Kaleah Ruffin Pre Trip report
Hi we're the Rufffin Family; Kim (mom), Jon (dad), Corrine(daughter), Alexis(daughter), Kaleah(wish child), Kalani(son)
I did a short pre trip report.(Because I kept procrastinating) We leave for GKTW on 12/21/10!!!!!
I have been so moved by all of the wonderful families here, I often think of and pray for the families.
Hi,
I have been procrastinating beginning our report but since our MAW trip is just about two weeks away I thought I should really get to it!
Our family characters are (me) Kim, DH Jon, DD Corrine 20 (junior at OSU GO BUCKS!), DD Alexis 13, DD Kaleah 3 Wish Child, DS Kalani 2.
Kaleah was 8 months old when she joined our family as our foster daughter. Her brother, Kalani joined us a few months later. They were both shaken babies, at four weeks old Kaleah had suffered several broken bones including a serious skull fracture and ribs; she was abused again at four months old. This time she had new brain bleeds and a fractured femur. Her doctors didn't think she would survive a week, but she's a fighter! She was diagnosed with microcephaly (her head circumference is smaller than normal due to her brain not growing normally from the head trauma), CP- spastic quadriplegia, cortical visual impairment, HTN, Seizures, and Dysphasia. Shes non verbal and has a Gastric/Jejunum feeding tube.
Her first prognosis was grim, the doctors said we would be lucky if she lived to be 4 or 5 years old, shell be 4 in April! She had constant seizures and episodes called brainstorming. She was so tiny and cried all the time, when we held her the crying often got worse. Any noise from a cough or sneeze would send her into a frenzy. She became over stimulated by touch, noise or lights. We wondered if we would be able to do anything that would calm her. One night she was crying and as usual nothing we were doing helped. A baby commercial came on and Silent Night was playing, she stopped crying instantly. The commercial went off and the crying began, we reversed the show and played it again...no tears! We began playing silent night and other Christmas Carols and she loved it!
Slowly we got to be able to hold her without it causing her to brainstorm. But her health was getting worse because she was getting pneumonia every month because she was a silently aspirating, even though we suctioned her by mouth and nose almost constantly. In November of 2008 she had a trach placed and that did wonders. She hasnt had pneumonia since! In 2009 she started to have kidney problems, she had VUR, she wasnt urinating well and the urine was backing up into her kidneys causing damage. She underwent treatment and now is straight cathed every 3-4 hours. They doctors wanted to do a procedure called a vesicostomy but we are trying to prevent it from happening, so far the cathing is working very well.
We are so blessed right now because as of November 20, 2010 the children were adopted and ours forever!
More soon