Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Has anyone had a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor at your wedding? Do you think it gets confusing having both? TIA

 

[orangetiggs]

i was under te impression they were the same, one is unmarried and the other is married thats what I have always thought

 

[IrishLily]

I haven't had a wedding, and don't plan on having both BUT I do know that it is totally acceptable. And, I think it's even better that they're both not Maids of honor, or Matrons. It's even acceptable to have bridesmen (boys from the Brides side) standing up there with you. I've never seen it done myself, and I'm sure many men wouldn't immediately turn the offer down, but to each his own.

I don't think it's confusing, I just think it may be hard during the wedding to let it be known that they BOTH are Honors. I mean...only one will hold your bouquet, right? What will the other do? Other than that I think it's cool to do something outside the box. I know that I will be having both of my parents walk me down the aisle, even though tradition states only the father.

Hope this helps!

Erin

 

[Swmhc]

I have been in a wedding where there were both, and I am doing both at mine. It made my teenage DD day when I asked her to be my maid of honor. It makes her feel much more important than a bridesmaid. It was something I did for her. At the same time, I could not exclude my best friend of over 20 years, so she will be my matron.

Besides, it's Disney...we are supposed to do things different !

 

[c4alymom]

I had both a maid of honor and a matron of honor. I didn't have a Disney wedding , but it was nice anyway!) I had two close friends and didn't want to exclude one from the "honor" position. It just so worked out that one was married and one was not. My "maid" did the bouquet thing at the wedding and they both worked together on the rest.

 

[almostrockstar13]

I never thought about if it was acceptable or not but I will have both at my wedding. My best friend and I promised eachother when we were 5 that we would be eachothers maid of honors but i also asked my "sister" to be my matron of honor.

 

[lpizzuro123]

What you are planning on is perfectly acceptable.

I have three best friends - we have know each other for over 30 years - ahhhhhhhhhhh.

Anyway, one has never been married, one is married and one is recently divorced. I want them all to be Maids and Matron of Honor - and have no bridesmaids. I want to list the three of them in my program this way. Not sure which one would hold my flowers - probably the one closest to me (location wise) at the ceremony. Any thoughts?

Linda

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I am so glad I posted this!! You all made me feel better. I asked my sister to be my Matron of Honor, and I really want to ask my best friend to be my Maid of Honor. My mom said it might be too confusing for them. I want my sister to be the one standing closest to me and hold my flowers, but I want both of them equally involved. That leaves me with 1 bridesmaid, 2 junior bridesmaids and a flower girl!!!!

Linda - I would have the one standing closer to you hold your flowers.

 

[oneyodafan]

DH and I will celebrate 9 years next month. I had a maid of honor & matron of honor and DH had two best men. We just couldn't pick decide the two guys and I wanted my best friend and my closest cousin. It was fine.

 

[mindystar]

I have two sisters and we all agreed/decided when we were younger that we would be each others Maids/Matrons of Honor. So for my middle sister who got married last year my youngest sister and I were her Maids and she also had a bridesmaid. It was really important to me to stand next to her during the ceremony and hold her flowers, so I did. When it was time for taking pictures I my sister and I switched so that in pictures during the ceremony I sat next to her and during the other pictures my youngest sister was. I got to sit next to her at the head table, but also had to make the speech, while my youngest sister did the blessing. So we just talked about which duties each other wanted and split them up that way. We hosted the bridal shower together equally and such. My youngest sister and I now get to look forward to who will have two Matrons and who will get a Maid and a Matron
Sorry for going on forever

 

[AshleyLynn]

I am doing both at my wedding this Saturday. I have two sisters, one is married and one is not. I dont' really care if it confuses people...there was no way that I could choose between the 2 of them! I say just do what you want to do.

 

[StitchBride]

Coming from the other side, I was the Matron of Honor in a wedding which also had a Maid of Honor....all I can say is try not to favor one over the other. I was extremely hurt by the bride because it was always about her and the MOH, who kind of took over every situation, and I felt very left out of things and was just very hurt the days leading up to the wedding. In the end, I was treated like a bridesmaid which would have been fine, if that's what I was suppose to be. It would have been nice to know

IMHO

 

[rkandmjsmommy]

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I am in a wedding in October, I am Matron of Honor and Bride to be's sister is Maid of Honor, the only problem I have run in to, is I dont want to stop on her sister's toes.

 

[TamTab]

I will be having both at my wedding. My Matron will be my close friend since highschool and my Maid will be my best friend. I think if you are ok with it then nothing else should matter.

 

[MickeyAnne]

I will be the Matron of Honor in my BF's wedding and her younger sister is going to be the Maid of Honor. What has helped us that that my BF has let us both know what we are responsible for and what she expects of us seeing as we are technically sharing the role. Like, her sister will be in college for a few months during the planning so I will be doing most of the stuff while she is away and while she is back, I will relinquish anything that I can to her so she can take it over or help me with it. As the bride, I think it would be great for both of your ladies to delegate certain things to each so both are equally involved.

 

[figmentfan814]

Just thought I would add a little to this topic too. I am having both a maid and matron of honor too. They have been pretty good about working things out between the two of them to make sure that no one's toes get stepped on... for example, my maid of honor is taking the lead for the bachelorette party and my matron of honor is tackling the shower.

To add to the twist on wedding parties, we are actually having 5 guys and only 4 girls. I wanted my one cousin who is like a brother to stand up with me, so my DF's cousin (a groomsmen) is actually walking down my DF's mother who has been single for many years while my cousin walks down one of the bridesmaids. You can pretty do whatever you want anymore.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Coming from the other side, I was the Matron of Honor in a wedding which also had a Maid of Honor....all I can say is try not to favor one over the other. I was extremely hurt by the bride because it was always about her and the MOH, who kind of took over every situation, and I felt very left out of things and was just very hurt the days leading up to the wedding. In the end, I was treated like a bridesmaid which would have been fine, if that's what I was suppose to be. It would have been nice to know IMHO

This is what I am afraid of. My best friend is a take charge kind of person while my sister is kind of shy and I don't want my sister to feel like you felt. Thanks for all your insights.