will for her house - shes is not on the top of my "lovely family member list" so it wouldn't bother me in the least when we sell it and pay off our morgage. Now if it were my, or DHs parents, I think it would be hard, but you have to remember, that the reason thay left you the money, or house or whatever is because they wanted you to have it, and to help you out.

 

[Keggy]

We purchased DVC with a family inheritance.

I do occassionally think about how we purchased it and know that the person who left it to us would be happy knowing it was being used for our family.

With another large inheritance that was left to someone else in my family they paid a very large amount towards my school loans.

 

[Laugh O. Grams]

1. Yes
2. Yes, hopefully in a good way.

 

[GeorgeG]

I would be okay spending the inheritance on anything I needed or that was reasonable (I pretty much have everything I really need). I am reminded of lost loved ones through the memories of them regardless of inheritance.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

Would you be comfortable seeing the receipt of a financial inheritance as a context for indulging in one or more large purchases?

Also: Would or would not the things you buy with money from an inheritance "remind" you of the loss that brought about the inheritance?

Yes, and we have. To me, the inheritence is separate and distinct from the loss of the person. I mean, my parents are dead. Letting the money sit in the bank isn't going to bring them back.

That said, we did establish the kids' college funds with part of the money. We would have anyway, but we did think it was a nice tribute to my dad, who was a professor.

The more indulgent things we bought with the money don't really remind me of them, but if they did, I think it would be in a good way, like my mom's jewelry does and other things of theirs we have in our home.

 

[swandiverpatt]

1. Yes ... I bought my car and made a downpayment on my house here with the money I inherited from my mother.

2. If I gave the money back, it would not bring back my mom. I like to think that she would be comfortable in our guest bedroom (where her bed actually is!) We often speak of how much she would loved spending time in this house.