Lying about spending habits....

[cardaway]

I think cardaway was just pointing out that every purchase can be "seen" if you use the credit card or debit card. For ex: the credit card will say 10/15/05 - Ann Taylor - $75.00. Your spouse now knows that you spend a specific amount at a specific store.

My husband has never asked me how much anything costs. As long as the bills are being paid and money goes into the savings account, he doesn't seem to care if I spend $12 or $100 on a pair of jeans.

Exactly what I was saying. Even cash spending would be questioned would it not? Like, didn't we have $200 dear, where did it go?

We buy what we want, when we want, but we do have complete trust in each other not to charge more than we can completely pay off once the bill comes. We also have a pretty good idea what the other would like when it comes to buying things for the both of us.

 

[princess momma]

This is so hilarious!!! I was just thinking yesterday about how to break the news to my DH about how much Christmas really costs us. I used to just keep a little extra out of my paychecks and put it into my savings, but this year I've cut my hours at work and don't have anything to spare. We keep our money seperate and he pays for the credit cards.

It's not that he cares how much I spend, but he just has no clue how much things cost. My mother used to keep her shopping bags in the trunk of her car and bring things in slowly, and I think I'm following in her footsteps. I don't know why I do this. I think I feel guilty, especially if it's something for me. I guess this year I'm going to have to be honest, though.

 

[SpecialK]

I knew a girl who constantly lied about money, starting with the Waterford chandelier she bought on her honeymoon without her husband's knowledge. She went shopping a couple of times a week and would hide her purchases and then pull the "this old thing" routine when she finally wore something. Do I need to tell you they're divorced now?

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

If DH asks me point blank how much I paid for something I will tell him. But we both work full time and I handle all the money, so he really doesn't worry that much about it. He figures if I say we can pay for it, then we must be able to pay for it because I do all the bills each month!

He doesn't know I went to AAA and booked a trip for next year and put down a deposit, but if he asked I would tell him! The thing is, he won't know for another 12 days when he can take vacation in 2006. BUT the day they bid for vacation is the day my 180 day window opens for the week we are hoping to travel. I need to call for Dining at 6 AM that morning. He won't know what week he has off until later that day. So I would rather make all the ADRs and cancel them if we have to change weeks than risk not getting the ressies I want. He doesn't grasp the full importance of calling the absolute second your window opens, so telling him I booked a trip would serve no purpose. He knows I am booking as soon as we have the dates nailed down, he just doesn't know I am taking pre-emptive measures.

 

[Stitchfans]

I don't lie and keep it from DH. I figure if we are going to argue about the money the arguement will end sooner or later and then life will go back to normal. Until the next arguement.

 

[mommaU4]

I don't lie and keep it from DH. I figure if we are going to argue about the money the arguement will end sooner or later and then life will go back to normal. Until the next arguement.

See that's exactly how I feel! Sometimes I know coming home with something that DH will not be happy about it. NOT because it was extravagent or unnecessary but because he doesn't really get what things cost.
But I would still rather just discuss it and get it out in the open than hide it. And since I usually only buy things that are on sale/clearance he usually appreciates the effort I put forth to look for deals even if he thinks the stores prices are still high.