ok, so I haven't yet done the "get to know us" part...I've been debating whether to, since we're a bit of a soap opera this year! But, glass of wine in my hand, why not!
So we are doing the 11 day cruise and then 5 days at WDW. I (37) and DH (39) are huge Disney fans and go as a family to WDW every other year (we try to go other places in the world in between, to balance things out!). We have a DD9 together and a DD16. I travel a fair amount for work, so visit other Disney properties when I can.
I work in R&D, in the minting industry. I have 3 engineers (one a PhD) and a couple of technicians working under me, so very smart people, much smarter than me...I'm the business side of the equation to make sure their hard work sees the light of day (and is profitable, of course). I love the work since everything we do is new and exciting and involves working with other companies and academics all over the world.
My husband works for the school board and we have a DD9 together. I was married before and my DD16's dad lives in Washington (he's American). My hubby now has pretty much raised her since she was 4 and she only sees her dad a couple times of year and he isn't, I'm afraid, that dependable.
2010 has been a really weird year for our family. For our family unit, it has been a great year - we moved into a brand new big house, work is awesome, kids are healthy, can't complain at all! But for the extended family it has been a tragic year.
Originally, we booked this cruise because the rest of our family was going to be away and we were the only ones left behind, so we figured we'd cruise instead. This Christmas was supposed to be my ex-husband's year with our DD16 and my mom and brother were booked to go to Australia for Christmas with his girlfriend who is an Aussie. My brother was also married before, and his ex-wife had primary custody of their DD10 - my nephew. It was also supposed to my nephew's year with his mom's family.
The sad part starts here....my brother's ex-wife (who lived in Toronto with my nephew) died tragically and completely unexpectedly this summer, leaving my brother a newly 'full-time' single parent, living in Montreal, which is two hours away from us family for support. Add to that, my nephew is Autistic, so not an easy situation doubly for him, my poor boy.
Well, this all resulted in my brother and his girlfriend breaking up (too stressful a situation for them both), and obviously the trip to Australia was cancelled. Then, my ex-husband, perpetually having problems with current wife (who unfortuantely my DD16 can't stand) ...they broke up, they got back together, broke up again and all this turmoil caused financial problems and I'm sad to say it looks like they are losing their house, so, you guessed it, my DD16 isn't going out west for Christmas afterall. She is actually happy about this, as she wants to go to Montreal and hang out with her 'fun' uncle, which also means her boyfriend can tag along (which I think is the real reason for her joy).
All that said, I feel terrible for everyone in our family. We're giving a lot of support (my brother and nephew are in town most weekends and we take care of my nephew a lot so my brother can get a break). I try to be positive with my DD16 about her dad but her rose-coloured glasses are starting to fade despite my best efforts.
Our cruise was already booked and paid for before this all came down, so we couldn't change plans. Once we thought we'd be the only ones left in town for Christmas, but now we are the only ones NOT going to be in town. We are so excited to go on this cruise (my DD9 doesn't know yet, it is a surprise), but, given the circumstances we feel
so bloody guilty.
I know that we can't change things so we are determined to enjoy ourselves and have fun. I can't stop obsessing about this cruise so we can 'leave it all behind', but it sure is tough not to feel like a lousy person for it....
Ok, sorry, enough blah blah from me. Leave it to say that I look forward to meeting you all - over the next glass of wine and having a GREAT time!!
